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To NOT want people to inform me I’ve dropped something?

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chocolategift · 04/03/2025 16:37

I know - they’re being helpful.

But … today in the supermarket; toddler DD being whingey and difficult at the checkout. I dropped my phone out of my pocket as I was struggling with child, groceries and everything else. It’s right in front of me. But three people immediately shout over to me YOU’VE DROPPED YOUR PHONE. Meaning I felt obliged to pick it up immediately when actually I could have done with just leaving it for thirty seconds

I know I’ll get roasted for not being duly appreciative to my fellow citizens and I appreciate they mean to be helpful but seriously … I couldn’t have missed that I dropped it!

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TabloidFootprints · 05/03/2025 08:27

MarchingintoSpring · 04/03/2025 16:41

You’re being unreasonable but this is why I never step in and help anyone. There’s always an arsehole who gets snappy.

For all they know you didn’t have a clue you’d dropped anything.

I was walking behind someone in a tube station who dropped his cash card and didn’t notice, kept walking. I picked it up and said “Excuse me! You’ve dropped your card” . He had headphones on and didn’t hear, kept walking. I trotted along to keep up and said “Excuse me!”. Nothing. I put out my hand to tap him on the shoulder and he literally span round with his fists up. Git. Didn’t stop him taking the card back when he realised what I was trying to tell him.

ALovelyShadeofMauve · 05/03/2025 08:22

chocolategift · 04/03/2025 18:12

All right everyone got it now 👍🏻 Cunt of the highest order and I wish I was fucking dead and I hate myself so fucking much. Now leave me.

Are you always such a bloody drama queen? I honestly thought this thread had to be a wind-up, but I get the horrible feeling you’re serious.

People are NOT watching your every move. They don’t know you know you’ve dropped your phone; maybe it’s not “blindingly obvious” to them because it isn’t that important to anyone other than you. They could have saved you hundreds of pounds and loads of hassle, but are you grateful?? No - THEY should have known you had already seen it and saved you from the trauma of picking it up a few seconds earlier than planned. Un-bloody-believable.

I ran after someone once who’d dropped his wallet in the gutter. He’d obviously decided I was shouting because I wanted to hassle him or sell him something; he was so bloody dismissive. He at least had the decency to look sheepish when he realised I’d actually saved him a load of time and hassle - but by that point I was wishing I’d just kicked the bloody thing down a drain.

JadededViewer · 05/03/2025 01:22

i know the feeling @chocolategift

teksab · 05/03/2025 00:32

YABU, but- so am I. I feel the same. And if toddler has thrown something under the table at the cafe and I've picked it up a million bloody times and I get to the point where it can just darn well stay on the floor for a bit and a lovely person will come and pick it up and say 'oh she's dropped her..' prolonging the fun game

ErrolTheDragon · 05/03/2025 00:08

Gosh there's some bloody mean responses on this thread.

Sure, OP, as you said they doubtless meant meant well but a moment more to clock that you had your hands full and just pick it up out of harms way and wait without hassling you till you could take it, or maybe put it in your trolley would have been little effort and more genuinely helpful.

CarolinaWren · 04/03/2025 23:46

Sinkintotheswamp · 04/03/2025 17:02

Yabu. A dropped phone in a supermarket is either going to get trodden, rolled on or stolen. Just pick it up. Honestly.

This 100%. If I dropped my phone in a busy public place, I wouldn't just leave it on the ground while I puttered around with other things. Picking it up ASAP would be a high priority.

ThatMerryReader · 04/03/2025 22:14

An experience this traumatising will require dozens of counselling sessions. The local shrink is going to make a killing off you.

Gunnersforthecup · 04/03/2025 22:08

Well, you'd hate me! If I saw you struggling with shopping and a baby, I'd probably pick your phone up for you, were you to drop it.

I have been in that situation and been distracted enough that I might not have noticed dropping my phone.

TheDogsMother · 04/03/2025 21:21

Wow seriously ! Would you be happy if you dropped your phone, didn't realise and nobody mentioned it ?

Scrabbelator · 04/03/2025 21:00

Weird take on people trying to help you.

borntobequiet · 04/03/2025 20:56

chocolategift · 04/03/2025 16:50

It’s made me remember I used to have a rucksack with a small pouch where the zip had broken. I never used the pouch so the bag was still fine to use but I had to stop using it in the end because I was constantly being informed my bag was open.

Obviously I know people are trying to be helpful and I’m not an ‘arsehole’ and as such don’t get snappy.

I guess my feeling is more that the obvious does not need to be stated!

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You could have sewn the pouch shut and continued to use the bag.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 04/03/2025 20:54

Shmee1988 · 04/03/2025 20:44

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5286509-to-have-laughed-out-loud-at-this-retail-worker?page=19&reply=142623468

Hopefully that works. 😀

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Jeez that thread is mental 😂 why didn't the girl just let u read the box even if she couldn't physically hand it to you (but if it's an OTC med she can!) She could hold it so that u could read it 😂

Cherrysoup · 04/03/2025 20:50

Think I’d far rather someone told me even I knew. I’d hate to lose my phone, pretty ruddy difficult to live without it. Sad, I know, but our shared calendar’s on there, it’s my alarm clock, diary, so much more.

LostMyLanyard · 04/03/2025 20:46

KittenPause · 04/03/2025 18:01

I feel I never want to help ungrateful people again

This! Bloody hell...what is wrong with people?? I feel like we've entered some alternate universe some days!

OP...have a nap ffs and get a grip!

Dancingatthepinkponyclub · 04/03/2025 20:46

How are they supposed to know that you are aware you’ve dropped it?

This is such a weird thread.

schoolsoutforever · 04/03/2025 20:45

Actually I completely get what your're talking about OP. It may well be that I'm a misanthrope but when I was often struggling with little children, people always wanted to say something but never actually help. I know, everybody's going to think me an ungrateful dick too. But I sometimes think people want to get involved for their own sake. Let's face it, you know if you've dropped your phone most of the time. If people are genuinely helpful - lovely - if they just want to insert themselves for some reason it's annoying.

DiscoBeat · 04/03/2025 20:43

I dropped my gold watch in M&S and didn't realise. I just didn't hear it or feel it drop. If it wasn't for the kind person behind me I'd have lost it forever. So please don't Put people off pointing it out. Most people are grateful.

notprincehamlet · 04/03/2025 20:39

They're being helpful.
The bastards

purpleme12 · 04/03/2025 20:37

True 🤣

JudgeJ · 04/03/2025 20:37

purpleme12 · 04/03/2025 16:45

Well ok fair enough that you felt like that but it's not worth making a thread about is it

You just shrug and move on

I think many people on this site go through life looking for the slightest thing about which to take offence, it must be exhausting!

Papadonut · 04/03/2025 20:29

Threecraws · 04/03/2025 20:23

The people in the shops wanted to be helpful but the people on here just wanted to stamp on someone who's had a rough day.

I don't think this is an isolated rough day for OP. She sounds ungrateful and frankly unlikeable.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 04/03/2025 20:25

Shmee1988 · 04/03/2025 19:57

Seriously, take a look at my thread from yesterday. It'll cheer you up, I promise 😀 I voted YANBU out of pure solidarity even though you are a teeny bit but you know that and I get it.

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Can u link it please I'm curious now x

Threecraws · 04/03/2025 20:23

The people in the shops wanted to be helpful but the people on here just wanted to stamp on someone who's had a rough day.

Solypim · 04/03/2025 20:19

chocolategift · 04/03/2025 19:59

OP - I know I’m being a bit unreasonable, but I still feel this way, even though I was polite.

MN - YABU you rude bitch.

OP - actually, I was polite … Hmm

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And yet more drama llama behaviour

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