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Would you forgive a drunken kiss? Danny/Maura

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Corta · 03/03/2025 13:01

Sadly seen the Danny/Maura incident. Really feel for his wife as I’ve been there. Dh confessed to me he had had a drunken snog at his works Xmas do. Very humiliating. I would have probably divorced him if we didn’t have kids. It was really painful given it was “only” a kiss. I remember just thinking how dare you. We all go out with friends and speak to members of the opposite sex who want to try it on. But there’s something called self restraint.

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treesandsun · 03/03/2025 14:40

I think I would probably forgive a kiss - on the understanding it was one of forgiveness and depending on how long the relationship was - early doors - no chance but a long standing otherwise happy relationship I would be livid but would forgive it.

The Danny/Maura - have they admitted it - is there pictures or is it just speculation because I do not trust the press either - they bloody love it and will now never let it drop.

loropianalover · 03/03/2025 14:38

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 03/03/2025 14:35

A peck on the cheek in a public place as they were leaving! It's hardly a full on snog or an affair.

My DH is painfully shy but even he would kiss a female friend on the cheek after an evening out. I'm sure Oti and Maura kissed each other goodbye too.

Everyone seems to see something different in the video - personally I see cheek, cheek, lips.

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 03/03/2025 14:35

A peck on the cheek in a public place as they were leaving! It's hardly a full on snog or an affair.

My DH is painfully shy but even he would kiss a female friend on the cheek after an evening out. I'm sure Oti and Maura kissed each other goodbye too.

Girasole02 · 03/03/2025 14:31

PrincessScarlett · 03/03/2025 13:55

Danny is a first class dickhead. All that hard work in the jungle he did to come across as a family man who missed his wife and kid so much.

If I were his wife I would be wondering if any feelings developed in the jungle to lead to such a public kiss. His poor wife ☹️

This. What an idiot.

skyeisthelimit · 03/03/2025 14:28

the first headline (DM) said drunken kiss, then the article said peck on the cheek so I thought it was just clickbait, but then unfortunately The Scum has a video of it. I did watch it as you can't make an informed opinion on hearsay. He does peck her on the cheek, but then unfortunately after that, there is a proper kiss, where he tilts his head to kiss her, he goes in for a proper kiss. It is only very brief.

It's so sad, he came across as having such love for his wife and child. It just seems so awful that he could do that in public. They are in a room full of people, with phones everywhere, it's insane that he would kiss her in full view of everyone. It's insane that he would kiss her at all obviously.

I know everyone says don't blame the woman, but Maura knows he his married. She is not responsible for his behaviour, but she is responsible for hers and she should have stayed away from a married man. He is 100% responsible for his side of the behaviour.

PrincessScarlett · 03/03/2025 14:26

Tiswa · 03/03/2025 14:17

But he did have to work hard thiugh didn’t he - the whole family man thing he pushed it rather than it being natural - Barry McGuigan for example didn’t work at or push the mantra of being a family man he just came across as one.

because for me underneath it he came across as a selfish man who abandoned his wife to do the jungle having said he would be with her for the move. He comes across as very self centred

Yes he did work at it didn't he. The whole bit when the family and friends sneaked in to see them and Danny met up with his wife and son was absolutely nauseating with him crying his crocodile tears about missing them. Should have guessed then.

And you're right mentioning Barry as he came across as completely lovely and genuine in comparison.

Gloriia · 03/03/2025 14:25

How ironic that he hasn't spoken to his df for decades because his df left his dm for an ow.

I'm obviously not saying that this is a fling but they seem very cosy together.

What's the betting we get a press release saying he is struggling with his mental health and can he please have some privacy.

TriathlonTriathlonTriathlon · 03/03/2025 14:23

A drunken kiss in my experience usually means they're up to a lot more.

Upstartled · 03/03/2025 14:23

Huckyfell · 03/03/2025 14:20

All depends how well off he was. I could forgive if he was a millionaire I think.

🤣

Huckyfell · 03/03/2025 14:20

All depends how well off he was. I could forgive if he was a millionaire I think.

Tiswa · 03/03/2025 14:18

And if I were his wife I might well be relieved this coild give me an out from being with him that didn’t paint me as the bad guy (which he would have done IMO)

Tiswa · 03/03/2025 14:17

PrincessScarlett · 03/03/2025 13:55

Danny is a first class dickhead. All that hard work in the jungle he did to come across as a family man who missed his wife and kid so much.

If I were his wife I would be wondering if any feelings developed in the jungle to lead to such a public kiss. His poor wife ☹️

But he did have to work hard thiugh didn’t he - the whole family man thing he pushed it rather than it being natural - Barry McGuigan for example didn’t work at or push the mantra of being a family man he just came across as one.

because for me underneath it he came across as a selfish man who abandoned his wife to do the jungle having said he would be with her for the move. He comes across as very self centred

madamweb · 03/03/2025 14:11

A kiss doesn't come out of nowhere, there's normally already a lot of flirting (ie infidelity) in the build up to a kiss

"Just a kiss" is bollocks. It dismisses everything that led up to that

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 03/03/2025 14:10

XiCi · 03/03/2025 14:02

This is crazy. The article says he leaned in and pecked her briefly before leaving the venue. What a stupid fuss about nothing. Totally unfair to his family to make a drama out of that.

Oh girl the video is really bad

At first it seems like just a peck but then they're leaning into eachother and kissing

It's the kiss but also the disrespect that would really hurt me.

That's why I never pay attention to these Instagram family influencers that bang on about fatherhood and being a family man 🙄🙄

His poor wife and kids (assuming they're not separated)

Millymoonshine · 03/03/2025 14:09

Where I used to work the same two colleagues would be snogging at the end of every work night out.
They were both married with dc.
I once commented to another colleague and was told it was just harmless fun.

Don't know if their partners ever knew or suspected. Everyone at work knew.

Auldy · 03/03/2025 14:08

XiCi · 03/03/2025 14:02

This is crazy. The article says he leaned in and pecked her briefly before leaving the venue. What a stupid fuss about nothing. Totally unfair to his family to make a drama out of that.

The video shows different.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 03/03/2025 14:08

Dunno if I'd stay, I'd be so so hurt

RabbitsRock · 03/03/2025 14:07

I know it’s not the point of the post but I thought she looked awful!

Auldy · 03/03/2025 14:06

They did it so openly and brazenly that I suspect he and his wife have separated and they are together. If that's not the case then no, I wouldn't forgive and forget. Some people might see it as "just a kiss" but for me it is a blatant act of disrespect for me and our shared family. I don't believe that drunkenness is ever an excuse. I have been paralytic and have never kissed another person because I'm married and I love and respect my husband. Now add to the mix that he knows he's in the public eye and this would be a public embarrassment to his wife and children. Its unforgivably disrespectful.

whatnooow · 03/03/2025 14:03

There's obviously something going on because they're both not that drunk, and you can see there's emotion behind the kiss.

Orrr I'm really disappointed in Danny.

Like I know him 😂 but still. I feel so sorry for Mrs. Danny. She must be so upset and embarrassed

Gloriia · 03/03/2025 14:02

Didn't look like a drunkern kiss to me. They look very relaxed together what with her head on his shoulder too.
What a stupid man, obviously there'd be cameras everywhere.
It's always the nice allegedly happily married ones too.

XiCi · 03/03/2025 14:02

This is crazy. The article says he leaned in and pecked her briefly before leaving the venue. What a stupid fuss about nothing. Totally unfair to his family to make a drama out of that.

whatnooow · 03/03/2025 13:59

Oh no 🤦🏻‍♀️ what a knob.

I couldn't forgive this being in the public eye. He's humiliated his wife.

NeedToChangeName · 03/03/2025 13:58

I wouldn't forgive or forget that, no

Deathraystare · 03/03/2025 13:57

I would always think "What if it was the other way around and you doing the kissing" Would he be forgiving??