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Middle-aged professional women doing drugs on the weekend

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Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 22:12

Is this common now? I was invited to a house party Saturday night and snow was being done quite openly, there were also Mary Jane vapes and Ecstasy passed around.

These were mainly mothers with adult grown sensible families. What is going on, am I totally not with it?

Was it always this way or is this scene infiltrating a different demographic now?

We always knew people like this did this, but was it this open and accepted?

I didn’t partake, still a great night.

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mindutopia · 03/03/2025 09:29

I don’t think this is new, no. It’s definitely been a thing for a very long time. But you’ve clearly hit a certain demographic and social network where you are discovering it for the first time. Not my cup of tea and I steer clear, but yes, it’s very much out there amongst MC middle aged professionals. Some of them. The rest of us though are sober and going wild swimming and booking yoga retreats. 😂

ThreeMagicNumber · 03/03/2025 09:25

Oh fuck no I'm 39 and my drug days are over. I do know alot of people still taking lines when they drink but no one in their 50s.

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 09:22

Leeto888 · 03/03/2025 09:13

You clearly have some difficulty understanding this is not a moral judgement on drugs per se, rather a judgement on the selfish pricks who choose to turn a blind eye to what goes on to get drugs to your house. Knock yourselves out doing whatever you want but don’t do it at the expense of kids and vulnerable adults whose lives are ruined by people like you.

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I'm in my twenties and not a professional am I allowed to use drugs in your opinion? Or do you just moan when it's a middle aged professional? Why does it matter to you the age or the profession of the drug user?
Like I said though there's middle aged doctors addicted to their own morphine is that acceptable to you because it's not black market?

I'm genuinely curious here you're either for or against drugs you dont have rules for people with different ages and jobs.

Serpentstooth · 03/03/2025 09:20

Recent chat with friend's year old grandson elicited the information that his long time best friend had parted from his girlfriend. "Yeah, they were invited to a party at her parents house. Her mum brought out a bowl of coke to share around and her dad kept making dodgy jokes about how much his daughter could earn on Only Fans. Bit of a culture clash, he wasn't keen." Oh, for the days when potential in-laws just offered you tea and biscuits.

Happyspace · 03/03/2025 09:14

I know of two people who’ve died suddenly from coke. Both mums to school age dc. Incredibly sad. Wouldn’t touch it with a barge pole myself.

Leeto888 · 03/03/2025 09:13

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 09:05

What's ridiculous? You really think just because someone got older and works a professional job that means they have to spend their time bird watching and knitting?

Uptight bunch on here

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You clearly have some difficulty understanding this is not a moral judgement on drugs per se, rather a judgement on the selfish pricks who choose to turn a blind eye to what goes on to get drugs to your house. Knock yourselves out doing whatever you want but don’t do it at the expense of kids and vulnerable adults whose lives are ruined by people like you.

LighterSpring25 · 03/03/2025 09:13

Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 23:05

3 in one sitting is rather excessive, I don’t believe the svelte figures would last that long caning it each weekend like that.

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Of course they can maintain their figures drinking that much at a weekend. They will probably have gym memberships and eat healthy the rest of the week.

OuterSpaceCadet · 03/03/2025 09:12

I don't think you can say a scene has infiltrated exactly! Presumably these women are generation X, inventors of rave?!

Red0 · 03/03/2025 09:11

Greyrockin · 03/03/2025 08:40

I’ve known this to happen (though on a slightly more discreet level) at children’s parties. Some of the mums were school governors (local private school).

edited to clarify that some of the mums took coke during children’s parties.

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It’s mad isn’t it?!

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 03/03/2025 09:11

There was a big local party near me last year and both the local GP and scout leader were doing coke...

LighterSpring25 · 03/03/2025 09:08

CaravaggiosCat · 02/03/2025 22:35

Haha classic!

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Sorry to be a dick but I love Alan Partridge.

They’re sex people Lyn!

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 09:08

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 09:05

What's ridiculous? You really think just because someone got older and works a professional job that means they have to spend their time bird watching and knitting?

Uptight bunch on here

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And btw I dont do drugs neither am I middle aged or working a professional job. Its just the fact you think because your job is professional you and your fellow professionals should behave better than everyone else 😂
FFS there are doctors out there addicted to their own morphine you have no idea

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 09:05

Leeto888 · 03/03/2025 08:30

Ridiculous.

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What's ridiculous? You really think just because someone got older and works a professional job that means they have to spend their time bird watching and knitting?

Uptight bunch on here

gannett · 03/03/2025 08:54

Crushed23 · 03/03/2025 02:04

This is very interesting.

My peer group has scaled way back on alcohol (who needs the calories, sugar and hangovers?!) but still dabbles in drugs.

We're in our 30s.

If you know what you're doing, the comedown can be managed and you feel right as rain the next day. It's also about 10x cheaper than getting drunk.

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Same. I believe the younger generation do this too - very understandable as I truly have no idea how a broke 20-something in London could even afford to get tipsy these days except at home.

I remember the first time I went clubbing, doing MDMA and only having one beer all night. Not a trace of a hangover the next day. Of all the things I've ever done, overdoing booze makes you feel the worst by a mile.

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 08:54

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 03/03/2025 08:52

What no reefers or bennies?

"Dude" 😑

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 03/03/2025 08:52

What no reefers or bennies?

Hazylazydays · 03/03/2025 08:50

Leeto888 · 03/03/2025 03:12

I can’t stand middle-class people who do drugs. Imagine thinking you’re fucking cool doing a line at a dinner party with your kids tucked up safely in bed, not caring about the kids caught up in county lines. The fact is the gangs controlling drugs in the UK are fucking horrendous and think nothing of shooting people who get in their way, cuckooing vulnerable adults in their homes and making kids ride up and down the country on trains when they should be at home with their parents. If you are buying drugs you are contributing to this violence and exploitation. You’re not cool, you’re a twat.

Exactly , making it sound like harmless fun … it’s disgusting.

Greyrockin · 03/03/2025 08:40

Red0 · 02/03/2025 23:11

I continue to be shocked that parents in their 40s with primary school aged children - professional people, outwardly sensible nice people - are sniffing cocaine on a weekend including back home after an evening out, taking pills when it’s a bigger night out, taking a line here and there on a random weekday night at the pub. These are parents I see at school that I would never suspect, but through mutual friends, I know a lot more about them then they realise!

I’ve known this to happen (though on a slightly more discreet level) at children’s parties. Some of the mums were school governors (local private school).

edited to clarify that some of the mums took coke during children’s parties.

Doitrightnow · 03/03/2025 08:34

Not in my circle, I wouldn't be friends with people who did this.

Leeto888 · 03/03/2025 08:30

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 08:19

Ah yes because only young unprofessional men can have fun

Ridiculous.

Ilovethatbear · 03/03/2025 08:29

PonyPatter44 · 02/03/2025 22:42

Sounds like a load of performative wank. Middle aged, middle class druggies are deeply tedious. You probably need some new friends.

I agree. I did laugh at “snow”. Mary Jane is used by Gen Z ironically.

Anyway, they are tragic, clearly, and no, everyone isn’t having a ridiculous crisis like this. My DC are mid twenties. My friends are all quitting the Pinot Grigio and taking up Peleton and Mounjaro. 9:30 bedtime.

You need superior quality friends.

Leeto888 · 03/03/2025 08:29

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 03/03/2025 07:25

The outrage on here is hilarious!
Particularly the horrified gangs who run the drug trade. Are they horrified that they are a gang, or that they are a drugs gang?

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Hilarious? It’s not hilarious to hate kids and vulnerable adults being exploited by drugs gangs and innocent people being killed in crossfire. You need an urgent reset of your moral compass.

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 03/03/2025 08:28

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

Ha me too - switched to decaf tea recently!

NOTANUM · 03/03/2025 08:26

This is one area where the millennials and Z Gen have got it right by the way.

Pixilicious1 · 03/03/2025 08:26

ItsCalledAConversation · 02/03/2025 22:22

lol at “snow” and “Mary Jane” are you a 1970s Miami drug dealer?

Party sounds fun. Not unheard of, unusual where I’m from though. Kids all out of the way or were there kids in the house?

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