This isn't just an unwanted person but someone who is also a risk to more than 1 family member of the deceased person. Unwanted person is not a family member.
For context, This person is my ex. I have had nothing (comsentually) to do with him in over 2 years. We have no familial ties like DC and i also have a non mol against him which is due to expire on 12th March. I posted last week about an incident in which he approached and became aggressive with another few of my family members, which resulted in my 10yo DB getting really scared and upset. My DGM died late last week. DGD has been in the pub all day dealing with his grief but has come in quite upset that ex has badgered him for most of that, begging him to be allowed to attend the funeral/wake. My DGD said no and asked him to leave him alone. He persisted until my grandad left. Annoyingly he/we isn't even allowed to grieve his own wife's death without ex making people uncomfortable and it all about him.
We are now worried that ex will just turn up and impose himself on us at an extremely raw time for my family. The location is being kept to family only and the places who need to cater to us but clearly nothing says secret in this town. I'm also now considering not attending because i cant really deal with this, grief and also have DC in tow.
WWYD. How can we make sure he doesn't ruin this without having to not have a wake/funeral all together?