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Middle-aged professional women doing drugs on the weekend

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Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 22:12

Is this common now? I was invited to a house party Saturday night and snow was being done quite openly, there were also Mary Jane vapes and Ecstasy passed around.

These were mainly mothers with adult grown sensible families. What is going on, am I totally not with it?

Was it always this way or is this scene infiltrating a different demographic now?

We always knew people like this did this, but was it this open and accepted?

I didn’t partake, still a great night.

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juggleit · 03/03/2025 14:15

Bluh · 03/03/2025 13:52

So I think, most people on this thread agree. Drugs should be legalised and distributed safely - eliminating the abuse of children (county lines) and regulating safety. Win win. Many other countries do this. It’s time we did too

I don't think class A drugs will ever be legalised - too many officials are part of the supply chain enjoying vast sums, staggering sums of tax free money.

Janedoe82 · 03/03/2025 14:11

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 12:43

I haven't been aggressive or assumed I'm the only one with no experience? Where have I been aggressive. You've been quite aggressive if anything on this thread a lot of your comments are just you trying to guilt trip middle aged woman who enjoy the occasion line of coke because "young boys being exploited" all I've said is most of those "young boys" know exactly what they're doing that's why the age of criminal responsibility is 10 and half of them would attack you for looking at them.

I mean of course you're right buying drugs does encourage the drug trade but if you think bitching about how middle aged professional woman should refrain from enjoying the occasional line of a week end is going to make up for all the actual addicts buying heroin multiple times a day then idk what to say.

Of course there's fucked up shit going on in the world because of the drug trade but you're going to have a hard time convincing me to feel sorry for teenage boys doing "county lines" when I became a mother at 15, most of those kids know exactly what they're doing and aren't all cute and innocent just my opinion which you keep wanting to shout down 🤷🏻‍♀️

No one said they are cute and innocent- they have experienced trauma, poverty and exploitation. Hence how they have ended up drug dealers. You may have encountered many of these kids growing up in the same environment but you don't know their stories or understand the underlying causes of the behaviour.

Porcelainpig · 03/03/2025 14:08

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 02/03/2025 22:26

Were they Sex People Elaine?

I have images of Lynne from Alan Partridge. "No thanks, I don't want to partake in your sex festival"

I am done with this, but have a family member still up for a bit of a party. Grown up children, empty nest, good disposable income. I would have thought CoL would have put a stop to this for many.

Would never do this myself as I have a child with high SN.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 14:06

Bluh · 03/03/2025 13:52

So I think, most people on this thread agree. Drugs should be legalised and distributed safely - eliminating the abuse of children (county lines) and regulating safety. Win win. Many other countries do this. It’s time we did too

I agree anyway. It would not solve every drug related problem but would certainly solve a lot of problems and I can’t think how it would make things worse than they are with drug cartels profiting and abusing people.

Mrsbloggz · 03/03/2025 13:58

Bluh · 03/03/2025 13:52

So I think, most people on this thread agree. Drugs should be legalised and distributed safely - eliminating the abuse of children (county lines) and regulating safety. Win win. Many other countries do this. It’s time we did too

I think that would be the least worst option.
Intoxicating substances can be enjoyable and useful, they can also be problematic but prohibition causes more problems than it solves.

Bluh · 03/03/2025 13:52

So I think, most people on this thread agree. Drugs should be legalised and distributed safely - eliminating the abuse of children (county lines) and regulating safety. Win win. Many other countries do this. It’s time we did too

NewMarmiteJar · 03/03/2025 13:31

If it was legalised and controlled the tax could fund the mental health provisions this country so deliberately needs.

Doing as we've always done and expecting change is insane.

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 13:15

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:13

You do sound like you have no knowledge of cannabis. It’s true .

No. It's not true.
Anyway. Time for me to go.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:13

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 13:12

"you sound ridiculous"
"You sound like you have no knowledge".
I think that's personal.

You do sound like you have no knowledge of cannabis. It’s true .

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 13:13

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:10

@KatyaKabanova sorry you are going through that. A close family member has recently been there. It’s really tough.

Thank you.

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 13:12

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:09

I didn’t say anything personal about you either. I said you aren’t providing any convincing arguments.

"you sound ridiculous"
"You sound like you have no knowledge".
I think that's personal.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:10

@KatyaKabanova sorry you are going through that. A close family member has recently been there. It’s really tough.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:09

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 13:07

Fine. I'll be honest, I'm killing time because I'm in a chemotherapy unit. I have been sharper.
Anyway. In this exchange I haven't got personal or negative with you.
Let's leave it there.

I didn’t say anything personal about you either. I said you aren’t providing any convincing arguments.

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 13:07

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:05

That’s my point. You aren’t giving any convincing arguments despite all this in depth knowledge you claim to have. You are just spouting random comments.

Fine. I'll be honest, I'm killing time because I'm in a chemotherapy unit. I have been sharper.
Anyway. In this exchange I haven't got personal or negative with you.
Let's leave it there.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:05

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 13:02

I never said it was.

That’s my point. You aren’t giving any convincing arguments despite all this in depth knowledge you claim to have. You are just spouting random comments.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:04

Deedeesharpwhatkindoflady · 03/03/2025 13:02

It's not legal in this country,
Explain your hippy theory to the mother whose little girl was shot and killed.

What are you on about ? I’m challenging someone who said a spliff is more harmful than alcohol. Look at all the people killed by drunk driving every year including children.tell them alcohol isn’t harmful with your “wine o clock “ nonsense

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 13:02

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:02

That has absolutely nothing to do with what I’ve just said!

I never said it was.

Deedeesharpwhatkindoflady · 03/03/2025 13:02

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 12:40

People growing their own small amounts for personal use doesn’t harm anyone. Plus it’s legal in many countries now. This makes your argument fall flat.

It's not legal in this country,
Explain your hippy theory to the mother whose little girl was shot and killed.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 13:02

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 13:00

It's all relative, indeed. It does make for a fascinating, if depressing area of study, though. Addicts come from all socio economic groups it seems to me, but the young county lines couriers are some of the worst cases I've come across.
That's only my personal experience, which you may discount. Of course.

That has absolutely nothing to do with what I’ve just said!

Mrsbloggz · 03/03/2025 13:01

Deedeesharpwhatkindoflady · 03/03/2025 12:59

You're boring me now,bye,bye.🙋

Maybe you need a bit of speed to pep you up girl 😘

BurgundyZero · 03/03/2025 13:00

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

crosses self

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 13:00

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 12:47

You keep reminding me you were talking to another poster. I don’t care. Regardless of how many peer reviewed articles you have read, It’s pointless comparing 1 joint to 1 glass of wine. You may as well compare 1 bottle of wine to 1 or 2 puffs of a spliff. It’s all relative.

It's all relative, indeed. It does make for a fascinating, if depressing area of study, though. Addicts come from all socio economic groups it seems to me, but the young county lines couriers are some of the worst cases I've come across.
That's only my personal experience, which you may discount. Of course.

juggleit · 03/03/2025 12:59

KidsDoBetter · 02/03/2025 23:12

Cheese is another street name for Monkey Dust. V popular in Stoke apparently

I do believe the poster meant actual cheese though. 😆
Surely anyone in midlife can relate to the cheese addiction rather than the illegal stuff?

Personally I would leave a party if coke/ E’s were handed around - would bring me awful flash backs of witnessing friends get off their faces Back in the day.

I worked in mental health at the time and my predictions of some of my friends psychological outcomes were text book sadly. Drug taking is one topic I'm very judgmental about.

Deedeesharpwhatkindoflady · 03/03/2025 12:59

Mrsbloggz · 03/03/2025 12:52

Lol, sounds like you've just flown in from the 1990s🤣🤭 here you go
https://curaleafclinic.com/
Very easy to score some weed legally in the UK 😎

You're boring me now,bye,bye.🙋

Mrsbloggz · 03/03/2025 12:52

Deedeesharpwhatkindoflady · 03/03/2025 12:48

Don't be so stupid
Weed is illegal in the UK.
I'm a former amphetamine user of 20 years,it was easy to obtain didn't make it legal.

Lol, sounds like you've just flown in from the 1990s🤣🤭 here you go
https://curaleafclinic.com/
Very easy to score some weed legally in the UK 😎