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A&E or wait for GP – 16mo poorly

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vitjab1988 · 03/03/2025 18:43

Hi all,

Looking for some quick advice – not sure if I should take DS (16mo) to A&E tonight or wait for the GP tomorrow. He’s had a high temp (39.5°C) since this afternoon, calpol brought it down a bit but it’s creeping back up. He’s also very clingy and not himself, whimpering a lot. No rash, breathing seems OK, but he’s refusing fluids and only had a couple of wet nappies today.

Would you wait it out or go in? I don’t want to overreact but also don’t want to leave it too long if he needs help.

TIA x

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mintjim · 04/03/2025 14:00

vitjab1988 · 04/03/2025 09:42

Ended up taking him to A&E last night as he was getting worse and still refusing fluids. They checked him over and said it’s a nasty viral infection but thankfully nothing more serious. His temp was still high, but they managed to get some fluids in him and we were sent home with advice to keep pushing fluids and alternating calpol/nurofen.

He’s still not himself this morning – very clingy and not eating much – but at least he’s had a few sips of water. Hoping today is the turning point. Thanks so much for all the advice and reassurance last night, it really helped!

You did the right thing. Hope he's feeling better very soon. Always trust that feeling above anything else.

steff13 · 04/03/2025 13:55

mintjim · 03/03/2025 23:12

Mum has said she feels she should take him. On that alone, she should take him. These threads are SO dangerous. Non medical professionals giving conflicting advice. One day a thread like this will kill someone, I personally think mn should ban them.

I agree with this. I'm in the US, and if this were my child I could call the doctor and she'd be able to get us in the same day. I've done it many times. But my understanding is that it's sometimes a struggle to get an appointment there. I would take him wherever you could get him seen.

AmyW9 · 04/03/2025 11:54

vitjab1988 · 04/03/2025 09:42

Ended up taking him to A&E last night as he was getting worse and still refusing fluids. They checked him over and said it’s a nasty viral infection but thankfully nothing more serious. His temp was still high, but they managed to get some fluids in him and we were sent home with advice to keep pushing fluids and alternating calpol/nurofen.

He’s still not himself this morning – very clingy and not eating much – but at least he’s had a few sips of water. Hoping today is the turning point. Thanks so much for all the advice and reassurance last night, it really helped!

You did the right thing! And don't hesitate to go back if you feel he's not getting any better.

Oldrunner · 04/03/2025 09:58

vitjab1988 · 04/03/2025 09:42

Ended up taking him to A&E last night as he was getting worse and still refusing fluids. They checked him over and said it’s a nasty viral infection but thankfully nothing more serious. His temp was still high, but they managed to get some fluids in him and we were sent home with advice to keep pushing fluids and alternating calpol/nurofen.

He’s still not himself this morning – very clingy and not eating much – but at least he’s had a few sips of water. Hoping today is the turning point. Thanks so much for all the advice and reassurance last night, it really helped!

Glad you got him checked over by medical professionals. With the history you gave its impossible to completely assess the condition of the child- could pick up quickly , could deteriorate just as quickly. Medical professionals will want to see your child in order to do a proper assessment and plan appropriate treatment.
If anything changes and you feel he's deteriorating again ease don't hesitate to get him seen by a medical professional again.

DollydaydreamTheThird · 04/03/2025 09:46

vitjab1988 · 04/03/2025 09:42

Ended up taking him to A&E last night as he was getting worse and still refusing fluids. They checked him over and said it’s a nasty viral infection but thankfully nothing more serious. His temp was still high, but they managed to get some fluids in him and we were sent home with advice to keep pushing fluids and alternating calpol/nurofen.

He’s still not himself this morning – very clingy and not eating much – but at least he’s had a few sips of water. Hoping today is the turning point. Thanks so much for all the advice and reassurance last night, it really helped!

Hope your LO gets better soon. ❤

vitjab1988 · 04/03/2025 09:42

Ended up taking him to A&E last night as he was getting worse and still refusing fluids. They checked him over and said it’s a nasty viral infection but thankfully nothing more serious. His temp was still high, but they managed to get some fluids in him and we were sent home with advice to keep pushing fluids and alternating calpol/nurofen.

He’s still not himself this morning – very clingy and not eating much – but at least he’s had a few sips of water. Hoping today is the turning point. Thanks so much for all the advice and reassurance last night, it really helped!

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SleepyRich · 04/03/2025 03:35

I presume you've gone into a&e. However if you're still waiting for 111 - essentially with under 2 especially if you think fluid intake has dropped below half of what it normally is then they're going to tell you to goto a&e (and you certainly should if you can't keep it above 50%). If you say his urine out put dropped - a&e. If you say he's just curled up whimpering - they'll send an ambulance.

111 are often reported to say "we'll send an ambulance to check him over" - this is a mistruth - the huge majority of ambulance paramedics receive no minor illness training/arent allowed to discharge an under 2 - even if they arrive to find picture of health child running and playing/all better now - they have to take you to a&e because you accepted ambulance disposition. I.e. just save the 2hr wait for an ambulance and take him to a&e yourself.

Generally though as a few others have said fever alone isn't a significant concern, actually given drugs to bring it down can actually worsen the infection - but it's worth doing if they're in pain - i.e they've got a painful throat meaning they're grumpy about having a drink, having regular pain killers should help them drink more normally which will support them whilst body fights the infection off.

PoopingAllTheWay · 04/03/2025 01:15

Really hope you have taken your baby to A&E

Mumtobabyhavoc · 04/03/2025 00:56

vitjab1988 · 03/03/2025 21:18

Still no call back from 111, which is frustrating. Been syringing fluids in as suggested, and he’s had a tiny bit, but still really lethargic and burning up. Temp hasn’t budged much even with nurofen. He’s just lying on me, whimpering, which isn’t like him at all. Really torn – don’t want to overreact but also don’t want to wait too long if he needs help.

Has anyone had to wait this long for 111 before? Not sure whether to just head to A&E now.

Go to hospital.

NestaArcheron · 04/03/2025 00:38

mintjim · 03/03/2025 23:12

Mum has said she feels she should take him. On that alone, she should take him. These threads are SO dangerous. Non medical professionals giving conflicting advice. One day a thread like this will kill someone, I personally think mn should ban them.

💯 agree.

ittakes2 · 04/03/2025 00:06

My son had about 40 x 40 plus temps as a young child. My general rule of thumb was if both calpol and nurifen could not being temp down he has an infection - usually ear and needed antibiotics

Ladamesansmerci · 03/03/2025 23:58

With refusing fluids alongside a high temperature and his age, 111 will send you to A&E. No one will see you as wasting time. You're his mum and you have an instinct something is wrong.

My baby at 7 months had a temperature and drowsiness. I knew something was off, and it turned out she had two types of flu. They told me to bring her right back if she had a fever that wouldn't come down or if she was refusing feeds.

Henrihetta · 03/03/2025 23:44

@vitjab1988 have you tried giving your DS syringes of water, I have been to a&e with my DS with a high fever previously and this is what they got us to do every 10 minutes to get his fluids back up.

BabyFever246 · 03/03/2025 23:41

There have been times when my baby has had a 39.5 degree fever and I've been fine managing at home. It's high, staying quite high, but I can tell baby is OK. There was once it was 39.5 and I just knew it wasn't right and I was worried. The difference is incredibly hard to describe to anyone else. A feeling in my gut based on how baby was. I went in, no one thought I'd wasted their time. In fact there were multiple other babies and toddlers with identical symptoms in A&E and I recognised 2 of them from a playgroup the week before. Mine got worse while there, with the really cold hands and feet and mottled limb rash due to the fever.

My child needed checking over by a medical professional. It was an emergency. That's what A&E is for.

MessyNeate · 03/03/2025 23:39

Hope you're on your way in!

Always better to be safe!

Spin4Gin · 03/03/2025 23:34

It's always so hard when your baby is poorly. I've found 111 the best option. They get back to you quickly when it's a kiddie, they give great advice and if they think you need to go in, they can get you fast tracked. When my kid had gastro, they gave great advice. They said as long as there was a wet nappy in the last 12 hours and that keeps being the case then that's good. They suggested apple juice mixed with water, using a call syringe to get fluids into them. Just 5-10mls every 15 mins or so. And just keep an eye on nappies being wet. Use call. And if anything changes then you call them straight back and they will help you out. They were so understanding and had lots of tips and what to look out for. It only takes 5 mins to get that first call in and start waiting for a call back so definitely use the service and get some advice x

PoopingAllTheWay · 03/03/2025 23:32

A whimpering baby with a temperature that isnt going down with meds
Both warrant A&E
Go now

Trust your instincts

Do not give cool Baths or put a fan on a baby / child with a temperature. You will send his body into shock

Zanina · 03/03/2025 23:30

Sounds like tonsillitis. Please take baby to A&E if you haven't heard back from 111. For that age 111 should send a paramedic to your house to check baby and triage you over the phone . When it's your first you may feel like you're wasting precious NHS time but please go against that feeling. It's always better to have a child checked over than something serious being missed.

BeCyanSloth · 03/03/2025 23:28

He is a baby just take him in
im sorry but if im worried enough to be thinking about hospital I would take them in.
You know him better than anyone and if you are worried enough to be thinking about taking him into the hospital just do it.
I’m another one here who is surprised that people are still talking about tepid baths for temperatures
I’m sure that is something that was advised against years ago

BabyFever246 · 03/03/2025 23:26

mintjim · 03/03/2025 23:12

Mum has said she feels she should take him. On that alone, she should take him. These threads are SO dangerous. Non medical professionals giving conflicting advice. One day a thread like this will kill someone, I personally think mn should ban them.

Yup, I've only ever regretted NOT following my instincts. You know your child. There's people on here that think a leg half attached will sort itself out eventually.

BabyFever246 · 03/03/2025 23:24

15 month old here. Similar situation. Take to A&E. Take a video before you go to show what like as they always perk up when you get there. Just go, 111 will send you anyway if not drinking.

mumsickles · 03/03/2025 23:22

I think it's very difficult to ask this on mumsnet. A simple test is: is it an accident? Is it an emergency? If not then usually can call 111 for advice

Crispynoodle · 03/03/2025 23:14

mintjim · 03/03/2025 23:12

Mum has said she feels she should take him. On that alone, she should take him. These threads are SO dangerous. Non medical professionals giving conflicting advice. One day a thread like this will kill someone, I personally think mn should ban them.

💯 this

Crispynoodle · 03/03/2025 23:13

A&E every time if there's any doubt

mintjim · 03/03/2025 23:12

Mum has said she feels she should take him. On that alone, she should take him. These threads are SO dangerous. Non medical professionals giving conflicting advice. One day a thread like this will kill someone, I personally think mn should ban them.