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To HATE the phrase "lived experience"?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 06:36

Pet peeve incoming:

By definition, experience is lived! You can hardly have an experience without living it, fgs! And what's the opposite of lived experience? An experience that you've had, yet haven't lived? It's complete nonsense. It's used to sound falsely clever when an argument is weak, like "In my personal experience." Well, of course your experience is personal! You would hardly say, "In my neighbour's experience, I find Florida too cold in December."

And it's officially wrong, because it's a tautology. Like "top-floor penthouse."

I don't know whether it's the innate stupidity of the phrase or the fact that it's a linguistic fad that annoys me the most.

"stamps off"

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CoffeeCup14 · 03/03/2025 10:22

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 08:15

OK. Explain to me how I can go on a cruise without experiencing it. Because that's what you imply when you say that you have lived experience of being on a cruise.

As opposed to the other passengers who must have been dead when they experienced it.

Still interested to hear how I can experience a cruise without living the experience. I'll wait.

I haven't read the full thread because I got infuriated

'Lived experience' is generally used for experiences which have some negative elements, generally which also involve some involvement with professionals. So autism, homelessness, being in care, mental health.

The person who is living in that situation has a specific perspective and understanding which is useful. This has historically not been recognised, acknowledged or heard. Talking about 'lived experience' is a way of identifying this different type of experience and knowledge, making it visible and showing its value.

It's not universally applicable. So you wouldn't talk about 'lived experience of cruising' because there aren't those negative connotations. You aren't dealing with a state employee to get access to it. Similarly, there is no statutory duty to provide anyone with a penthouse. 'Experiencing' a penthouse doesn't have a negative impact on your life chances.

People with lived experience aren't always right. Their knowledge is anecdotal. As long as it is understood as qualitative and unrepresentative, it is useful. Having someone involved in making decisions who knows what it can feel like to be in your position is incredibly helpful.

'Lived experience' is a really clunky and unpleasant phrase. I can understand why copy editors would hate it. But that doesn't mean it isn't useful.

bringmelaughter · 03/03/2025 10:22

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 10:00

But why can't they just say that X person has experience of that condition?

For health and social care, it’s irrelevant who is right and wrong, correct or incorrect here.

If we reverted to just considering and talking about “x person on the guideline having experience of that condition”, we would end up back in a situation where one (likely medical person) would represent the experience. People would consider “experience of” as shorthand for professional or lived experience.

The important thing is the outcome. We want broad involvement in designing services. The current situation of using the term lived experience works to achieve the desired outcome. Would you prefer that your “correct” use of language is used and the unintended consequence of decreased representation is the outcome?

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 10:20

popdepop · 03/03/2025 06:51

Experience - going as a reporter to Ukraine and seeing the destruction, interviewing people
Lived Experience - experiencing it first hand and having family killed, your house destroyed etc
Hope that describes it for you OP

It does not. The reporter has experience of reporting from a war zone. The local has experience of their country being at war.

We do not need this abominable tautology of "lived experience" to accurately express our meaning.

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Greywarden · 03/03/2025 10:17

AshKeys · 03/03/2025 10:07

But the point there is the range of views YOU gather by speaking to a wide range of service users/homeless people/drug users, including the views of hard to reach populations, is what should be considered. Not one or two individuals’ ‘lived experience’. The focus on ‘lived experience’ means that too often that hard work of gathering inputs from wide range of individuals is not done, or the conclusions draw from that research dismissed (as many have done on this thread) as not as important as the experience of a single person.

It is not that the personal experiences should not be listened too, it is that the personal experiences of a single or very small number should not be given weight over those of others just because it is expensive, hard word, or may give results at odds with those of outspoken advocates or those with political conflicts of interest.

I think you make a great point here. It is also exemplified by the term 'experts by experience' which some seem to be pushing in the NHS (although the last person introduced as this on a training course I was on laughed it off and said he doesn't feel like an expert in X just because he's one of many people who have it). It seems that NHS trusts are so desperate to have people with 'lived experience' involved in policy-making and research that they give huge weight to the views of anyone prepared to get involved at all. It reminds me of how people on school Parents' Associations are very rarely representative of the views of most parents and people who become local counsellors rarely represent the views of most actual people living in that area. By virtue of being well enough or having enough time to participate, these people are not representative.

Cunningfungus · 03/03/2025 10:17

BatchCookBabe · 03/03/2025 09:43

I am LOLing @ThisFluentBiscuit at how almost everyone is telling you that 'lived experience' is different to just 'experience,' and you're constantly stamping your feet and telling everyone that they're wrong! 😆

The 50 something percent who agree with you are very likely agreeing with you because they think the phrase is annoying. YANBU to think it's annoying.

But yeah YABU to say that people are saying it 'wrong.' They are 2 different things. Why won't you accept that? You're making yourself look rather petulant, and stubborn, and you're embarrassing yourself more and more with every post you submit! 😬

Agree- the post about the “autism ambassador” is arrogant in the extreme. How dare @ThisFluentBiscuit authoritatively tell people what these roles should be called 😡

minipie · 03/03/2025 10:13

YeahNahWhal · 03/03/2025 06:47

In my line of work, experience would relate to being a worker who supports people in need. Lived experience would relate to the person in need. For policy development, we'd want to consult both parties, for their different perspectives.

I was with you OP but actually this makes sense

I prefer the phrase “First hand experience” which we used to use

ExIssues · 03/03/2025 10:11

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 10:05

Exactly - the phrase "lived experience" automatically demeans experience as dead experience. Not as good, not as valid.

In your example, why can't you say "I am studying poverty but have also experienced poverty" or "I am studying poverty but I also have experience of living in poverty or "I am studying poverty but also have experience of poverty."

You can see how we have the language to express exactly what you mean, and how well we can do without the tautology "lived experience."

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You can. But the normal use of experience in the professional setting would be that they had experience of working with the condition so lived experience is to contrast with that

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 10:11

@MistressoftheDarkSide the snippy comments about playing "top trumps" and "bending over backwards to avoid othering" in services

I have not said either of these things. In fact, I said that trying to avoid othering people is "a good thing."

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 10:08

CraneBeak · 03/03/2025 10:06

I actually think that you're confusing what type of object the verb "experience" can take.

Consider as an example the verb know.

We say: I know Anna. I know karate. I know Prague. I know that penguins eat fish. I know how to fish. I know that racism in the US is a major cause of conflict. I know how to ride a bike.

In the same way, to experience [object] need not imply that one has had a direct, unmediated and personal experience of the object. It could be a second hand experience.

No, if it's second-hand experience, you would say just that.

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AshKeys · 03/03/2025 10:07

ExIssues · 03/03/2025 09:56

Yes you're quite right. A lot of my time is taken up by thinking of ways to include "hard to reach" people in my studies. They absolutely need to be included. I'm not actually working with service users as it's a different field but I have used the wrong term, it should be homeless people or drug users or whatever.

But the point there is the range of views YOU gather by speaking to a wide range of service users/homeless people/drug users, including the views of hard to reach populations, is what should be considered. Not one or two individuals’ ‘lived experience’. The focus on ‘lived experience’ means that too often that hard work of gathering inputs from wide range of individuals is not done, or the conclusions draw from that research dismissed (as many have done on this thread) as not as important as the experience of a single person.

It is not that the personal experiences should not be listened too, it is that the personal experiences of a single or very small number should not be given weight over those of others just because it is expensive, hard word, or may give results at odds with those of outspoken advocates or those with political conflicts of interest.

CraneBeak · 03/03/2025 10:06

I actually think that you're confusing what type of object the verb "experience" can take.

Consider as an example the verb know.

We say: I know Anna. I know karate. I know Prague. I know that penguins eat fish. I know how to fish. I know that racism in the US is a major cause of conflict. I know how to ride a bike.

In the same way, to experience [object] need not imply that one has had a direct, unmediated and personal experience of the object. It could be a second hand experience.

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 10:05

Katbum · 03/03/2025 09:34

For me the problem is when 'lived experience' becomes part of the discourse of opression olympics, used in everyday speech ('my lived experience trumps your (presumably unlived) experience'). As a phrease that indicates a category of knowledge, in for example a research project, differentiating between professional experience, academic experience and lived experience can be useful. As in I am studying poverty but also have lived experience of poverty. The adoption of the phrase as a means to symbolise 'therefore your experiences of X are lessser', is dumb. It is not what the phrase was designed to indicate, and is a reflection of the mad culture wars idiots have created by having a little bit of critical language, but no critical mind.

Exactly - the phrase "lived experience" automatically demeans experience as dead experience. Not as good, not as valid.

In your example, why can't you say "I am studying poverty but have also experienced poverty" or "I am studying poverty but I also have experience of living in poverty or "I am studying poverty but also have experience of poverty."

You can see how we have the language to express exactly what you mean, and how well we can do without the tautology "lived experience."

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RolaColaLola · 03/03/2025 10:00

Whu · 03/03/2025 06:49

They are different. For example, you could do be a highly qualified and experienced teacher of autistic students however if you are not autistic then you don’t have ‘lived experience’ of being autistic. You have a lot of experience and knowledge though but these are different things.

But this person surely wouldn’t say “in my experience of being a person with autism”? They would refer to their experience of working with children with autism?

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 10:00

Cherryblossom6754 · 03/03/2025 09:42

I think in these examples you have given, the person would have used the phrase incorrectly. A bit like if a person said "I literally did that". Pointless.
However, in a Healthcare setting, considering and including people with 'lived experience ' is important when setting up a service for people who have a particular condition. As they have lived experience of that condition.

But why can't they just say that X person has experience of that condition?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 09:58

LameBorzoi · 03/03/2025 09:48

That's just a straw man example

How so?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 09:56

BatchCookBabe · 03/03/2025 09:43

I am LOLing @ThisFluentBiscuit at how almost everyone is telling you that 'lived experience' is different to just 'experience,' and you're constantly stamping your feet and telling everyone that they're wrong! 😆

The 50 something percent who agree with you are very likely agreeing with you because they think the phrase is annoying. YANBU to think it's annoying.

But yeah YABU to say that people are saying it 'wrong.' They are 2 different things. Why won't you accept that? You're making yourself look rather petulant, and stubborn, and you're embarrassing yourself more and more with every post you submit! 😬

The fact that lots of people are telling me that "lived experience" is correct does not mean that they are right and I am wrong. Sheer volume of numbers does not change the facts. It just means that on this topic, lots of people are wrong.

"Lived experience" is a tautology, and that is a fact.
Tautologies are bad English, and that is a fact.
The reason that tautologies are bad English is because they are redundancies. That is a fact.
Redundancies are bad English because they are repetitive and express the same thing which is already expressed in one word.

Here are examples of tautologies. All of the below are bad English.
Top-floor penthouse. (A penthouse is, by definition, on the top floor or it wouldn't be a penthouse.)
Three-sided triangle. (A triangle has three sides otherwise it wouldn't be a triangle.)
A perfect utopia. (A utopia is perfect or it wouldn't be a utopia.)
A lived experience. (You wouldn't have the experience if you didn't live it.)

I know that people are saying that "lived experience" IS used in this or that way. I'm saying that it SHOULDN'T be, because it's bad English and because there are many other ways to express the same thing that don't involve using bad English.

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ExIssues · 03/03/2025 09:56

AshKeys · 03/03/2025 09:50

I'm in social science research and the idea of starting to plan interventions by asking service users what they need

This shows the problem though - you plan interventions by asking a few people who are already engaging with an intervention what they need. Not those who are falling through the cracks, for whom the intervention is so far removed from what is needed that they will never be service users.

Yes you're quite right. A lot of my time is taken up by thinking of ways to include "hard to reach" people in my studies. They absolutely need to be included. I'm not actually working with service users as it's a different field but I have used the wrong term, it should be homeless people or drug users or whatever.

Notverygoodatusernames · 03/03/2025 09:55

Lostinawood · 03/03/2025 08:42

I hate the way its used.

Its used as a Top Trumps. As if its the highest form of evidence that one can never question as 'its my lived experience.'

There was a person on here asking for views on a alternative therapy, and when people gave her the actual evidence base on the (no more than placebo) effectiveness of this treatment, she dismissed this as 'she wanted lived experiences as lived experience is just as valid.'

No its not. For nearly all of human history all we had in terms of medicine was ' 'lived experience' and that led to people suffering horribly and dying. The scientific model of investigation transformed medicine.

Yes, there is value in scientific research - but it doesn’t tell the whole story.

For example, a lot of research into mental health treatment uses measures that are not meaningful to patients.

And some research simply doesn’t exist because it’s not been funded or isn’t of interest. So research doesn’t trump everything else.

ExIssues · 03/03/2025 09:51

AshKeys · 03/03/2025 09:42

I am a lived experience ambassador for oliver mcgowan; all that I do/have done in life is through a neurodiverse lens, so I am able to share a depth of experience that those who support people with autism would not have.

But you are not able to do this. You are able to share your personal experience, you have no idea that it is the same as other autistic people without relying on what they say - in which case you are passing on secondhand evidence too.

i presume as you mention autism, you have autism, so why presume there is a common ‘neurodiverse lens’ that gives you the same view as someone with learning disabilities, dyslexia, cerebral palsy, epilepsy, very high IQ….?

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I think this is the danger, the idea that one person's lived experience carries any particular relevance. In that sense it's no different to someone who smokes 20 a day and lives to 100. It could be representative but you just don't know.

To do research you need to select several people with the relevant experience, ask them the things you want to know, then you keep going until you aren't getting any new ideas . (Called saturation). Obviously you need to ensure that the people you ask are representative of the group you're interested in - if neuro diversity you would need a selection of people with different conditions. If autism only you would need a smaller number of participants.

However it depends on the aim - if it's to support a single person or advise on a specific situation in a workplace, then the opinion or experience of one person could still be very useful

BallerinaFall · 03/03/2025 09:50

AshKeys · 03/03/2025 09:42

I am a lived experience ambassador for oliver mcgowan; all that I do/have done in life is through a neurodiverse lens, so I am able to share a depth of experience that those who support people with autism would not have.

But you are not able to do this. You are able to share your personal experience, you have no idea that it is the same as other autistic people without relying on what they say - in which case you are passing on secondhand evidence too.

i presume as you mention autism, you have autism, so why presume there is a common ‘neurodiverse lens’ that gives you the same view as someone with learning disabilities, dyslexia, cerebral palsy, epilepsy, very high IQ….?

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I dont and we spend our sessions explaining this is "our personal lived experience" the discussions you will hear from all of the living ambassadors are all completely different and if you meet 1person with autism youve met 1 person with autism, BUT it gives a tiny look into challenges we may experience not from a clinical handbook but by telling you about day to day life and experiences.

AshKeys · 03/03/2025 09:50

I'm in social science research and the idea of starting to plan interventions by asking service users what they need

This shows the problem though - you plan interventions by asking a few people who are already engaging with an intervention what they need. Not those who are falling through the cracks, for whom the intervention is so far removed from what is needed that they will never be service users.

LameBorzoi · 03/03/2025 09:48

ThisFluentBiscuit · 03/03/2025 09:38

"Lived experience" is a tautology and tautologies are wrong because they are redundancies. These are facts, not opinions.

Unless you can explain to me what the difference is between experience of copy editors and lived experience of copy editors? I'll wait. Don't take pot shots at good editing if you can't defend your reasons for bad English!

Now, I'm waiting to hear what the difference is between experience of copy editors and lived experience of copy editors. Are you a ghost who worked with copy editors when you were alive but haven't done so since you died?

See how utterly stupid that phrase is?

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That's just a straw man example

niadainud · 03/03/2025 09:47

Even in situations where there is a distinction to be made, as others have said it doesn't necessitate the use of that particularly smug phrase "lived experience".

I particularly object to the implication that "lived experience" is supposed to trump all academic knowledge and professional expertise. I.e. Helen Joyce knows nothing about trans-identifying people because she has only researched and written a best-selling book about it, whereas Joanna Bloggs who has been trans for five minutes is immediately an expert.

ExIssues · 03/03/2025 09:43

Cattreesea · 03/03/2025 09:21

'@andyouwillknowusbythetrailofdead · Today 06:48

We've coped without the phrase for centuries and now in the last couple of years it's apparently become essential. '

Exactly!

I work in the charity sector and in the past few years I have been hearing all the time about the 'lived experience of service users'.

The term was not used at all when I first started working in the sector 20 years ago.

I don't need to hear that a homeless person has 'lived experience of homelessness'. The fact that they are homeless covers it...

Nobody needs to use 'lived experience' most of us use things like 'I have personal experience of'.

Amazing to see people lining up trying to claim the wording needs to make the distinction between experience in the workplace or similar when the wider context makes it obvious of what is being talked about.

Probably because 20 years ago the thinking was very different.

I'm in social science research and the idea of starting to plan interventions by asking service users what they need, rather than doing what appears to be a good idea to professionals with no lived experience, is relatively new.

See there the use of the word lived. It could be rephrased to avoid use of that word but in the context it's a helpful word

BatchCookBabe · 03/03/2025 09:43

I am LOLing @ThisFluentBiscuit at how almost everyone is telling you that 'lived experience' is different to just 'experience,' and you're constantly stamping your feet and telling everyone that they're wrong! 😆

The 50 something percent who agree with you are very likely agreeing with you because they think the phrase is annoying. YANBU to think it's annoying.

But yeah YABU to say that people are saying it 'wrong.' They are 2 different things. Why won't you accept that? You're making yourself look rather petulant, and stubborn, and you're embarrassing yourself more and more with every post you submit! 😬

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