Friends not sponsoring dh

I give to charity anyway, I don’t need adults to exercise to encourage me to do so.

I do sponsor kids in doing charitable raising though….because they are children.

I don't like the idea of feeling like you have to sponsor someone because they once upon a time they sponsored your kids.

charity should be selfless not expected

YABU

Your husbands thing isn’t until April, that’s at least 4 weeks away. I wouldn’t sponsor someone so far in advance. I might do it a couple of days before but more likely the day of the event or just after.

Jesus Christ, this thread has really opened my eyes to how mean spirited people are

If OP has sponsored the kids would it really hurt the parents to send her DH a tenner? I wouldn't bother sponsoring the kids in future.

You get your sponsors on tbe day with events like these. You’ll get the odd few trickle in at first but the real sponsorship flood happens on the day of the event.

What's the nature of the challenge? If it's something useful, say, a litter-pick in your local park, I'd sponsor him. If it's a sport/hobby/adventure thing, I wouldn't.

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I must be honest, I never sponsor even good friends for runs, tough mudders, sky dives etc......it's a faff to do online and I don't want to be forever receiving emails from the charities. I don't want to part with my hard earned money every time one of these things comes up (almost weekly in my experience). I only give to charities I want to support when I want to support them. I don't think it's something to take personally. I'm a bit more generous if it's a kid but even then I have my limits.

I never sponsor anything

I’ve been asked to ‘sponsor’ mountain climbs in Morocco and Spain, to raise money for charities in the UK. I’m not keen to fund someone’s overseas jolly so I wouldn’t sponsor those sorts of activities as it feels more like you are contributing to a holiday.

If I want to donate, I do it directly to the charity rather than a just giving link where they are going to take a percentage. That might be a reason.

You haven't answered what the challenge is OP.

So, what fancy holiday or sporting activity are you wanting people to pay for him to go on, then?

MND is a very worthy cause, absolutely, but what is it that he is doing?

I really don't like sponsoring people to do things where there is a fee for the activity - skydive or whatever - especially if it's an exciting thing to do.

Sitting in a bath of cold beans or something, I'd sponsor that, but not something people do for fun and have to money for.

Have you just generically posted on social media/in a whatsapp group, or have you asked people directly? Asking individuals directly usually works much better.

I'd donate to a fundraiser for the individual in that situation, or if they themselves were fundraising for an MND charity, it's just not my thing to donate to people doing challanges, marathons etc. I do sponsor kids cos schools and clubs put such pressure on families to raise money

If many people are already friends with the individual who has MND, might it be that they have already donated to this charity prior to your husbands event?

I recently ignored my sil request to sponsor her to do a 5km walk for a cancer charity. A 5km walk is in no way a challenge to her and I have been supporting a specific cancer charity recently due to a dear friend recently passing away from a type of cancer. my sils event was just not high on my agenda although I wished her well with it

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If you disagree stop handing your children’s sponsorship forms out.

Well If he’s not on social media that’s why he’s not getting sponsorship. Much better chance getting people to donate by posting it on there rather than relying on a few friends

Um no. Just because people don't donate towards your husbands challenge doesn't mean they don't believe in giving back! That's ridiculous 😂 I definitely give back, just not towards grown adults asking for sponsorship!

Also agree with those upthread who say it'll happen closer to the time. I've been burned before by donating and then the race not going ahead, so if I did donate it would be closer to the time.

It really depends on what the charity is, and what the activity is. I love a long distance walk, but not many of my friends do, so I have signed up for some "charity " walks in the UK, but made up the minimum funding myself, as a way of doing a bucket-list hike safely with company (eg the overnight ones). I don't actually expect anyone to give me much cash to do my hobby, even if I did have to do a ton of training to complete the event.

I can't imagine why people aren't queuing up to sponsor your husband, @Primmyhill. I bet you asked so nicely, too...

It really depends so much on what it is he’s doing.

The responses are mean @Primmyhill. But the task he’s undertaking is critical as to whether I’d sponsor him.

Why don’t adults ever do sponsored silences? Some really would make loads of money. Try that op.

Exactly. Cheeky Fucker territory.