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To put a note through my neighbours door?

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mooooose · 03/03/2025 23:52

My neighbours smoke weed and always have done. In the summer it smelt worse because of the heat and they'd smoke it in the garden all day. Didn't say anything just thought they can do what they like. But in the past few months I've started to smell it inside, like really strongly. Don't know if they're growing it or smoking indoors or whatever. But the smell is drifting into my back bedroom where my daughter sleeps. I'm absolutely pissed off.

They aren't approachable, we've lived here for years and have always tried to get on with them and be pleasant but Never had a single smile or hello from them. They just ignore us which is fine but obviously makes it very awkward to approach things like this.

When we brought our first baby home he put a note through our door telling us that our baby crying was too loud and that he couldn't sleep. DD slept full nights from the age of 4 weeks and honestly didn't cry in the night.. I ignored it as didn't want an argument but I knew from this moment he was quite an unreasonable man.

Anyway, would It be unreasonable for me to post a note through their door asking them to stop smoking weed in the house? I don't even know if he'll listen. Is there anything else I can do. The smell is knocking me sick and I feel so bad and worried that DD has to sleep in it.

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LaineyCee · 04/03/2025 00:25

The police are pretty hot on cannabis farming, not just because it’s a silly issue, but also due to the risk of fire or explosions from the illegal hook-ups to power them.

(The hope would be that a police search, even if your neighbours aren’t growing would lead them to curtail their consumption.)

And if they are renting, using the place for illegal activities will be a breach of their lease. Their landlord/lady might care enough to do something/have already been looking for a pretext to evict them.

Ebeneser · 04/03/2025 00:17

suburberphobe · 04/03/2025 00:14

I smoke weed, just at home, doesn't get anywhere in my neighbours flats.
Never had a complaint.

But then I don't live in UK where they smoke skunk, even smelling it in a bag made me almost fall over backwards. Disgusting stuff.

Sorry you are going through that OP.

Just because you haven't had a complaint doesnt mean the neighbours can't smell it. I've smelt my neighbours weed plently of times but not complained even though it winds me up, especially when I can't open the windows.

suburberphobe · 04/03/2025 00:14

I smoke weed, just at home, doesn't get anywhere in my neighbours flats.
Never had a complaint.

But then I don't live in UK where they smoke skunk, even smelling it in a bag made me almost fall over backwards. Disgusting stuff.

Sorry you are going through that OP.

mooooose · 04/03/2025 00:04

@Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou That's not a bad idea actually. She's rather quiet, doesn't say much. I don't know if she'd be any better but she doesn't seem mouthy or anything. Maybe I'll try that.

Just so awkward. Who the hell chooses to smoke weed in the house- baffles me 🤢

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Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 04/03/2025 00:01

mooooose · 04/03/2025 00:00

They are arseholes tbh 😭 I don't think he police will be interested. Feel like just sending DH round but just know the neighbour will start an argument. So unfair. It smells fucking awful

Thats why i said you go and speak to the woman. Keeps the men out of it and all that macho bullshit.

mooooose · 04/03/2025 00:00

They are arseholes tbh 😭 I don't think he police will be interested. Feel like just sending DH round but just know the neighbour will start an argument. So unfair. It smells fucking awful

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LaineyCee · 04/03/2025 00:00

I’d make an anonymous report to the police saying you think there’s a cannabis farm in the property. Don’t put a note through the door beforehand or they’ll suspect it’s you. Are they renting? If so, you can also complain to their landlord.

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 03/03/2025 23:59

No note. Face to face conversation. Wait till he's out then go see the wife and talk to her.

ShamrockShenanigans · 03/03/2025 23:57

Not unreasonable, just totally pointless as it doesn't sound as though it'd make any difference.

And obviously the police wouldn't be interested unless of course you can prove in some way they're growing it, but that's a different smell and wouldn't just affect one room of your house.

I feel for you OP, it smells like fox piss to me 😭🤢

Thedogscollar · 03/03/2025 23:55

I'd be calling the police. They sound like utter arseholes.
Your baby is breathing in that shit.

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