Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To NOT want people to inform me I’ve dropped something?

180 replies

chocolategift · 04/03/2025 16:37

I know - they’re being helpful.

But … today in the supermarket; toddler DD being whingey and difficult at the checkout. I dropped my phone out of my pocket as I was struggling with child, groceries and everything else. It’s right in front of me. But three people immediately shout over to me YOU’VE DROPPED YOUR PHONE. Meaning I felt obliged to pick it up immediately when actually I could have done with just leaving it for thirty seconds

I know I’ll get roasted for not being duly appreciative to my fellow citizens and I appreciate they mean to be helpful but seriously … I couldn’t have missed that I dropped it!

OP posts:
Sinkintotheswamp · 04/03/2025 17:02

Yabu. A dropped phone in a supermarket is either going to get trodden, rolled on or stolen. Just pick it up. Honestly.

Zov · 04/03/2025 16:58

WTAF? 😂 You are complaining because someone has informed you that you have dropped your phone? Are you taking the piss?! 😆They are being helpful and doing NOTHING wrong.

YABVU. Maybe you're over tired!

MarchingintoSpring · 04/03/2025 16:58

Living in a world where people are saying everyone is getting worse but when they try to step in and help they get a response like this.

You must have some steam to burn off if you’re this wound up about it that it warranted a ranting thread.

Tagyoureit · 04/03/2025 16:56

Fucking hell, get a bloody grip!

5128gap · 04/03/2025 16:55

Projection and displacement OP. You're stressed at shopping with a whinging toddler and annoyed it's caused you to drop things. These people have done nothing wrong.

Lurkingandlearning · 04/03/2025 16:55

Did you call the police?

LadeedahYadaYada · 04/03/2025 16:54

ouch - in the moment you were probably a tad on the stroppy side

Bonjovispyjamas · 04/03/2025 16:52

I'm sure you'd be quick to complain if someone picked it up and ran off with it.

imtherelala · 04/03/2025 16:50

helpfulperson · 04/03/2025 16:40

So you just say 'thanks, I'll get it in a minute'

Came to say the same thing know need for a thread about it.

Agentscullyandmulder · 04/03/2025 16:50

I dropped mine other day and a guy picked it up checked the screen, cleaned it and handed it back. No doubt thought clean your screen manky cow

Original poster
chocolategift · 04/03/2025 16:50

AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/03/2025 16:47

I sometimes get this when clearing tables at work, full trays of empty cups in both hands and sometimes a napkin might fly off to the floor, especially if it’s unused. I get cries of “you’ve dropped the paper!” And I have to just smile and nod because, really, how am I supposed to pick it up whilst I’ve still got my hands full!

It’s made me remember I used to have a rucksack with a small pouch where the zip had broken. I never used the pouch so the bag was still fine to use but I had to stop using it in the end because I was constantly being informed my bag was open.

Obviously I know people are trying to be helpful and I’m not an ‘arsehole’ and as such don’t get snappy.

I guess my feeling is more that the obvious does not need to be stated!

OP posts:
takealettermsjones · 04/03/2025 16:49

Haha, this reminds me of the bit in the Inbetweeners where they are struggling with a boat and the girl keeps going, "do you know you've set a flare off? Is that a fish?" and the lad shouts "yes it's a fucking fish, just give me a minute!!" 🤣

I know that you know that they're just being helpful 😉 But vent away! 🤣💐

XenoBitch · 04/03/2025 16:49

YABU, I bet you would to take to MN to moan if nobody had pointed it out either.

Ddakji · 04/03/2025 16:48

Yes, YABVU.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/03/2025 16:47

I sometimes get this when clearing tables at work, full trays of empty cups in both hands and sometimes a napkin might fly off to the floor, especially if it’s unused. I get cries of “you’ve dropped the paper!” And I have to just smile and nod because, really, how am I supposed to pick it up whilst I’ve still got my hands full!

MemorableTrenchcoat · 04/03/2025 16:47

My phone would cost the best part of a grand to replace if I dropped it without realising. I’d be eternally grateful to anyone who pointed out that I had done so.

EmpressaurusKitty · 04/03/2025 16:46

I think it’s reasonable for people to wait a minute & see if you seem about to walk off without it or if it’s in any danger of being nicked / trodden on.

I dropped a bank card without realising & was massively grateful when someone pointed it out.

Cushionseams · 04/03/2025 16:46

What absolute bastards.

BananaPalm · 04/03/2025 16:45

Ohshutupdavidyoutwat · 04/03/2025 16:44

Are you serious

Right?!

purpleme12 · 04/03/2025 16:45

Well ok fair enough that you felt like that but it's not worth making a thread about is it

You just shrug and move on

Ohshutupdavidyoutwat · 04/03/2025 16:44

Are you serious

KittenPause · 04/03/2025 16:43

Well maybe they won't next time and you'll just end up with no phone

NeverDropYourMooncup · 04/03/2025 16:43

You wouldn't have had a phone in a minute in a lot of supermarkets.

YABU

MissDoubleU · 04/03/2025 16:42

Agree with PP. “Just dealing with DC, will pick it up in a minute”

Problem solved.

HRTQueen · 04/03/2025 16:42

how terrible being being nice

whatever next

Swipe left for the next trending thread