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To HATE the phrase "lived experience"?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 06:36

Pet peeve incoming:

By definition, experience is lived! You can hardly have an experience without living it, fgs! And what's the opposite of lived experience? An experience that you've had, yet haven't lived? It's complete nonsense. It's used to sound falsely clever when an argument is weak, like "In my personal experience." Well, of course your experience is personal! You would hardly say, "In my neighbour's experience, I find Florida too cold in December."

And it's officially wrong, because it's a tautology. Like "top-floor penthouse."

I don't know whether it's the innate stupidity of the phrase or the fact that it's a linguistic fad that annoys me the most.

"stamps off"

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squishee · 03/03/2025 09:04

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 08:15

OK. Explain to me how I can go on a cruise without experiencing it. Because that's what you imply when you say that you have lived experience of being on a cruise.

As opposed to the other passengers who must have been dead when they experienced it.

Still interested to hear how I can experience a cruise without living the experience. I'll wait.

With a virtual reality headset.

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 09:03

Ladamesansmerci · 03/03/2025 08:52

This is what I was trying to get across, but you did it far more eloquently 🤣

The terms are literally just to differentiate professional vs personal stances in research literature. There is a clear linguistic difference in that setting. Everyone knows what those terms mean in research.

But anyway. What an argumentative thread over such a non-issue.

It is not a non-issue, because language is important. And people should know that every time they use a tautology like "lived experience" there might be someone listening who thinks they sound self-important and virtue-signalling - like their "lived experience" is so much higher than everyone else's plain old experience. Or they might just think that the speaker is a bit dim if they think that experience and lived experience are different. And if that listener is a job interviewer or a date, that matters.

What @Cunningfungus said is irrelevant because we are not discussing the phrase "lived experience" in academic disciplines, we are discussing its preponderance in general usage, which is highly irritating because it's a tautology and those are plain wrong. That's what makes them tautologies.

And I don't believe there's not a better way to express the concept in its academic sense, anyway. Unless the relevant areas of academia are certain made-up subjects with made-up vocab to match, and that's a whole different thread...

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FancyBiscuitsLevel · 03/03/2025 09:03

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 08:31

Oh FancyBiscuit, you are one of those annoying people who don't read replies. I have explained many times that the examples you gave are shorthand for treating or working with someone who is experiencing X. The fact that people naturally use this shorthand does not mean that the phrase "lived experience" is correct.

It is inaccurate for a midwife to say that she has lots of experience of twin births unless she has had numerous sets of twins herself. What she means - and we all understand the shorthand without her having to say the whole thing - is that she has LOTS OF EXPERIENCE OF WORKING WITH twin births.

When a midwife says she has lots of experience of twin births, we understand that she means she nurses these mothers and babies - as long as we know she's a midwife. We do not immediately say "Oh, you must have lots of children! How many sets of twins have you had?"

The fact that people use this shorthand does not make "lived experience" accurate or correct English.

Lived experience is not incorrect English, it’s an evolution of English to create a new term to describe a particular subset of experience.

You assume everyone knows that “experience of multiple births” for a midwife means “experience of treating” - but a midwife who has had twins herself has lived and professional experience- and that can be very useful in some circumstances. Just because you’ve never needed it, doesn’t mean a term to differentiate isn’t needed.

sometimes we need different terms to express different situations/concepts, “lived experience” is a very short way of getting across a different concept of experience, which became a term that is now used because it was needed in many situations.

If you don’t think lived experience should matter more than other types of experience, that’s a different argument- refusing to name a concept doesn’t win that battle though.

gannett · 03/03/2025 09:03

Lostinawood · 03/03/2025 08:42

I hate the way its used.

Its used as a Top Trumps. As if its the highest form of evidence that one can never question as 'its my lived experience.'

There was a person on here asking for views on a alternative therapy, and when people gave her the actual evidence base on the (no more than placebo) effectiveness of this treatment, she dismissed this as 'she wanted lived experiences as lived experience is just as valid.'

No its not. For nearly all of human history all we had in terms of medicine was ' 'lived experience' and that led to people suffering horribly and dying. The scientific model of investigation transformed medicine.

No, the objections to it come from people like you who think you've been top trumped because you see everything through a power dynamic. You can't stand to be told that someone else's experiences make their opinions more worth listening to, or more valuable for the specific purpose.

Professional and second-hand experience can also be valuable, and they would absolutely "top trump" the opinions of someone with no experience in the field at all. Obviously.

This thread is really eye-opening when it comes to seeing how many people get disproportionately enraged over neologisms, even when they describe simple (and very much not new!) concepts. See also "cancel culture" - people have been being shamed out of public life for centuries when their behaviour is deemed over the line for that era, and yet we're supposed to think cancel culture is a brand new thing?

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 03/03/2025 09:02

RhaenysRocks · 03/03/2025 06:48

I don't particularly like the phrase but I suppose it's used when people try to support their view by dating they've lived the experience of being a cancer patient, mugged, bullied at work or whatever, rather than just having a theoretical opinion. I don't like it when authors are told they can't write characters that are outside their "lived experience" as was happening a couple of years back or that someone's lived experience is always more qualified than, say, an academic who has studied for decades about a certain subject or has expert and deep knowledge. A lived experience can be subject to bias, memory lapses, selective recall. It's not infallible.

Im pretty sure Sara Payne would have a greater depth of understanding and knowledge of child abduction and murder having experienced her own child's abduction and murder, rather than an expert.

AshKeys · 03/03/2025 09:01

Moonlightstars · 03/03/2025 08:20

Do you genuinely think a researcher has the same insights as somebody that has lived through something? They would most certainly have useful and important information and be able to give perhaps a more balanced view but it will be limited if you just relied on secondhand evidence. Particularly if there are researcher that only looks at works done by other researchers. What reliant on primary evidence that don't include the actual individuals who have gone through the system but just the staff etc

Most of the support sector has come to the realisation that for far too long services have been created without listening to people that use them. I've been in this field for about 30 years and it is slowly improving.

Do you not get that an individual only ever has their own experience which they experience through their own understanding or misunderstanding, their own biases and background? They know nothing of anyone else’s experience. At best what they offer is personal anecdote and that is no basis for policy making. A researcher would seek to gather the views of many people, including those who might struggle to get their views heard.

Most of the support sector has been taken over by activists pushing the views of a few very vocal political groups. Just look at how many wear rainbow lanyards and misrepresent the law on women’s rights.

BigBlueTeapot · 03/03/2025 08:59

Ma1lle · 03/03/2025 08:44

I voted yabu because lived experience is massively different and better than somebody who has done a course. It makes such a difference.

See, this is the problem
There is a huge range of professional expertise that goes well beyond what you dismiss as "doing a course". And lived experience us not necessarily "better".

I don't want my Granny to treat my cancer based on her lived experience of having had cancer. I want a professional . think a practitioner has a broader view of the range of presentations, possible trajectories and outcomes of the circumstances of their area of expertise, and this should be respected as well.

Yes we need to include lived experience voices, but at present the primacy of lived experience as an unquestionable source of truth is unhelpful. Someone with lived experience can only present their own experiences, they don't represent everyone with that condition or circumstance.

Example: my lived experience of mounjaro is that it was horrific and caused dreadful exacerbation in anxiety with constant panic attacks. It is reasonable to represent that and it is annoying that many professional dismiss that as the guidelines don't (yet) recognize this side effect. However it isn't reasonable for me to therefore declare that mounjaro should be banned because it causes panic attacks. In most people, it doesn't. I don't represent most people's experiences, but it is my lived experience. It should be acknowledged, but not necessarily become the foundation of policy.

TaggieO · 03/03/2025 08:58

If you have delivered lots of babies you are an experienced midwife, who has experienced lots of births. If you give birth to a baby you have lived experience of childbirth. They are grammatically not the same thing. You are perfectly at liberty to dislike the expression, but you are incorrect to conflate the two.

Youcalyptus · 03/03/2025 08:57

You think OP that everyone gets the difference in "shorthand" when the midwife says I have experience in twin births. But the need for a special qualifier on "experience" has a sociolinguistic rationale.

It indicates a realisation we have had in the modern world. We now recognise that to deliver (often public) services effectively and ethically we need to promote and elevate the experience of people who have actually personally had the experience themselves, as we design and deliver those services.

The fact is for centuries people have blurred the "experience" line and the expert in delivering twin babies has always been given more voice than the woman birthing those babies.

A qualifier is there to signal positive intent. Lots of language change is there to underline and emphasise a particular meaning within the set of wider meanings of a noun. It's no biggie. Sometimes stuff changes.

Public transport
Mobile phone
Accessible toilet
Online dating

The world is full of adjective-noun combos that signal a certain type of something within a wider noun.

The subtle and rather nice part of this one, is that it allows you to emphasise a person's experience without defining them by it. In this thread alone, we have had the words
victim
autistic person
Schizophrenic person

etc etc

Not everyone who has grown up in care, say, or has autism, always wants to be named and defined as a care leaver or autistic. They are always much more than that.

So a care experienced young person or a person with lived experience of care honours their other assets and attributes, doesnt define them by their experience.

I'm amazed you can't see that.

godmum56 · 03/03/2025 08:56

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 08:47

Yes, exactly....professional experience of treating that condition.

Is this the five minute argument or the full half hour? I need to know because of which popcorn to buy.

To HATE the phrase "lived experience"?
Moonlightstars · 03/03/2025 08:55

Lostinawood · 03/03/2025 08:42

I hate the way its used.

Its used as a Top Trumps. As if its the highest form of evidence that one can never question as 'its my lived experience.'

There was a person on here asking for views on a alternative therapy, and when people gave her the actual evidence base on the (no more than placebo) effectiveness of this treatment, she dismissed this as 'she wanted lived experiences as lived experience is just as valid.'

No its not. For nearly all of human history all we had in terms of medicine was ' 'lived experience' and that led to people suffering horribly and dying. The scientific model of investigation transformed medicine.

I don't think it's used as top trumps I think it is just trying to ensure that all voices are heard. I work in some service creation and I think it's essential that you have the voices of management, frontline workers, other service providers, the local authority, the community sector, carers and also people who have lived experience of whatever issue it is you're tackling. For a very long time those last two the carers and people have lived experience did not have any input into a service creation. They shouldn't have all the input but they definitely need to have a voice that is listen to and taken into account.

WaitingForMojo · 03/03/2025 08:54

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 06:44

OK, so you're saying that it's possible to have an experience that you haven't lived through?

Of course. Lived experience is often used to differentiate from professional experience or academic knowledge. Indirect experience of an issue, if you like.

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 08:54

Ma1lle · 03/03/2025 08:44

I voted yabu because lived experience is massively different and better than somebody who has done a course. It makes such a difference.

If I had done a course in hairdressing, I would have experience as a hairdresser. It would be pretty limited experience, sure. But the hairdresser of thirty years' experience wouldn't have lived experience whereas I had non-lived experience. She would have much more experience than I would. The difference is in the amount of experience, not that she was alive while she experienced hairdressing but I was dead while I experienced it.

Let's say the course was about how to box safely, but involved no boxing. It was all theory. You would never claim to have experience of boxing just from taking a class in boxing-safety theory. You would say, "I took a class on boxing safety, but I've never actually boxed."

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Ladamesansmerci · 03/03/2025 08:52

Cunningfungus · 03/03/2025 08:48

HRTFT because it’s too early in the morning so apologies if this has already been said.

@ThisFluentBiscuit the term “lived experience” is a qualitative research method/methodological approach to uncovering the contexts, meanings and emotions attached to an individual’s experience of a phenomena. It makes sense in the qualitative research field but it has found its way into everyday life ie outwith the context of its research-related meaning. A bit like the difference between “significant” in everyday life and “significant” in the context of experimental research/statistics - two different meanings and contexts.

You are kinda contradicting yourself in your arguments that it is “just experience” because the term “lived experience” is intended to differentiate between those who have lived through a particular experience the researcher is interested in (for example, DV, adoption, PND or whatever) and those whose “experience” of it is as a witness, health care professional, friend or whatever.

So the reasons you are giving for it being a useless term are the same as your reasons for the term being useful. Your argument is actually a non sequitur.

This is what I was trying to get across, but you did it far more eloquently 🤣

The terms are literally just to differentiate professional vs personal stances in research literature. There is a clear linguistic difference in that setting. Everyone knows what those terms mean in research.

But anyway. What an argumentative thread over such a non-issue.

Moonlightstars · 03/03/2025 08:51

I'm finding it quite interesting how this feels quite an important differentiation.
I am usually a bit of a pedant when it comes to these sorts of terms. Yesterday I told my teenager to stop using the term ATM machine and we had a discussion about tautology. I would argue that lived experience doesn't meet the parameters of a tautology because it has a different meaning to those working in the field of support services.

LameBorzoi · 03/03/2025 08:50

ChannellingZen · 03/03/2025 08:43

I'm largely with the OP - it is normally used on recruitment adverts etc as a way of trying to be sensitive when talking about things like racism, abuse, marginalisation, etc. The word 'experience' would absolutely suffice. It is totally clear from the context they are talking about people who experience X, not people who work in the field of X. It's just not necessary. They don't use the word 'professional' in front of all the other kinds of 'experience' they talk about.

The one situation offered here that I do think adds credence to the term is the wartime correspondent thing. Clive Myrie has experienced war because he's been in those war zones enough to warrant being able to say he's experienced it, but he doesn't have 'lived experience' of war. There's a sense where 'lived experience' means 'prolonged exposure throughout your life'.

Mainly, it's annoying because it is often little more than virtue signalling.

Actually, no, it would not suffice. If I need to recruit a counsellor who has lived experience of say, living with HIV, then I need to be abuntantly clear that's what I want. It also needs to be made clear in as few words as possible.

SwingLifeAway · 03/03/2025 08:49

I have witnessed a mental health crisis, in that I have seen a stranger suffer one. I have experience of mental health crises, as I have helped people I am close to navigate them. I don’t have lived experience of mental health crises as I’ve never had one.

How would you distinguish the last two scenarios? Witnessed is different to experienced.

I probably wouldn’t use the phrase lived experience but it means something different to experience, even if there were better words (eg direct experience).

Ladamesansmerci · 03/03/2025 08:49

Lostinawood · 03/03/2025 08:42

I hate the way its used.

Its used as a Top Trumps. As if its the highest form of evidence that one can never question as 'its my lived experience.'

There was a person on here asking for views on a alternative therapy, and when people gave her the actual evidence base on the (no more than placebo) effectiveness of this treatment, she dismissed this as 'she wanted lived experiences as lived experience is just as valid.'

No its not. For nearly all of human history all we had in terms of medicine was ' 'lived experience' and that led to people suffering horribly and dying. The scientific model of investigation transformed medicine.

I think a mix is important. Qualitative research is also crucial where patients are involved. There's no point developing something like a new approach to treating self-harm if it offends the people who would receive it. People's subjective experiences of a treatment are important to research studies to make them ethical.

Also, for example, if a patient is starting an antipsychotic, for example, you can show them the evidence based all you want but sometimes, people just want to know other's personal experience of taking a drug!

ChannellingZen · 03/03/2025 08:48

Ma1lle · 03/03/2025 08:46

No it really makes a difference. This is widely recognised.

Using the word 'lived'? Is there a study that shows using the word 'lived' gets more positive engagement than exactly the same phrase just using the word 'experience'?

Cunningfungus · 03/03/2025 08:48

HRTFT because it’s too early in the morning so apologies if this has already been said.

@ThisFluentBiscuit the term “lived experience” is a qualitative research method/methodological approach to uncovering the contexts, meanings and emotions attached to an individual’s experience of a phenomena. It makes sense in the qualitative research field but it has found its way into everyday life ie outwith the context of its research-related meaning. A bit like the difference between “significant” in everyday life and “significant” in the context of experimental research/statistics - two different meanings and contexts.

You are kinda contradicting yourself in your arguments that it is “just experience” because the term “lived experience” is intended to differentiate between those who have lived through a particular experience the researcher is interested in (for example, DV, adoption, PND or whatever) and those whose “experience” of it is as a witness, health care professional, friend or whatever.

So the reasons you are giving for it being a useless term are the same as your reasons for the term being useful. Your argument is actually a non sequitur.

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 08:47

LameBorzoi · 03/03/2025 08:42

Incorrect.

When a health professional is said to have experience in something, the implication is that it's professional.

Yes, exactly....professional experience of treating that condition.

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Ma1lle · 03/03/2025 08:46

ChannellingZen · 03/03/2025 08:43

I'm largely with the OP - it is normally used on recruitment adverts etc as a way of trying to be sensitive when talking about things like racism, abuse, marginalisation, etc. The word 'experience' would absolutely suffice. It is totally clear from the context they are talking about people who experience X, not people who work in the field of X. It's just not necessary. They don't use the word 'professional' in front of all the other kinds of 'experience' they talk about.

The one situation offered here that I do think adds credence to the term is the wartime correspondent thing. Clive Myrie has experienced war because he's been in those war zones enough to warrant being able to say he's experienced it, but he doesn't have 'lived experience' of war. There's a sense where 'lived experience' means 'prolonged exposure throughout your life'.

Mainly, it's annoying because it is often little more than virtue signalling.

No it really makes a difference. This is widely recognised.

LuvelyBunchOfBeetroot · 03/03/2025 08:44

5128gap · 03/03/2025 08:12

People's lived experience obviously differs, but the research is aimed at identifying commonalities so services can be designed around patterns of need and opinion.

But that's not what happens - a small group of people with a very skewed experience have a disproportionate influence on decisions on research direction or funding or government policy. I've seen this in government committees and often the civil servants don't have the experience (or bravery) to say that the priorities of the (generally mildly affected) people in their group do not reflect the common problems reported by the more severely affected people I meet in clinic. It's the people who shout loudest who get heard - whilst the ones who can't articulate for themselves get ignored. Professionals with broad experience of seeing a wide range of people may have more representative knowledge than someone with a mild condition. Schizophrenia is a good example- someone with severe treatment resistant schizophrenia is going to struggle to engage. If you see someone talking about their lived experience of schizophrenia it's fairly safe to assume they are at the milder end of the scale otherwise they wouldn't be talking about it in a comprehensible manner!

Ma1lle · 03/03/2025 08:44

I voted yabu because lived experience is massively different and better than somebody who has done a course. It makes such a difference.

ChannellingZen · 03/03/2025 08:43

I'm largely with the OP - it is normally used on recruitment adverts etc as a way of trying to be sensitive when talking about things like racism, abuse, marginalisation, etc. The word 'experience' would absolutely suffice. It is totally clear from the context they are talking about people who experience X, not people who work in the field of X. It's just not necessary. They don't use the word 'professional' in front of all the other kinds of 'experience' they talk about.

The one situation offered here that I do think adds credence to the term is the wartime correspondent thing. Clive Myrie has experienced war because he's been in those war zones enough to warrant being able to say he's experienced it, but he doesn't have 'lived experience' of war. There's a sense where 'lived experience' means 'prolonged exposure throughout your life'.

Mainly, it's annoying because it is often little more than virtue signalling.

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