To not want people to take my photo at wedding

‘No phones’ wedding. Have people hand them over at the entrance. Sorted and makes it a million miles better

You could ask that people don't put their photos up on social media, pretty standard, that means you won't see them and pick yourself apart.

If the Bride and Groom entrance you refer to is just before the meal, you could always opt out of that and enter withe everyone. It's YOUR wedding, do it YOUR way so that YOU enjoy it. People are changing things up these days and it's very refreshing and more personal. Best of luck.

It's absolutely fine to request no photos/filming.

You can just wait at the front or all walk in together to avoid the aisle thing.

It's your wedding, it's ok to politely request things.

If you suffer from anxiety you might be better of having a really small, quiet wedding with only a few people.

Trying to control what every guest does and worrying about things all day does not sound like much fun for you or for your guests.

Im dreading even walking down the aisle tbh

Walk down with your partner maybe, if that would help?

I would say just skip the whole aisle thing and be there when your guests arrive. But that might draw more attention because it's unusual so might not work for you.

Every wedding I've been to in the last 10 years has asked for no photos during the ceremony so that the professional photos can see people and not just have people holding up phones. It's pretty standard.

Plan a small, intimate wedding OP...there's no need to have a big traditional ceremony, that you'll clearly not enjoy!

I was just before social media and smart phones with good quality cameras, but my vicar had a blanket rule: no photos during church services. These days, I think it’s essential. Otherwise you’ll have phones waving all over the place.

Yes such a nice way of doing it! I can’t believe all the posters agreeing with people taking photos all day TBH! It’s so nice when people are just enjoying it rather than watching it through a screen…

We asked no phones during ceremony- afterwards everyone said it felt so much nicer as they weren’t distracted by taking photos. We also asked for no photos to be shared of us on Social media. No one even questioned it. 2 friends did share a photo each but asked first!

I went to a wedding where the vicar came in beforehand to announce that the bride had arrived, and really wanted to see our smiling faces as she came in, so please keep phones down and there will be photos available afterwards.

I think that was such a nice way of doing it that most people complied, and bride got to see a room of smiles, not phones.

I don't understand why it's such a big ask. I hate having my photo taken personally. At our wedding, my uncle and cousin insisted on filming the whole thing then making a big deal of the film itself. I've never watched it, I'd much rather just have my own memories.

They can make sure they get a photographer who is happy to share all the digital shots meaning that they can share an album with guests to download for free.

I think as long as they stipulate “no photos of bride and groom” that’s fine. They can’t stop guests taking photos of themselves dressed up, but asking them not to photograph bride and groom is reasonable!

Are you sure you want a traditional wedding, OP? That level of anxiety probably means you won't actually enjoy a big wedding...
I think you should organise a wedding that you will love on your own terms z even if that means eloping/ sneaking off just the two of you.

I'm not sure it's realistic to control all the images taken at a traditional wedding, honestly, and it sounds like it could swallow your happiness worrying about it all day (and during the entire run up) if you go ahead.

You can do pretty much whatever you like.

Are you planning on having a photographer? You could aim to have a photographer there of your choosing, someone you feel comfortable with. It might be worth asking for an 'engagement shoot'- that way you can have an hour where they give you a few poses to try, find out what you want to avoid, let them know what you're insecure about to try and work with. Regardless of how you feel in the moment though, you are going to want some images of the day- even if they go in a box for 20 years!

You could ask your guests for an 'unplugged' ceremony

You and your partner are also able to have a couples entrance if you like. I haven't heard of one where guests enter at the same time, but there's nothing to stop you getting ready and travelling to the ceremony with your guests, so there isn't that impact when you walk in the room.

Alternatively, if you don't want to do it, you can just get married the 2 of you.

Honestly you’re overthinking. If you don’t want to be centre of attention you should really have chosen a quieter wedding and maybe a larger party afterwards. Weddings by default are focussed on the bride… and maybe the groom a little. But the bride. If that’s a big deal for you or causing you Actual anxiety- maybe rethink your wedding plans to better suit your personality

I hate people taking their own photos at weddings, thinking they can outdo the professionals. They often actually get in the way of the proper photographer and make their job harder.

I would have the offciant make an announcement before the ceremony starts. “Jane and Steve have asked that you please refrain from taking photos of them during the day please, as they have a professional photographer and will share the photos afterwards. This way you can all focus on enjoying the day. Thank you” I’ve been at a wedding where they said this and it was quite refreshing not seeing all the phone screens popping up as they walked back down the aisle!

I think it is quite a big ask to ask people not to take photos full stop. Prof photos can be expensive to buy, and guests will want a record of the day!
You can certainly ask that they are not put on SM, that is entirely reasonable.
I would also think asking for no photos at the ceremony itself is totally reasonable.

YABU to expect family and friends not
take photos of you at a big event when they will obviously want to do so. However, lots of couples ask no one posts photos until after they’ve posted their own, so you can see the nice or professional ones up first so any bad ones won’t seem so bad anyway. And I’m sure your loved ones will only be posting nice pictures of you on your wedding day!

in terms of entrance that’s totally up
to you and your husband to be, do whatever you want!

I attended a wedding where we were asked not to turn round and look at the bride as she came in because she was anxious. Photos were different because this was before widespread social media so nobody posted images but did take them.

It is also common to ask people not to take photos during the ceremony but to enjoy it in person and not through a screen.

Perhaps you can ask people not to turn round and to not post or not tag you in the posts? I don't think you'll stop them taking pictures during the reception, though.

You can ask. It’s not unreasonable to ask. Would you be willing to have a pro photographer and then share some of their photos? That way you can have control over how they look?

In some weddings everyone just mingles before the ceremony. You could do that to take the pressure off.