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Middle-aged professional women doing drugs on the weekend

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Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 22:12

Is this common now? I was invited to a house party Saturday night and snow was being done quite openly, there were also Mary Jane vapes and Ecstasy passed around.

These were mainly mothers with adult grown sensible families. What is going on, am I totally not with it?

Was it always this way or is this scene infiltrating a different demographic now?

We always knew people like this did this, but was it this open and accepted?

I didn’t partake, still a great night.

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Helen483 · 05/03/2025 00:24

Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 23:05

3 in one sitting is rather excessive, I don’t believe the svelte figures would last that long caning it each weekend like that.

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OMG where have you been? If you mean 3 large glasses (250 ml) that would be a bottle of wine - quite a lot if you are sitting watching telly, but not excessive for a party

JudithOx · 04/03/2025 23:52

teledays · 04/03/2025 23:40

I’d rather be around people on ecstasy than those on 3 glasses of wine . Middle aged middle class drinkers are Insufferable bores, at least MDMA might give them a bit of personality.

Heavy drinking and drugs are equally bad. Alcohol is just another drug, after all.

JudithOx · 04/03/2025 23:50

Bluh · 04/03/2025 23:31

That’s horribly ageist. You either dislike people doing drugs irrespective of age or not. Do you have opinions on what else Middle aged people should and should not be doing?

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Very true. I dislike people who do drugs at any age. I hate drugs, actually, and have never done them myself. I would not like to be around anyone who does them regardless of age. I feel sorry for young people doing drugs, but I think if you're still doing them in middle age, it's pathetic. I'm sorry if this offends you.

teledays · 04/03/2025 23:40

I’d rather be around people on ecstasy than those on 3 glasses of wine . Middle aged middle class drinkers are Insufferable bores, at least MDMA might give them a bit of personality.

Bluh · 04/03/2025 23:31

JudithOx · 04/03/2025 23:19

You need some new friends! Middle-aged and doing drugs ... Yuck.

That’s horribly ageist. You either dislike people doing drugs irrespective of age or not. Do you have opinions on what else Middle aged people should and should not be doing?

JudithOx · 04/03/2025 23:19

You need some new friends! Middle-aged and doing drugs ... Yuck.

Zodiaclibra · 04/03/2025 22:30

I don’t think the majority of middle age people are taking drugs. I’d wonder why people were desperate to re live their 20s if my friends started doing it.

It’s as sad and cliched as buying a sports car or having an affair with your PA

LighterSpring25 · 04/03/2025 22:30

Familysquabbles23 · 04/03/2025 21:26

We eat cake and drink tea then drive home sober.
Drugs are not my bag, fortunately my friends either feel the same or respect me enough not to share. Probably why I don't have many friends lol.

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You do realise there is a middle ground to doing drugs or drinking tea at a party/get together. I wouldn't want to do either. I'm not a druggy or 89 years old.

LighterSpring25 · 04/03/2025 22:26

KatsWhiskas · 04/03/2025 22:16

What IS a Mary Jane vape though, please??

Google

KatsWhiskas · 04/03/2025 22:16

What IS a Mary Jane vape though, please??

Brigitte33 · 04/03/2025 22:12

You weren't asked or forced to partake so why do you care ?
Just let people unwind and enjoy in whichever way they are accustomed too and stop judging.

NewMarmiteJar · 04/03/2025 22:07

@Darls3000 how old were these people?

Darls3000 · 04/03/2025 22:05

Was at a dinner party couple of weeks ago that was a no food, only liquid shrooms party. Yep. Bonkers. Everyone was dancing for 6 hours straight. Mad.

06230villefrancesurmer · 04/03/2025 21:58

SunflowerSeahorse · 04/03/2025 19:15

Both of my sons work in security to make extra money. They tell me that the majority of cocaine users who they catch are middle aged.

Really. Wow. You must be proud of the "security" work they do. I don't believe you. Cocaine catchers.. How silly.

Beebeedoo · 04/03/2025 21:53

Never encountered this at a party tbh, snow? thats what they called it in Peaky Blinders!

ColourlessGreenIdeasSleepFuriously · 04/03/2025 21:45

PickledKT · 04/03/2025 19:03

I have been around people who have done this in my adult life for about 15 years. I think it's all good as long as there no children around - I've never participated if people have told me their children are in bed - that's ridiculous - I once had a couple turn up to my house and say "I've left my 11 year old babysitting her 5 year old sister" and I told them to go home - I mean what were they thinking?

I think the most important thing is that you are around good people and there are no safe guarding issues in relation to children and pets for that matter - and also not doing it during the week!
if you have no kids - work hard / play hard

If you are not used being around this - it can be a shock though. My husband is 50 and I am 37 - we are having a dinner party this weekend and we have "snow" for pudding 🙌🤩

Propping up organised crime is nothing to be proud of

Familysquabbles23 · 04/03/2025 21:26

lilmishap · 02/03/2025 23:03

OP it was a house party, it's exactly the right environment (at the right part of the week) for middle aged people to get wasted around other middle aged people without judgement.
What happens at the other house parties you've been to?

We eat cake and drink tea then drive home sober.
Drugs are not my bag, fortunately my friends either feel the same or respect me enough not to share. Probably why I don't have many friends lol.

CatzeeBat · 04/03/2025 21:20

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PickledKT · 04/03/2025 21:02

ExcessiveNumberOfNinjas · 04/03/2025 19:11

I'm sure the after dinner conversation will be riveting. 🙄

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Yes Chatting absolute SHIT 🤣

kungfoofighting · 04/03/2025 20:51

I voted YABU for referring to coke and weed as snow and mary jane

Stirabout · 04/03/2025 20:49

It’s not you OP being ‘not with it’ it’s them leading clearly pathetic lives.
Id feel sorry for them if it wasn’t for the wider implications of their selfish behaviour
Walk away OP,and tell them why

Lassango · 04/03/2025 20:48

I would not be socialising with those people any more.

Tricho · 04/03/2025 20:40

Snow?

Mary jane?

Hello AI.

Spanglishmummy3 · 04/03/2025 20:39

Bluh · 02/03/2025 23:16

I find it really interesting that alcohol is practically a national pastime. Yet drugs taken recreationally, which time and time again have been proven to be not as harmful, are vilified. It’s a bizarre and uneducated position to take

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Right! Lol

Laboheme78 · 04/03/2025 20:29

Went to a 50th recently, was drinking but I saw absolutely no drugs. Afterwards one of my friends told me that there had been drugs everywhere (coke and tabs of some sort I think) and that she felt left out she’d not been offered anything. She’s a GP.

I can only assume that I look like the kind of person who wouldn’t indulge in anything (lawyer) so this totally passed me by.

Have since discovered that it’s apparently a thing in some of the circles I mix in. There are certain pubs in my very middle class city that these friends now hang out in where presumably they can get hold of whatever they want to take. I wouldn’t do it, I think it’s a bit tragic really at my age. Also I have teenage kids and I’ve always said drugs are a bad idea so I would never want to be so hypocritical. I actually think it’s a bit weird and it has put me off keeping up with certain friends. I’ve always been really fit and sporty, just can’t imagine doing anything that might jeopardise my physical or mental health. One of my friends did so much weed at uni she had major issues with paranoia for years and years afterwards. Ruined most of her early adulthood.