DH annoyed at new neighbour ‘kiss’

These outbursts of jealousy usually make people accused of inappropriate behavours feel bad, like you mentioned walking on eggshells. If it is any comfort know that it is not about you. He holds some very deep wounds and he is not dealing with that. Jealousy is about internal conflicts, control etc. If he is ever open to talk about his behaviour you might suggest some form of therapy that would be helpful for him to resolve this. his life woukd be so much lighter. I feel sad you are living through this though, it is such a toxic environment that erodes in time your self esteem, confidence, dignity. No one should live like this. If I were you, if the relationship had a good base otherwise (that is for you to decide with open eyes and clear head) I would say to him that the only way I could continue with the relationship would be if he took steps to address his behaviour explaining what a dreadful impact it can have. Everyone deserves to feel safe, light, joyful in their home with their partner in this short life. Stand up for yourself. sending you much love and kisses on both cheeks :-)

🙄 You clearly don't understand the concept of consent if you think it's fine to kiss someone on both cheeks without knowing in advance they're OK with it - that's literally the requirement of consent.
OP's neighbour and her DH are both problems. The neighbour kissed her without her consent (the fact that she wasn't unduly bothered by it is irrelevant since the neighbour wouldn't have known how she felt about it when he did it) and her DH shouldn't be blaming her for something that was done to her rather than anything she did.

🙄back at you. I fully understand consent. That is not the OP's issue. It is her husband's reaction to the greeting, and the fact that it is not a one off. She was not bothered by the kiss, she was bothered by her husband calling her disrespectful and sulking afterwards. He clearly doesn't trust her and has decided she has behaved inappropriately and is punishing her for his insecurities.

Whether you or I, or anyone else, is uncomfortable with cheek kiss greetings is utterly irrelevant.

Someone else who doesn't understand the meaning of consent. 🙄

I know OP is OK with cheek kissing!
I only observed in my original reply that I wouldn't have been!
I also said that her DH's reaction is out of order and agreed with the poster who pointed out that " silent treatment " is abusive behaviour.

but OP isn't complaining about it.

Her ridiculous DH is complaining that another man dared to give his partner a perfectly normal greeting that she didn't mind about.

OP, get out as soon as you can and find someone much less juvenile.

I would point out that he is punishing you for someone else's behaviour.

I have no idea what he expected you to do in that unexpected and unplanned for situation. Kicking off at a new neighbour isn't exactly a good start.

Except that is not what happened. In the case you refer to, he kissed her on the lips, not the cheeks. He also didn't just 'peck'. He had his hands either side of her face and pulled her to him, and held the kiss. It is a very different thing to a continental style greeting.

The neighbour is not the problem here.

That is one nasty abusive man you are married to.
Don't have children with him.
Get away from him.
Start planning.

Please tell me you are being ironic @CosyLemur

I know she is fine with it.
As I said in my first post on this thread he is being out of order with his reaction.

The OP is fine with this greeting though. It's her partner who is being ridiculous about it.

Right out of the abusive controlling play book.

He's super lovely most of the time - but I bet on examination, he isn't super lovely, he is just the normal lovely everyone ought to be. It just FEELS lovely because he makes a performance of it, and in contrast to when he is awful... it feels very nice and a huge relief.

He is only like this IF you toe the line and are very careful not to upset him.

If you do upset him, and what might upset him will almost always be out of your control - like a neighbours greeting, bumping into a man on a dog walk and saying hi - he is a total cunt, and then gives you the silent treatment for hours or days on end.

When he eventually decides you've been punished enough he reframes the whole incident as an argument that you were equally at fault for, or even entirely at fault for and the resolution was always within your control.

Get out. This won't get better.

I agree strangers shouldn’t be touching, kissing you etc. I’d find it very creepy.

A neighbour did this to me and I stupidly let him as it was a first introduction in a new neighbourhood.

Next time I met him he did it again and also slipped his hand up my sleeve in a caress motion.

Thats when I pushed him off and told him not to do that again. He laughed it off. I didn’t.

I think some men do this for the power and then push it a little bit further each time.

Do you struggle with reading and comprehension?
OP posted: "and he introduced himself and kissed me on both cheeks…."
OP didn't kiss this man - HE kissed her - without her consent! The same behaviour that the Spanish professional footballer, Jenni Hermoso, was on the receiving end of by Luis Rubiales, for which he's lost his job and following a trial for sexual assault where he was found guilty, he has had to pay a 10,800 euro fine.
What is it about women like you who will blame the victim of sexual assault for what happened to her, instead of the perpetrator? Reprehensible attitude.

Nobody here would get jealous over such a thing! But I personally would have been unpleasantly surprised if a neighbour (or anybody) did that to me.

OP you say this happened with two separate men?

@IhadaStripeyDeckchair You've intentionally pretended you misunderstood the OP just so that you can have a dig at her 🙄

You might want to read the OP, SHE didn't kiss them

Your dh is a twat. Kissing on the cheek is quite common in Europe even to people you have just met. I know in the Netherlands when I was introduced to my friend's friends/neighbours/staff in her local coffee shop they all cheeked kissed me.

I think it's wierd that a total stranger comes along & you kiss them WTF? That's behaviour for family or long standing close friends not some random.

But I also think your partners reaction is excessive.

He’s a twat. Give him a bloody good talking to. If he doesn’t stop this ridiculous behaviour and apologise quick sharp, he can pack his bags.

Why do so many women tolerate this sort of tyrannical behaviour?

DH doesn’t sound the full ticket.

Because he has conditioned you. You need to leave him and live your life, not his version of your life.

The silent sulking and you feeling so nervous about his reaction is a terrible way to live.