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Teenaged DD not letting go of childhood.

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orangeandyellowandbr0wn · 03/03/2025 12:26

My teenaged dd doesn't seem to be growing up. She isn't letting go of her childhood.
She still plays with toys and wants to be played with, has no independence and won't even leave the house alone, has very few friends who she never goes out with as well and doesn't engage properly in school/advanced topics of discussion. She also still watches babytv/in the night garden/bluey etc. She doesn't wear bras (which might cause embarrassment for her) and has temper tantrums quickly and easily. Additionally, she likes soft play, imagination play and talking to herself and I still feel like I have a toddler and she hates the idea of being a teenager and engages in no 'teenage' behaviour either. She's never thrown away any of her baby stuff/baby books/toddler stuff either.
I don't want her to be the stereotypical eye rolling moody teenager but I'm so, so fed up. AIBU for being fed up about this and also how do I explain to her to grow out of this?!!!!!!!?? How can I help her???

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Fastingandhungry · 03/03/2025 12:33

That does sound a bit of a concern potentially, what does the school say, has she any special needs or suffered past trauma?

Pigeonqueen · 03/03/2025 12:30

She has her whole life to be a grown up. If she’s happy and not doing anyone any harm leave her be.

Dragonsandcats · 03/03/2025 12:29

Does she have any interests outside the home?

loropianalover · 03/03/2025 12:28

Is she 13 or 17? What do the school/her teachers say?

SwanOfThoseThings · 03/03/2025 12:28

What age of teenager is she? Big difference here between 13 and 19.

GarlicStyle · 03/03/2025 12:28

What age is she?
Does she have SEN?
Has there been a massive life event in the past several years?

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