Taking on most of the responsibility in the house but partner thinks I’ve given up my life?

Absolutely OK for him to work p/t, but providing he steps up with everything else. It doesn't sound like he's doing anything?

He's a parasite. How do you and your child benefit from living with this man and all his kids?

The only reason to have a boyfriend is for him to hugely enhance your life and make it easier and fun.
If he's failing at such a basic thing, prioritise your child and dump the man.

Op... you need to do some work on knowing your worth. This arsehole shouldn't have taken advantage of you the way that he has but op, a year of dating and you've uprooted your child and moved in with him to be the breadwinner, work the most hours, mother his children and take on the house duties while he works part time and heads to the gym or out with friends?! Come on.

Your child is going to look to his man as a male role model in his life and as an example of relationships and what a man is... is this seriously what you want to be showing him??

You're probably burnt out from juggling a full time job, and your boyfriends job on top. And he's no intention of supporting you by stepping up to HIS responsibilities so he's gaslighting you with his misogynistic values instead.

I'd be taking myself and my child back home, getting my own place and doing some therapy to try to protect myself from idiots like this in future. Run a mile op.

So after only 12 months of dating, you uproot your child and yourself to move in with this guy and his 3 kids, you do most of the house management - cooking, shopping and cleaning, on top of your full time job while he works part time and enjoys regular trips to the gym and football?

Where did you meet him? www dot I am a complete mug dot com?

You're paying to skivvy for this man.

Agree with all the PP’s. He’s taking you for a ride.

He’s taking you for a ride! What a dick!

Throw him back where you found him.

If he's working part-time (and nothing wrong with that if you're OK financially) then surely he should be doing the majority of the housework etc on his days off? Not fair to leave that all to you!
Gender entirely irrelevant here.
Just not fair.

How, why, have you agreed to this?

You have really jumped the gun in living with this man op.

Can you get you and your child out of this unhealthy dynamic? Why should your dc have to share the bits of you going spare after you've run round after all these other children that arent yours and a man childs slave?

You aren't even married,so you have no protection there either. Not smart.

“Nanny with a Fanny” is hilarious! 😂

Beyond frustrating but also it helps me. When I often wondered why I seemed to struggle with relationships when so many other women don’t…it’s because I am not willing to accept what, apparently, many (most??) other women are willing to accept.

Why does he work part time?

It's crazy you're doing all the housework and working full time.

Also how has he not noticed that the reason he has time for friends and hobbies is you are picking up the slack for him?

I would put him back where I found him.

Why does he make it about “women” plural?

He’s an arse.

Mate! This user saw you coming!

Move back to where you have support. He will soon find another Nanny with a Fanny.

He’s the loser Op.
But, as others have said, you are allowing him to get away with it.

It’s lovely that you treat his 3 as your own. But, he is massively taking advantage.

Tell him you need to review the set up. He needs to fully fund himself and his family; even if that means working full time; you need scheduled time out, as he has.

See how he reacts. If he pushes back, that tells you it’s time to leave him to it.

He's not wrong.

He's working part-time though he has three children and a step-child, playing football and going to the gym.

You've moved to be with him, work full-time to pay the bills, raise a toddler, martyr yourself on household management, see your friends when you can (not as a priority) - all while battling ill-health.

Again, he's not wrong!

I kinda agree with him

Both men and women need to take time for themselves to do things they enjoy with their friends/alone/without kids

Give him a list of stuff that needs doing on a daily basis. You are carrying the financial burden and the burden of the house and raising 4 children. He is working part time and you are pulling all of the weight

And please please don't say 'but I love him'. That 'love' is draining you dry on every level and the longer you let him do this, it'll get harder to find your strength.

Got himself a live in nanny who pays his bills, he hit the jackpot.
I'd be moving back out rapidly, that'll cheer you up.

It’s so frustrating to continually come on here and read the same old posts of women lying down and acting like complete doormats to men.

Why oh why are you contributing more the household when he has THREE children living there and costing money when you have one?

Why did you move in with him when he was only working part time knowing that you would be essentially paying to raise three extra children.

Put your foot down and speak up. Tell him to get a full time job, split the bills and rent equally considering how many dependents you have living in the home and tell him to do some fucking housework.

He’s taking the absolute piss out of you and is getting a free ride whilst you pay for his home, keep it clean and look after his kids.

I imagine that at least part of the reason you're feeling depressed is that you feel unsupported either financially or in the home by your cocklodger of a partner ...

Wow he’s done alright for himself hasn’t he? You, on the other hand, have not.
Don’t live like this and don’t show your child it’s ok to be treated like this.
He’s a dick.