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Middle-aged professional women doing drugs on the weekend

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Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 22:12

Is this common now? I was invited to a house party Saturday night and snow was being done quite openly, there were also Mary Jane vapes and Ecstasy passed around.

These were mainly mothers with adult grown sensible families. What is going on, am I totally not with it?

Was it always this way or is this scene infiltrating a different demographic now?

We always knew people like this did this, but was it this open and accepted?

I didn’t partake, still a great night.

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Sparrow7 · 03/03/2025 07:47

penguinbiscuity · 03/03/2025 07:40

If they're middle aged now, then they may well be ex-ravers. There were millions of ravers in the 1990s and 2000s.

For many it was a way of life, not just something you did occasionally.

Not surprising some of them still do it in a party environment.

Personally I haven't taken drugs for decades but only as I was pregnant or breastfeeding my DC for over a decade so I stopped completely and aI moved towns and have no idea where to get decent drugs in this town!

Now the DC are older, I wouldn't mind a bit of MDMA if I was offered some.

Do you all know it was designed to be a therapeutic tool, useful for counselling & especially couples therapy? It increases a feeling of empathy with others, it's really quite lovely.l IMO.

Coke, now that's another story entirely. It was taboo on large parts of the rave scene back in the day (as was heroin) as we wanted happy, psychedelics and stuff that would keep us in a party mood and dancing for hours, not addictions. (To be fair that wasn't the same in all scenes and it was more prevalent in later years, but for a long time in large parts of the rave scene it just wasn't a thing).

Coke is extremely addictive, potentially life destroying and a shit drug IMO, it turns groups of people on it into wankers. I'd give a group of people doing loads of coke a swerve tbh.

But MDMA and weed every so often? No big deal as long as it isn't being done around DC IMO.

Completely agree.

NameChanges123 · 03/03/2025 07:46

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

😂

Noidea2024 · 03/03/2025 07:45

We live in an affluent commuter town, and although we're not in the local party scene, I am told it's very common here among those who are. These are professional women and the stay-at-home wives are business owners, who mostly still have primary or very young secondary aged children.

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 07:41

This reminds me of an episode of Frasier called "High Holidays" Niles decides to try a pot brownie for the first time in his life. He uses what he thinks is all the current drugs lingo, as if he's street wise, it's really very funny.

penguinbiscuity · 03/03/2025 07:40

If they're middle aged now, then they may well be ex-ravers. There were millions of ravers in the 1990s and 2000s.

For many it was a way of life, not just something you did occasionally.

Not surprising some of them still do it in a party environment.

Personally I haven't taken drugs for decades but only as I was pregnant or breastfeeding my DC for over a decade so I stopped completely and aI moved towns and have no idea where to get decent drugs in this town!

Now the DC are older, I wouldn't mind a bit of MDMA if I was offered some.

Do you all know it was designed to be a therapeutic tool, useful for counselling & especially couples therapy? It increases a feeling of empathy with others, it's really quite lovely.l IMO.

Coke, now that's another story entirely. It was taboo on large parts of the rave scene back in the day (as was heroin) as we wanted happy, psychedelics and stuff that would keep us in a party mood and dancing for hours, not addictions. (To be fair that wasn't the same in all scenes and it was more prevalent in later years, but for a long time in large parts of the rave scene it just wasn't a thing).

Coke is extremely addictive, potentially life destroying and a shit drug IMO, it turns groups of people on it into wankers. I'd give a group of people doing loads of coke a swerve tbh.

But MDMA and weed every so often? No big deal as long as it isn't being done around DC IMO.

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 07:39

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 03/03/2025 07:15

Mary-Jane? Have you just watched a 1970s film?

😂😂

SatsumaDog · 03/03/2025 07:28

Nobody I know is doing this, but I’m usually asleep by 8! Seems a bad idea to me.

TorroFerney · 03/03/2025 07:26

mommatoone · 02/03/2025 23:11

OP you seem more focused on their 'svelte figures' than the fact they are cokeheads or whatever they are! I'm cringing

And to be fair you don’t often see a fat drug addicted so not that unusual.

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 03/03/2025 07:25

Ginmonkeyagain · 03/03/2025 07:19

What kind of weirdo takes E at a dinner party?

The outrage on here is hilarious!
Particularly the horrified gangs who run the drug trade. Are they horrified that they are a gang, or that they are a drugs gang?

TorroFerney · 03/03/2025 07:24

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

Snap, and buying caffeine free Diet Coke!

christmaspudding43 · 03/03/2025 07:23

Bluh · 02/03/2025 23:30

And hard yes. Legalisation of drugs would stop all these issues and we should all be asking for it like this

I'm open to legalisation although unless absolutely everything is legalised there will always be a problem with illegal trade.

However, regardless of the arguments over legalisation and the relative damage done by drugs vs alcohol, drugs are not legal and their use perpetuates drug violence and county lines. The answer to the point about the problematic supply chain is not for people to carry on taking them and shrug and say it's not their fault they're not legal.

Ginmonkeyagain · 03/03/2025 07:19

What kind of weirdo takes E at a dinner party?

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 03/03/2025 07:18

These people make me sick.
Because somewhere down the line there are young people involved in selling drugs, often county lines, who are subjected to violence and control.
They are also funding horrified gangs who run the drug trade in the UK.
I am sure these mothers would have been horrified at the murder of Olivia Pratt-Korbel, but are siting in their lovely homes removed from the problem.

MellowCritic · 03/03/2025 07:16

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

Controversial for me is having 2 biscuits instead of one.. I'm bad ... I know 🤣🤣🤣
Ok i lied... its usually 3 🤦‍♀️🤣

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 03/03/2025 07:15

Mary-Jane? Have you just watched a 1970s film?

sierramiller · 03/03/2025 07:13

What's snow? Cocaine?

Presumably these people never stopped since the 90s

I have some friends like that

Clevesian · 03/03/2025 07:13

Pathetic. And they are supporting the dealers/gangs who exploit some of the most vulnerable in our communities. Including children.

Justgorgeous · 03/03/2025 07:11

i would walk out.

BeDeepKoala · 03/03/2025 07:09

Leeto888 · 03/03/2025 03:12

I can’t stand middle-class people who do drugs. Imagine thinking you’re fucking cool doing a line at a dinner party with your kids tucked up safely in bed, not caring about the kids caught up in county lines. The fact is the gangs controlling drugs in the UK are fucking horrendous and think nothing of shooting people who get in their way, cuckooing vulnerable adults in their homes and making kids ride up and down the country on trains when they should be at home with their parents. If you are buying drugs you are contributing to this violence and exploitation. You’re not cool, you’re a twat.

In the essay "Prof. Veblen" (1919) the intellectual H. L. Mencken addressed the matters of Americans' social psychology reported in The Theory of the Leisure Class (1899), by asking:

"Do I enjoy a decent bath because I know that John Smith cannot afford one—or because I delight in being clean? Do I admire Beethoven's Fifth Symphony because it is incomprehensible to Congressmen and Methodists—or because I genuinely love music? Do I prefer terrapin à la Maryland to fried liver, because plowhands must put up with the liver—or because the terrapin is intrinsically a more charming dose?"

(people arent taking drugs because they want to look cool, they are taking drugs because drugs are fun)

Confrontayshunme · 03/03/2025 07:05

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

Living life on the edge, you are.

Oh My God What GIF by Laff
ThePoshUns · 03/03/2025 07:05

Leeto888 · 03/03/2025 03:12

I can’t stand middle-class people who do drugs. Imagine thinking you’re fucking cool doing a line at a dinner party with your kids tucked up safely in bed, not caring about the kids caught up in county lines. The fact is the gangs controlling drugs in the UK are fucking horrendous and think nothing of shooting people who get in their way, cuckooing vulnerable adults in their homes and making kids ride up and down the country on trains when they should be at home with their parents. If you are buying drugs you are contributing to this violence and exploitation. You’re not cool, you’re a twat.

This. Having worked with exploited children, 100% agree.
Might all seem like harmless fun, when you're snorting a line up your middle class nose, but pay some thought to how that powder got to you.
Probably the same people fretting that their chicken might be factory raised or their egg isn't free range.

Squeakpopcorn · 03/03/2025 07:03

I’m shocked at middle class and middle aged professional having adult children. Most people in that group have children late 30s and 40s.

BeDeepKoala · 03/03/2025 07:00

Janedoe82 · 02/03/2025 23:36

It really wouldn’t. I work in Belfast. Drugs are controlled by paramilitaries. If you think they will just go away you are delusional.
It is all very well having lefty ideals but believe me until yoh have spent time with deprived communities with decades of trauma you have no idea how horrendous drugs actually are. They mess with peoples brains leading to suicides and even more lives destroyed. Get into the real world.

Yes exactly, once organised crime has got hold of an illegal drugs trade, there is no way to remove them from it by legalisation. Thats why the Mafia still controls all the post-prohibition alcohol trade in America and why its impossible to buy wine unless you personally know Al Capone.

no, wait

newbie202020 · 03/03/2025 06:56

KidsDoBetter · 02/03/2025 23:07

Tbh yes - it’s common in my group of friends. Men & women all highly professional well paid etc. Not on every social occasion thankfully as that would be very tedious. But 3-4 times a year I suppose.

Same here. Everyone has fun and lets loose a bit and then goes back to their normal and successful lives - until the next time.

GretchenWienersHair · 03/03/2025 06:54

People are stressed. They want a release.

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