Friends not sponsoring dh

Sorry MND

I would definitely sponsor a charity for MMD. It must be the worse illness a person can go through. A friend is suffering from it just now.it’s horrific. If any of your friends asks you to sponsor in the future I’d tell them no and why not.

I used to repeatedly buy raffle tickets, sponsor other people’s kids at work, but when I asked for sponsorship for my kid who was doing a sponsored walk for cancer research ( her gran had just been treated for breast cancer ) not one of those people even sponsored my child £1. I stopped sponsoring other people after that.

Or pissed off, bored, and sick to DEATH of being asked to give give give to every bloody cause, and sponsor every person for this and that, and give to every other child's thing THEY are doing! Including the dreadful African school trips that many children go on, that they need £7000 for.

I am sick to death of being asked for money. It's also in every shop, store, eatery, every bloody bastard bloody time I go out. 'Would you like to 'round up' your £7.88 to £10,00 for 'charity?' 'Would you like to add a pound for charity?' 'Would you like to contribute an extra 5% for XYZ charity?'

No. I fucking WOULDN'T. If that makes me mean spirited, then I will wear that badge! 😎

Op why are you avoiding saying what he's actually doing?

I think he might get responses if he emphasises the personal story of his friend with MMD (with friend's agreement of course). Then it's not just a random 'sponsor me to do this thing I like doing' request.

I’ve never sponsored anyone.. I hate the whole thing! People give to causes they believe in. End of.

It depends what the challenge is. It sounds like it could be London Marathon. I never sponsor this far out, usually a week or so before. Especially if it’s someone one beyond immediate (friend’s husband) which seems to be the case.

Wow there are some very cynical tight arses on this thread!!

Honestly, I’d only do this sort of thing if it was a charity that I was passionate about. I’m sure MND is an important cause, but it hasn’t touched me personally, so I probably wouldn’t. If I do a race on a charity place, I’d just pay the minimum myself and then anything else is a bonus I’d be grateful for.

Depends what it is - if it’s a holiday with a challenge attached (where the fundraising is effectively covering the cost of the trip) eg trek the Great Wall of China then I’m always reluctant to contribute. If it’s running a marathon in this country or similar then I’ll sponsor. You’re within your rights not to sponsor anyone in future though, if they haven’t responded to your request for sponsorship.

YANBU - mean buggers

Money would have to be extremely tight for me not to bung a tenner his way - and I am a single mum with limited capacity to work.

God I hope not everyone feels like this! I'm about to set up a page for sponsorship for 2 races to raise money for the same charity. I've (obviously) paid the entry fees myself and was hoping as a very close friend's mum died of it recently I can do something to honour her memory.

There are so many adults I'd sponsor in a sponsored silence!!!!

If you're a close friend I'd sponsor you but April? I'd be waiting till closer to the date.

I get it OP.
I sponsor my cousin's and friends kids all the time and always give £20-£30.
When I did a sponsored event recently (not something that you have to pay to do and the proceeds were for our local hospice), not one of them offered to give me anything at all and I'd have been delighted with £1-£2.
I ignore their requests now as it was getting ridiculously expensive any way.

I think money is much tighter now for most families. They’d have to be a really close friend for me to sponsor them.

You’re right of course but the big events are huge for the charities - they bring in donations that wouldn’t otherwise come in atall.

I didn't use any sponsorship money to pay my marathon entry fee - that came out of my own pocket - as it should. Nor did the charity stage the event I did, or pay to put it on. I didn’t see any of the donation money as if you use an agent like just giving it goes straight to the charity. Wasn’t a “go fund me” which might be different. So I guess it depends. But yes the charities do use donation money to print running vests etc so there is leakage.

Why are you sponsoring your friends kids to walk around the playground? I would only sponsor a family members kid for that kind of thing. I hate sponsoring people because the type of people who want sponsoring don’t just do one thing, there’s a new sponsorship request every couple of months so they can do a marathon or whatever where they can’t get a place without doing it for charity.

As a real life example.... my old work place (a kid's hospital) had an sponsored abseiling event to raise money. Minimum was £25, and in the small print, it was clear that the £25 went to the company providing the staff etc for the actual abseiling. Anything more went to charity.
Several of my workmate went round asking for money "for charity" so they could have a go. They stopped asking after they raised £25, funnily enough.
I had a go, and used my own money instead of being a CF and expecting other people to pay for me under the guise of charity.

Oh FFS.

I'm assuming your DH is not a child so you're not comparing like with like.

In the past I haven't sponsored people because -

The volume of requests started to annoy me

I didn't see why I should give money to someone else's chosen charity while they continued on their own fitness journey for their own benefit

I was also doing the exact same 'challenge' and thought the person was joking

I didn't feel any connection to the charity

I was kind of on your side for a minute, and it sounds like a good thing that your DH is doing his 'thing' for, but you do sound breathtakingly entitled @Primmyhill And you sound very angry that people aren't doing what you think they should be doing. Life isn't transactional, and you don't do something, or give something, and expect - indeed demand - that people 'pay you back.'

Do you have a child going on a trip to Africa anytime soon, to 'help' the villagers build a school? 😬

Sorry OP but I’ve reached the point in my life where spring no longer brings a flurry of wedding invitations but instead an avalanche of JustGiving links for the London marathon. I don’t mind sponsoring a few but tbh I’d rather most of them were honest that they are asking me to contribute to their mid-life crisis.

It is crap that people are not reciprocating your generosity, however. I would be pissed off at that too.

Are you doing his PR?
Could explain his lack of sponsors.