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Fallen out with DP over comment made at Sunday lunch

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PopkinsBear · 03/03/2025 20:29

Opinions welcome as DP is adamant I am over-reacting. We went for a roast yesterday with a group of other couples (my friends and their OH’s). I have been going to the gym regularly since January and my friends complimented me on some changes in my figure. DP announced ‘the only problem is that with all the protein shakes, her farts take the paint off the walls’. Hardly anyone reacted and it went really awkward.

We had an argument about this when we arrived home and DP maintains I should lighten up. I feel like he embarrassed me for no reason and should apologise.

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TomatoSandwiches · 03/03/2025 20:33

Who says that? At best he completely misread the room and is socialy inept and at worst he deliberately tried to embarrass you and downplay your success.

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PopkinsBear · 03/03/2025 20:32

Quinlan · 03/03/2025 20:31

That was just nasty and not funny. Does he often try to bring you down when others compliment you? Has he complicated you at all on the fitter figure you have?
It just isn’t a very nice thing to say and isn’t funny; it was purely to embarrass you. That’s what would annoy me. That he simply wanted to embarrass you after someone paid you a compliment. It’s like a childish style of jealousy.

He is a bit fed up with how strict I’ve been with food - but I’m going all in and trying to stick with the routine for as long as possible.

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ArabellaWeird · 03/03/2025 20:32

He was taking you down a peg.

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PopkinsBear · 03/03/2025 20:32

He knows the friends to differing levels - a couple of them we see once a month, whilst some it’s more twice a year we ever get together.

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Quinlan · 03/03/2025 20:31

That was just nasty and not funny. Does he often try to bring you down when others compliment you? Has he complicated you at all on the fitter figure you have?
It just isn’t a very nice thing to say and isn’t funny; it was purely to embarrass you. That’s what would annoy me. That he simply wanted to embarrass you after someone paid you a compliment. It’s like a childish style of jealousy.

UndermyShoeJoe · 03/03/2025 20:31

And are these friends you would normally be able to have a laugh with?

I think that’s the clincher here. Did he share a joke with a group where this wouldn’t be pearly clutching if it was about anyone but you?

ohyesido · 03/03/2025 20:30

That's very crass and reflects badly on him.

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