Friends not sponsoring dh

Why should they … not everything has to be reciprocated. Just because the marathon is important to OP doesn’t mean it has to important to others. And if OP sponsored her friends kids to expect something back then she did so for the wrong reasons.
Oh I’m running a marathon so please sponsor me 🙄🙄🙄 People aren’t interested.

They just don’t want to or can’t be bothered. Your DH’s event is not important to them and they obviously aren’t that interested, accept it and move on.
If you sponsored their child then that’s up to you … they didn’t force you and you can’t force them, nor do they HAVE to reciprocate 🤷🏻‍♀️
If you don’t want to sponsor their kids in the future then don’t … end of.

I want to sponsor Henry and his effing Teddy for doing laps around the playground if you have their link, I’ll happily chuck into that.

The responses are awful. Why should OP not expect the same response from her friends as she’s given them? That’s what good friends do (considering there doesn’t seem to be money issues)

People making out the marathon is a stroll in the park is laughable. I completed it with 16 weeks training and 4 runs a week. Never again!!

It might not be a reciprocal arrangement but if I had a kid and someone sponsored him or her for walking around the playground (is that really a thing?) I would be a bit upset if they didn't bung DH a fiver for running a marathon!

Thankfully I've never been asked to sponsor friend's kids and they are adults now!

100% agree ..: that’s exactly what it is!

i think you are right to be disappointed but tbh I need about 10 reminders and lists in social media as I simply dont always have the time or my cards to make the payment! Just send plenty more reminders and remember it’s not always the top of their to do pile

Yes, I did. And no, it doesn't matter. No one is obligated to sponsor anyone like that. It is not a reciprocal arrangement. The people being targeted may have recently sponsored multiple others and not have spare cash to sponsor anyone else. Or for whatever personal reason, not want to sponsor OP's husband.

@Blushingm if you donate to a charity that has places in events, then some of your donation will be going towards those event costs. They don't separate out where the donations come from. Charities have to spend money to raise money. You may have paid towards the three running vests that I have in my drawer. The vests were not my incentive for taking part!

Did you - and others here - miss the point that the OP targeted people that she has previously been asked to sponsor? Just curious really.

Because some of the 'sponsorship' goes on the persons fees and t-shirt etc. if you want to donate - donate so 100% goes to the charity - not sponsor someone where part of your donation goes towards their costs

'Keeping fundraisers in jobs and privileges'.

Privileges? I wish. You don't have a career in fundraising for the money.

uk.indeed.com/career/fundraiser/salaries

Absolutely flipping HATE being asked to sponsor an adult on their self-indulgent little projects. I just ignore all such requests and the more someone asks, the more I’ll ignore. Do whatever challenge you like, but don’t go begging to friends and family. It’s endless. Would only consider it on a very rare occasion if it’s a very specific and highly personal cause.

I choose specific charities and causes to support and do so quietly. Just because a cause is close to someone else’s heart doesn’t mean it’s one I want to support.

Sponsoring a child to do something for a good cause is completely different. Adults need to get over themselves.

I just don't understand the point of sponsorship....if I give £10 to a charity, it makes no difference to me whether you climbed a mountain, ran a marathon, did 100 star jumps...

Gosh MN is such an odd place. Or maybe I'm just clueless as to how people feel / think about everyday experiences. Wedding threads are always an eye opener too. I'm my day to day life evening invites are fine, as are paid bars and asking for a donation to the honeymoon instead of a pressie.

Personally, I've done three half marathons over the last 10yrs. I was sponsored for all and realised much more than I expected. I'm an occasional runner so training for a half is bloody hard work. The race is indeed a great experience because of the crowd and camaraderie. By the logic of some on here the fact that it was a "great experience" means that I didn't deserve to be sponsored. Which makes no sense to me at all. And how dare I have been proud of myself and put "I did it!" posts on social media. How selfish am I?!
I suspect the OPs DH is doing the marathon. For the vast majority of people running a marathon is incredibly hard. It may have been a personal life goal, but that doesn't mean that it's any less hard work. I'm in awe of friends of mind who've managed to complete the marathon and I am more than happy to sponsor them because I think they deserve it. Clearly lots of people think differently but there you go.

Good luck to your DH, OP.

When I do sponsor someone online, I prefer to do it anonymously - I prefer to give without advertising it. Perhaps that means my friends are disgruntled because I haven't given, although one friend happened to mention how pleased she was that she'd had someone donate anonymously.

Do bc we actually know what he's doing?

Or is it one of those ones where people have 'a great experience climbing xxx and raised £2' when actually the sponsorship is £200 it's just £198 went on the costs incurred

I would recommend making the fundraising interesting: a raffle for a very posh Easter egg, the kind nobody would ever buy for themselves... A quiz night ... Perhaps a film night if there's a suitable film which ties in with the charity.

Good luck to him, he'll get there. Mumsnet is thank heavens not representative of most of the world.

Yes, so? It was incredibly hard work. The sense of achievement is something I'd never experienced before. I followed up with the charity now I can't do physical fundraisers like that and continue to support them. Had never heard of them before the challenge.

Think about it though. Have you ever looked at the financial reports of some of these charities? The percentage that goes toward the actual core cause vs. The amount spent on salaries, fundraising, expenses etc?

say a charity has 10 places for the London marathon. The donations have to cover a team manager, kit, entry fees, support team- presumably it will involve overnight stays, food etc for that team for the event. Often there are physios, food and drink for the runners as well. Then you probably have a small full time team working year round to advertise, recruit runners, book entries, deal with finances etc to organise the following year.

so after all the bills are paid how much is left for the “charity”?

the cynical side of me (tainted by have worked with gb athletes where it’s a similar mentality, the paid staff are extremely well looked after- better than the athletes they “support” in some cases) would wonder if the majority of the funding keeps the fundraisers in jobs and privileges.

This is a sad post, OP. Good on your husband.
I must admit I don't give much to charities and I never do any events myself for charity but for sure if one of my DC did a sponsored hop-o-thing, I'd 100% do a reciprocal donation to anyone who had donated to Henry's hop-a-thon.
In your case, I'd note who did and didn't sponsor my DH and never give to a penny to those (assholes) that didn't.

But like you said ‘amazing’ experience.

A marathon or sky dive (or any other high cost thing) is fine as long as the person fronts the costs for doing it, themselves. All of it. Any money raised then by sponsoring goes to the charity as all the costs are paid for.

That's what I mean by it. Charities should be able to confirm whether costs have been paid or not - and no, I don't trust people to tell the truth because so many don't (that bit is to another poster).

If people don't pay for the upfront costs of whatever they are doing then what's in it for the charity? Sponsorship money is sucked up into that cost and I don't agree with that at all.

If you care about a charity linked to a friend's disease why can't you just ask for donations to that charity. Why the ridiculous sponsoring just so the person sponsored can get the honour of other people's donations all while doing an activity he enjoys. It's so hypocritical. But in OP's case the friends don't seem to object to sponsoring in general because they have asked OP to contribute, which she has, why I think those friends have short memory and are pretty tight.