Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

DH did F'all all weekend

105 replies

holidayblues25 · 03/03/2025 10:09

I left on Saturday to do the weekly shop, and spend some time with my DD, yes it took me 4 hours, which was a bit longer than usual, but it wasn't like I went to the spa... DH said he had tons to do in the garden and would take things to the dump. AFAIK none of that happened, and he couldn't even walk the dog because our eldest wanted to come too, but DH didn't feel it was fair to leave the 5yo with the 12yo, fair enough.

Then on Sunday, he said he'd do bits around the house including the recycling, but instead he just walked the dog and that was it! I did all the laundry (being six of us it adds up) and cleared our bedroom as well as general cleaning and taking the trash out .

Now, I don't know if I'm being unreasonable because I think he should have done more. Forgot to mention he cooked dinners for both nights but neither were massive things ... One was egg fried rice and another one was burgers.

OP posts:
ANiceCuppaTeaandBiscuit · 03/03/2025 10:37

CheesePlantBoxes · 03/03/2025 10:31

Stuff like this is like baby weaning - you have to look at the picture over time.

Sometimes ice been like your husband when I'm burnt out but not recognised it, other weekends I'm non-stop doing chores. It averages out to pulling my weight. Does it for your husband?

This! I can be very productive or not at all, same with my dh. Sometimes you just need to rest or you’ll burn out. If he’s usually good at pulling his weight then I’d cut him some slack. After a very busy Saturday and Sunday morning I was exhausted and almost of the jobs I had planned on doing yesterday afternoon didn’t happen, but they’ve not gone anywhere and will get done.

mbosnz · 03/03/2025 10:31

I find our weekend slips through our fingers with nothing getting done, unless we plan out what we want to get done in the coming weekend, roughly when we're going to do it, what we need to get sorted to enable it (e.g. booking a tip slot), and who is going to do it. When the kids were an issue, then who was going to be in the hotseat for what kid and when, was a part of planning the facilitation. Would something like that work for you guys, maybe? And it was very much a we thing, not me saying, right, I'm going to do this, you're going to do that, and this is how it's going to go!

CheesePlantBoxes · 03/03/2025 10:31

Stuff like this is like baby weaning - you have to look at the picture over time.

Sometimes ice been like your husband when I'm burnt out but not recognised it, other weekends I'm non-stop doing chores. It averages out to pulling my weight. Does it for your husband?

Original poster
holidayblues25 · 03/03/2025 10:27

DustyLee123 · 03/03/2025 10:20

It sounds normal in our house. That’s why Ive got an escape fund.

He normally does a bit more, but it was really odd that he literally did nothing but it looked like he did.

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 03/03/2025 10:20

It sounds normal in our house. That’s why Ive got an escape fund.

Swipe left for the next trending thread