Husband keeps calling me Big Hard Deirdre Chilly in a negative and antagonising way. Says I'm heartless and uses this as an insult but I'm totally confused by it.
I'm not violent, I'm not big, I'm smaller than him, I don't box or fight. I'm a mum who works from home and hates confrontation.
He had a go at me this morning, big busy up as I asked when he would be cleaning his mess in the kitchen. Turned into an emotional outburst on his part, shouting and screaming at me that I gaslight him (we had this conversation last week as he has had a habit of gaslighting me for years) but wouldn't give any detail when asked - I asked for detail when he wasn't busy as he's working from home. He jumped off the chair with his laptop in the air as if to lunge at me, I was very close to him as it was he made it clear he was angry and was coming for me but I didn't move as I'm not intimidated by him.
Does this make me big hard deirdrechilly??
I was in an abusive relationship before I met him and I refused to be scared or intimidated by that boyfriend. I would never dream of crying or jumping back in fear but what my husband just done would send most of my friends running crying, is that what I was supposed to do?
Have I brought this on because im not doing as he demands?