Fallen out with DP over comment made at Sunday lunch

Absolutely this. Making sure you don't get 'above yourself' or feel proud of yourself. He's shown himself up as being insecure and not someone who is happy for you. I'm sure your friends were disgusted and no doubt talked about this afterwards. Don't marry him whatever you do!!

Just the type of thing my DH would say BUT, I would fire back something like "he was a fine one to talk" and it would have been funny. Farting is a completely natural thing. If we didn't fart, we would explode 😂😂😂 Think you need to lighten up! Either that or stop farting around your DH!

So he finds farting hilarious and you're quite open about it between yourselves. Unless this is part of a pattern, I expect he made the comment without much thought expecting laughter including from you. You were mortified and the others were quiet. Total swing and a miss as I say. He is probably embarrassed and in high dudgeon knowing he looked crass, your friends aren't as close as he perhaps thought. But, he needs to apologise. He's currently face saving.

Unless there's more to it, I don't know that he's trying to bring you down etc but he does need to apologise. He I think he misjudged the whole situation and you were the one left feeling humiliated. That deserves an apology. I'd drop it for a day or so, let the temperature lower, then let him know it isn't resolved, you want an apology. It was ill judged and embarrassing for you and he should care about how he makes you feel.

Tbf I couldn’t cope with that either.
That’s private too.

Surely he knows his own partner and he would know this would humiliate her .

That’s what I was wondering

@PopkinsBear wow nobody I know would have done that to me .
If d have got up and left and tbh this is one thingsI’d struggle to move on from
How could you .
He deliberately embarrassed you .
He is jealous and insecure.
Not married I really would end this .

I’d be mortified, but my husband would never say such a thing. And I’ve never once farted in front of him.

But the OP clearly does fart in front of her partner, so I guess he thinks it’s funny or OK to mention?

I’m sure we are like other girls. We can’t be the only 2 girls in existence that think alike or the only 2 girls in existence to have brothers.

It seems to be common sense, but maybe not. Women are not a monolith, we are individual humans with a diversity of opinions, interests, goals and outlooks on life, relationships and humour. Saying a woman “is not like other girls” in a derisory fashion is a subtle pressure tactic used to enforce gender conformity within women.

Edit:
And saying ‘what are you 12yrs old?’ Is more of the same pressuring by calling another woman’s opinion childish.

Posting derisory comments about the person is a great strategy to win enemies and lose friends.

If you are secure in your opinion, you should not feel the need to attack posters who have a different opinion. Perhaps today’s affirmation for you should be “I am good enough, my opinion is good enough, and I will not feel threatened by opinions that are not like mine”

The only thing he should’ve said was “yes, she looks awesome” or something similar. I agree with PP he was putting you down. Sorry 😔

This

@SummerFeverVenice
@Wishingplenty

ah you’re not like other girls

@Ratisshortforratthew

are you 12 years old?
generally no one above that age finds jokes and talking about farts funny

Same here, I have three brothers.

Exactly.

He is rude, embarrassed her and when challenged doubles down and insults her further.

He's no prize.
He has just show her exactly what her future would be like with him.

I would have been mildly irritated at this. It wouldn’t cause an argument in the car or posting on MN.

You need to mentally unclench on this issue (we already know your anus is a methane factory)

If you’re willing to admit on mumsnet to a world of strangers that your farts are 🤢, then you should be alright with close friends knowing that protein shakes make you extra farty. I’m am 100% sure everyone at that dinner has heard and smelt a fart from you, they know you fart. Everyone farts.

And perhaps instead of knee jerk outrage, listen to your DH and reconsider the protein shakes? It can be bloody annoying living with a partner that deliberately keeps eating something unnecessary that gasses up the house with sulphuric odours- so unattractive. You don’t have to have protein shakes to reach your fitness goals.

Are you usually an all or nothing person? Ever thought being good enough? Alot less stress on you and everyone around you.

I mean, it wasn't the most intelligent thing to say and I might have asked him later on why he felt the need to share that but other than that, I really couldn't get worked up about it.
Maybe he's fed up with you being prudish and a bore. Who knows?!

I think I’d find it funny but that’s just me.

@thepariscrimefiles yes it seems that DP didn't read the room correctly and now he should apologise.

Eh, this wouldn't bother me, but that doesn't mean you're being uptight either.

Oh I do love the assumptions on here. I say stuff like that to my partner frequently and around friends. He does all the cooking and most of the housework and I often refer to him as a pinny-wearing cuck. It’s a joke, it’s our humour. Are his standards low too?

He may have thought that his remark was funny but once he knew that you felt a bit humiliated and embarassed, he should have apologised rather than doubling down. He doesn't sound great tbh.

Non event in my world. Do you have brothers? I find that women that have not grown up with any brothers are more sensitive to toilet humour, if this was me I would barely notice it being said.

All of my friends and their partners, without exception, would have laughed at that!! And i would have too, and i would most definitely have got a little joke in, in response too.

you're DH is my kind of people!