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To give children pancakes for breakfast?

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goodgodthereyouare · 04/03/2025 14:09

DC including step children had pancakes for breakfast.

Their mum who doesn’t usually have them weekdays had planned in advance to pick them up and have them until after dinner.

She is now arguing that they shouldn’t have had pancakes and sugar before school and pissed off that they’ve already had them which apparently means there’s no point in her having them after school now.

My DC will be having having pancakes again this evening.

Was it unreasonable to give SC pancakes for breakfast?

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MsSquiz · 04/03/2025 15:47

@goodgodthereyouare did I read your update correctly?

Because the kids had pancakes for breakfast, she isn't having them after school?

Wow. There are no words for some people

ErrolTheDragon · 04/03/2025 15:46

Her loss, missing the fun of pancake day with her kids. What weird attitude.

Of course YANBU, OP.

Moonlightdust · 04/03/2025 15:39

Nah. It’s pancakes for breakfast and dinner in my house! Fgs how is one day going to affect them? Actually homemade pancakes are a good source of protein and can be eaten with a wide range of savoury foods or fruit!

steff13 · 04/03/2025 15:37

You gave them pancakes for breakfast and now they're probably not going to get into a top university! For shame!

Seriously, what would happen if they had pancakes twice in one day? I'd ignore her.

thatmistylight · 04/03/2025 15:33

It’s pancake day ffs! I had pancakes for breakfast and tea as a kid, it did me no harm

CaptainMyCaptain · 04/03/2025 15:31

YANBU you can't have too many pancakes. I had pancakes for breakfast this morning. I made the batter last night and it doesn't take long to fry them.

tallhotpinkflamingo · 04/03/2025 15:29

rosemarble · 04/03/2025 15:08

Make a large batch of batter, use all week.

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can also use the rest for toad in the hole or yorkies

we always have pancakes for breakfast on Christmas Day and the rest of the mix gets turned into yorkies

HelmholtzWatson · 04/03/2025 15:24

Pancakes are a breakfast/brunch food in our house. YANBU.

stargirl1701 · 04/03/2025 15:20

Pancakes are literally breakfast food. There is no sugar in pancakes just the toppings.

Catza · 04/03/2025 15:15

Wait till she finds out people can have pancakes on other days of the year too!
Ultimately, she is in charge of her own emotions. I wouldn't be able to find it in me to give it any thought, let alone question whether I am the unreasonable one.
"You think there is no point in them coming to you after school. No problem, we'll pick them up then. Bye".

rosemarble · 04/03/2025 15:14

It's days like today when I realise that my Mother was more Catholic than I thought!
We would only have pancakes once a year, just with sugar and lemon. We did mark Shrove Tuesday, and she would have been a bit put out if we'd already had pancakes that day.

It took me a long time to break out of this (I am not religious).
I do still only ever have hot cross buns on Good Friday though. It's quite nice to have what I suppose are traditions now rather than a marking of religious festivals.

rosemarble · 04/03/2025 15:08

KarmenPQZ · 04/03/2025 14:18

It amazes me how people have so much energy to make pancakes for breakfast before school / work!!! we barely have enough time for a quick bowl of crappy cereal. Massive kudos to OP.

plus I love the idea of Pancake Day now meaning pancakes for every meal of the day. Brilliant!!!!

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Make a large batch of batter, use all week.

Japaneseflower · 04/03/2025 14:53

MidnightPatrol · 04/03/2025 14:11

YANBU

It amazes me how people have so much energy for being uptight about finding joy in life.

Agreed! So they have pancakes twice! I'm sure the kids don't mind😆

WiddlinDiddlin · 04/03/2025 14:48

I've had pancakes for breakfast, and I will absolutely have pancakes again for tea! I'd have them for lunch too but we haven't really got enough eggs/milk and if I don't have a protein shake my digestion will go on strike (it is verrrrrrrrrry dodgy, but no way am I not having pancakes on pancake day!!).

She's being a dick, for the sake of being a dick. Ignore her. And if youv'e got them for tea, give them pancakes again!

Hadjab · 04/03/2025 14:46

It's Pancake Day.

All pancakes, all day

Sharktoothgirl · 04/03/2025 14:44

Assuming she didn’t tell you in advance she was planning on making pancakes with them for tea and was excited about it, then you haven’t done anything unreasonable. If you did know, it’s a tiny bit unreasonable but not something someone feeling secure would worry about, particularly since they were just premade pancakes you shoved in the microwave as a nod to shrove Tuesday! It’s not really about the pancakes. She feels like you ruined her fun plan for her children. She perhaps feels replaced or disrespected. But her reaction is beyond unreasonable and is totally counterproductive to her maintaining/ building a positive relationship with her kids. Hopefully the kids aren’t too upset.

roseymoira · 04/03/2025 14:43

She isn't annoyed about sugar before school, she's bothered because she planned pancakes for after school and feels her treat is ruined.

Why she thinks kids won't enjoy double pancakes today is beyond me

Hankunamatata · 04/03/2025 14:39

Is she the type who has no chocolate or biscuits in the house?

Hdjdb42 · 04/03/2025 14:38

Sounds like she thought you'd ruined their "pancake" time later?! How odd. Personally I would have thanked you for it, and made more later! Kids never say no to pancakes in this house!

Hankunamatata · 04/03/2025 14:38

Mine often have pancakes for breakfast. We buy Scottish style ones from Tesco so you can chuck them in toaster. Bit of honey and some fruit makes easy quick breakfast

ShortColdandGrey · 04/03/2025 14:35

It is shrove Tuesday the day you have pancakes for breakfast(if you are organised enough in the morning) dinner, and tea if you are lucky 😋Tell her to unclench.

876543A · 04/03/2025 14:33

Most mornings are pancake day in our house, its one of the few things my DD will eat in the morning! Embrace it. They have eggs in. Protein - all good!

Stepfordian · 04/03/2025 14:32

We had scotch pancakes for breakfast and we’ll have crepes after dinner, for variety! She sounds a bit bonkers tbh.

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 04/03/2025 14:32

How did she even know what they had for breakfast if you dropped them off at school? Surely she's not messaging them to ask?

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goodgodthereyouare · 04/03/2025 14:29

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 04/03/2025 14:22

oh good god I couldn't be arsed to even get into an argument about this.

Oh we won’t!
Just said I’m sure they will have made room for more pancakes
Unfortunately looks like we're picking them up now though

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