Hi ladies,
I’m in my late thirties and getting married in 6 weeks. I am so looking forward to my wedding and it’s all planned and going to be lovely.
However… I smoked for ten years and gave up when I was 33. Lots of reasons for doing it - sadly a lot due to childhood trauma and poor coping mechanisms. Gratefully I have now had lots of therapy and I am sure that contributed me to meeting my amazing fiancée.
Recently I have felt really guilty that I smoked and that I may have shortened my life. I’m sad for my younger self that I may have stolen my own happiest years.
He keeps talking about how sweet it will be when we are old together and I caveat it with, well I hope we will but if for some reason I don’t, I want us to have enjoyed our time together and for him to go on to be happy. Obviously, I very much hope we grow old together and this is a downer given we are literally just getting married! I have made a real effort to stay healthy and fit since quitting, and am in good shape.
Has anyone else felt this way and how did you navigate it, if so?
Thank you for your thoughts x