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Middle-aged professional women doing drugs on the weekend

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Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 22:12

Is this common now? I was invited to a house party Saturday night and snow was being done quite openly, there were also Mary Jane vapes and Ecstasy passed around.

These were mainly mothers with adult grown sensible families. What is going on, am I totally not with it?

Was it always this way or is this scene infiltrating a different demographic now?

We always knew people like this did this, but was it this open and accepted?

I didn’t partake, still a great night.

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IBSisBS · 03/03/2025 19:48

I don’t know what snow or Mary Jane vapes are…

Bit is is quite common in my similar demographic for people to forgo drinking and have a THC vape and perhaps a mushroom tea.

I prefer THC vapes to drinking personally, haven’t darent done mushrooms but as long as everyone is consenting and there is no child neglect, or addiction, let them crack on.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 03/03/2025 19:47

WilfredsPies · 03/03/2025 17:52

I’m really contemptuous of middle class adults taking drugs at social occasions. Thinking you’re all so liberal, so environmentally aware and conscious of poverty and social disparity. Then pretending to be living dangerously at the weekends while simultaneously panicking at the thought of having to live anywhere near a council estate or that you’ll have to send your precious darlings to the same school as kids who qualify for free school meals if you can’t afford the school fees. The addicts might be directly responsible for higher levels of crime than your friends, Max and Caroline, in their modernised Victorian terrace, but fuck me, they’re far more honest about life than you lot are. And they’ve usually got more of a reason for wanting to block life out as well. Your hypocrisy is repugnant.

And I cannot imagine a more stupid and ill thought out idea than legalising drugs. If it’s worked abroad, it’s because possession for personal use has been decriminalised, so addicts are less likely to face long term employment issues due to a conviction for possession and they’ll be more likely to seek medical help if required, and the State has spent a ton of money improving detox facilities. We can’t afford to send ambulances out for pensioners laying on a rainy pavement with a broken hip, or people who want to commit suicide. You think we can afford to fund detox for addicts who don’t want to get clean? Or a ton of civil servants to monitor supply chains?

And all these criminals quite happy to break the law to make serious cash by smuggling their drugs into the country, cutting it with Christ knows what to make it go further, and forcing kids into selling it for them are not suddenly going to become law abiding citizens, complying with tax and import duty as well as spending their profits to improve production quality requirements so it can be distributed safely 🤦‍♀️ They’re not going to give up their livelihoods and get a job in the local supermarket, or start again from scratch smuggling into a different country. They’re going to continue smuggling it in, and cutting it even more so they can undercut legal ways of purchasing it. And gang members are never going to stop looking for the easiest way to make as much cash as possible.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2023/07/07/portugal-drugs-decriminalization-heroin-crack/ and https://www.politico.eu/article/why-portland-failed-where-portugal-succeeded-in-decriminalizing-drugs/ Surprise, addicts aren’t staying in their homes to take their drugs. They’re smoking and injecting in the street and outside primary schools. Fancy climbing over an unconscious addict on your way into your Pilates class? Or having your five year old wandering over to you in the park with a crack pipe in their hand to ask what it is?

It’s not working that well in BC either https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-68621012

And legalising cannabis didn’t work too well in Ecuador or Thailand.

Canada is doing fine with legalizing weed.
For some of us it’s a huge help for our health.

Why shouldn’t marijuana be legal?

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 03/03/2025 19:44

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 11:21

You misunderstand. People claim that cannabis is "harmless" in comparison to alcohol consumption. (qv)
Neither substance is harmless, however, those who compare taking cannabis to having one drink and suggesting that the former is less harmful than the latter, are ill informed.

How so?

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 19:40

WilfredsPies · 03/03/2025 19:25

Perhaps presumptuous, but you never hear middle aged supermarket workers or taxi drivers or delivery drivers or call centre workers bragging about having had a crafty couple of lines at their friend’s dinner party, do you?

Definitely not off topic. Part of the reason it’s so pathetic is that these people do everything they can to prevent that world from coming anywhere near their little bubble, until they want a bit of safe excitement, and then all of a sudden, they’re all for it, and fuck the people it hurts. The hypocrisy is sickening.

Wait what??? I work in a supermarket and always hear people bragging about their weekend antics yes even the middle aged ones😂surely you're joking if you think it's just "professionals"

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 19:34

@rightinthedavinamccalls why would they acknowledge it if they didn’t know. You sound a bit cringey yourself tbh

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 19:32

rightinthedavinamccalls · 03/03/2025 19:29

They didn't even acknowledge she was referencing a vape brand in their hurry to mock. It's not 'if' it was meant. It absolutely is what she meant, it's written "Mary Jane vapes". It is cringey to try and mock someone where in fact you're (the reader) the one who doesn't know that they're a thing. Also,they are not a standard vape.

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I said there are millions of brands of weed vaporisers. It’s not “out of the loop” to not be aware of all of them.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 19:31

@WilfredsPies I don’t think it’s only middle class people in this age group abusing drugs. But I don’t hear anyone bragging about it, I wouldn’t associate with such people myself

rightinthedavinamccalls · 03/03/2025 19:29

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 18:55

I don’t see what is particularly cringy about that. There are millions of brands of vaporisers. It’s not common for people to know the brands of weed vapes going around. And op didn’t correct anyone anyway if that is what she meant.

They didn't even acknowledge she was referencing a vape brand in their hurry to mock. It's not 'if' it was meant. It absolutely is what she meant, it's written "Mary Jane vapes". It is cringey to try and mock someone where in fact you're (the reader) the one who doesn't know that they're a thing. Also,they are not a standard vape.

WilfredsPies · 03/03/2025 19:25

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 18:39

@WilfredsPies you have gone on a rant here about middle class people that is presumptuous and off topic.

Perhaps presumptuous, but you never hear middle aged supermarket workers or taxi drivers or delivery drivers or call centre workers bragging about having had a crafty couple of lines at their friend’s dinner party, do you?

Definitely not off topic. Part of the reason it’s so pathetic is that these people do everything they can to prevent that world from coming anywhere near their little bubble, until they want a bit of safe excitement, and then all of a sudden, they’re all for it, and fuck the people it hurts. The hypocrisy is sickening.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 18:55

rightinthedavinamccalls · 03/03/2025 16:08

I'm cringing at the folks mocking the OP for saying Mary Jane vapes. They're so out of the loop that they don't know that they're a brand of vapes not just a reference to back in the day.

I don’t see what is particularly cringy about that. There are millions of brands of vaporisers. It’s not common for people to know the brands of weed vapes going around. And op didn’t correct anyone anyway if that is what she meant.

CheeseNPickle3 · 03/03/2025 18:46

So if we make all drugs legal and have companies producing and selling them (and advertising?) what's the safe dose? Are they responsible if someone overdoses?

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 18:39

WilfredsPies · 03/03/2025 17:52

I’m really contemptuous of middle class adults taking drugs at social occasions. Thinking you’re all so liberal, so environmentally aware and conscious of poverty and social disparity. Then pretending to be living dangerously at the weekends while simultaneously panicking at the thought of having to live anywhere near a council estate or that you’ll have to send your precious darlings to the same school as kids who qualify for free school meals if you can’t afford the school fees. The addicts might be directly responsible for higher levels of crime than your friends, Max and Caroline, in their modernised Victorian terrace, but fuck me, they’re far more honest about life than you lot are. And they’ve usually got more of a reason for wanting to block life out as well. Your hypocrisy is repugnant.

And I cannot imagine a more stupid and ill thought out idea than legalising drugs. If it’s worked abroad, it’s because possession for personal use has been decriminalised, so addicts are less likely to face long term employment issues due to a conviction for possession and they’ll be more likely to seek medical help if required, and the State has spent a ton of money improving detox facilities. We can’t afford to send ambulances out for pensioners laying on a rainy pavement with a broken hip, or people who want to commit suicide. You think we can afford to fund detox for addicts who don’t want to get clean? Or a ton of civil servants to monitor supply chains?

And all these criminals quite happy to break the law to make serious cash by smuggling their drugs into the country, cutting it with Christ knows what to make it go further, and forcing kids into selling it for them are not suddenly going to become law abiding citizens, complying with tax and import duty as well as spending their profits to improve production quality requirements so it can be distributed safely 🤦‍♀️ They’re not going to give up their livelihoods and get a job in the local supermarket, or start again from scratch smuggling into a different country. They’re going to continue smuggling it in, and cutting it even more so they can undercut legal ways of purchasing it. And gang members are never going to stop looking for the easiest way to make as much cash as possible.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2023/07/07/portugal-drugs-decriminalization-heroin-crack/ and https://www.politico.eu/article/why-portland-failed-where-portugal-succeeded-in-decriminalizing-drugs/ Surprise, addicts aren’t staying in their homes to take their drugs. They’re smoking and injecting in the street and outside primary schools. Fancy climbing over an unconscious addict on your way into your Pilates class? Or having your five year old wandering over to you in the park with a crack pipe in their hand to ask what it is?

It’s not working that well in BC either https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-68621012

And legalising cannabis didn’t work too well in Ecuador or Thailand.

@WilfredsPies you have gone on a rant here about middle class people that is presumptuous and off topic.

WilfredsPies · 03/03/2025 18:06

gannett · 03/03/2025 08:54

Same. I believe the younger generation do this too - very understandable as I truly have no idea how a broke 20-something in London could even afford to get tipsy these days except at home.

I remember the first time I went clubbing, doing MDMA and only having one beer all night. Not a trace of a hangover the next day. Of all the things I've ever done, overdoing booze makes you feel the worst by a mile.

Yeah, it’s great that it’s so cheap these days, and it’s so much better for you than alcohol.

I mean, fuck the HGV driver who suddenly owes some very dangerous people more money than he’ll earn in his lifetime, even without the prison sentence, because Border Force have searched his load. Or the poor sod who has carried it into the UK in their belly. Or the teenager who has had it stuffed up his arse to get it from one dealer to another. Just so long as you have fun at the weekend, eh?

https://www.unodc.org/southasia/frontpage/2012/october/drug-mules_-swallowed-by-the-illicit-drug-trade.html

Drug mules: Swallowed by the illicit drug trade

4 October 2012 - This is DJ’s story. DJ was one of the million persons trafficked each year.  Victims like her are exploited for forced labour, organ trade and prostitution.  Taken from place to place, DJ was treated like a slave and forced to work for...

https://www.unodc.org/southasia/frontpage/2012/october/drug-mules_-swallowed-by-the-illicit-drug-trade.html

WilfredsPies · 03/03/2025 17:52

Bluh · 03/03/2025 13:52

So I think, most people on this thread agree. Drugs should be legalised and distributed safely - eliminating the abuse of children (county lines) and regulating safety. Win win. Many other countries do this. It’s time we did too

I’m really contemptuous of middle class adults taking drugs at social occasions. Thinking you’re all so liberal, so environmentally aware and conscious of poverty and social disparity. Then pretending to be living dangerously at the weekends while simultaneously panicking at the thought of having to live anywhere near a council estate or that you’ll have to send your precious darlings to the same school as kids who qualify for free school meals if you can’t afford the school fees. The addicts might be directly responsible for higher levels of crime than your friends, Max and Caroline, in their modernised Victorian terrace, but fuck me, they’re far more honest about life than you lot are. And they’ve usually got more of a reason for wanting to block life out as well. Your hypocrisy is repugnant.

And I cannot imagine a more stupid and ill thought out idea than legalising drugs. If it’s worked abroad, it’s because possession for personal use has been decriminalised, so addicts are less likely to face long term employment issues due to a conviction for possession and they’ll be more likely to seek medical help if required, and the State has spent a ton of money improving detox facilities. We can’t afford to send ambulances out for pensioners laying on a rainy pavement with a broken hip, or people who want to commit suicide. You think we can afford to fund detox for addicts who don’t want to get clean? Or a ton of civil servants to monitor supply chains?

And all these criminals quite happy to break the law to make serious cash by smuggling their drugs into the country, cutting it with Christ knows what to make it go further, and forcing kids into selling it for them are not suddenly going to become law abiding citizens, complying with tax and import duty as well as spending their profits to improve production quality requirements so it can be distributed safely 🤦‍♀️ They’re not going to give up their livelihoods and get a job in the local supermarket, or start again from scratch smuggling into a different country. They’re going to continue smuggling it in, and cutting it even more so they can undercut legal ways of purchasing it. And gang members are never going to stop looking for the easiest way to make as much cash as possible.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2023/07/07/portugal-drugs-decriminalization-heroin-crack/ and https://www.politico.eu/article/why-portland-failed-where-portugal-succeeded-in-decriminalizing-drugs/ Surprise, addicts aren’t staying in their homes to take their drugs. They’re smoking and injecting in the street and outside primary schools. Fancy climbing over an unconscious addict on your way into your Pilates class? Or having your five year old wandering over to you in the park with a crack pipe in their hand to ask what it is?

It’s not working that well in BC either https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-68621012

And legalising cannabis didn’t work too well in Ecuador or Thailand.

Guy Felicella

Success or failure? Canada's drug decriminalisation test faces scrutiny

The test policy to help address a deadly drug crisis in British Columbia faces public backlash and political challenges.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-68621012

TempestTost · 03/03/2025 17:46

Bluh · 03/03/2025 13:52

So I think, most people on this thread agree. Drugs should be legalised and distributed safely - eliminating the abuse of children (county lines) and regulating safety. Win win. Many other countries do this. It’s time we did too

Not successfully they don't.

"Harm reduction" is often very far from it, and while maybe people don't care much about the users themselves, who have presumably reconciled themselves to their situation, it very much impacts the communities they live in.

Feelinadequate23 · 03/03/2025 17:05

I don’t but it wouldn’t bother me. Probably trying to regain some sense of freedom and youth after years of childcare responsibilities. I’m definitely looking forward to being able to party/ get drunk again once DC are older.

LighterSpring25 · 03/03/2025 16:35

rightinthedavinamccalls · 03/03/2025 16:21

Where does it say she's fuming?

I do agree the posters were cringy for mocking OP because they didn't know what they were.

LighterSpring25 · 03/03/2025 16:33

rightinthedavinamccalls · 03/03/2025 16:21

Where does it say she's fuming?

OK, why mention it the same as cocaine and ecstasy?

rightinthedavinamccalls · 03/03/2025 16:21

LighterSpring25 · 03/03/2025 16:16

Why is OP fuming about the Mary Jane vapes?

Where does it say she's fuming?

LighterSpring25 · 03/03/2025 16:16

rightinthedavinamccalls · 03/03/2025 16:08

I'm cringing at the folks mocking the OP for saying Mary Jane vapes. They're so out of the loop that they don't know that they're a brand of vapes not just a reference to back in the day.

Why is OP fuming about the Mary Jane vapes?

rightinthedavinamccalls · 03/03/2025 16:08

I'm cringing at the folks mocking the OP for saying Mary Jane vapes. They're so out of the loop that they don't know that they're a brand of vapes not just a reference to back in the day.

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 15:14

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 14:57

@Scrubberdubber What about the people in other countries who are affected including children who live in absolute poverty and have nothing with very little education. I wouldn’t really call those people “little shits” for getting involved when you see the circumstances they are faced with. Everyone in the uk is extremely privileged in comparison

I said in another comment a few pages back (not being snippy I don't blame you for not reading 13 pages of this) that I know the drug trade causes fucked up shit to happen all over the world but my rants were specifically about the "kids" involved in what they call "county lines" in the UK.

Personally I don't do drugs am not middle aged or a professional I just don't see why the op has singled out that specific group to moan about as if everyone suddenly becomes interested in bird watching and baking the day they turn 30 or become a doctor. Ditto the other poster who was blaming middle aged professional women for the demand in drugs as if the occasional line of coke on the weekend compares to the demand from heroin addicts scoring multiple times a day.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 14:57

@Scrubberdubber What about the people in other countries who are affected including children who live in absolute poverty and have nothing with very little education. I wouldn’t really call those people “little shits” for getting involved when you see the circumstances they are faced with. Everyone in the uk is extremely privileged in comparison

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 14:46

Janedoe82 · 03/03/2025 14:11

No one said they are cute and innocent- they have experienced trauma, poverty and exploitation. Hence how they have ended up drug dealers. You may have encountered many of these kids growing up in the same environment but you don't know their stories or understand the underlying causes of the behaviour.

Frankly could not give Less of a shit, a lot of people have experienced trauma and poverty and don't end out like these little shits and btw Im on Close terms with people who's family members went down the "county lines" route a lot of them come from normal families who's parents tried their best. Excusing the super young ones I'm talking under 12 these kids know exactly what they're doing.

These "kids" are the reason it's not safe to go into town after 6pm anymore even the actual addicts who they sell to aren't as dangerous.

That's just me and my opinion though like I said I became a mum when I was 15 so I haven't got much time for the "but they're young " excuse. I understand how you'd think differently if you had a more sheltered upbringing and didn't start living like an actual adult until you were in your twenties or whatever.

Chunkilumptious · 03/03/2025 14:31

The ignorance on this thread is something else. Children exploited by drug suppliers don't get 'victim points' knocked off for not being big eyed shy orphans. Their behavioural issues are not an excuse for exploiting them with impunity.