Friends not sponsoring dh

I've run loads of marathons and never run one for charity - there isn't a charity i feel strongly enough about to hassle people for money I'm afraid and it's my hobby anyway.

I do give to charities via DD though.

I've sponsored one or two people who have a close relationship with that charity day to day, the rest I've ignored.

I donate if it’s a mega thing like rowing the Atlantic for a good cause

As I said. It very much depends what he’s doing

Because a some of the money they are raising is not going to charity, but to pay for them doing the sponsored thing to start with.
If you have a sky dive on your bucket list, then pay for it yourself.

That's who he's raising money for... Not what he's actually doing. Is it a marathon, skydive, 3 Peaks etc...

This. Just give to charity if you want, and stop the performative nonsense. It's showy and naff, and most people hate it. Like many others I give to a number of charities through my bank account, and will NOT give to chuggers, begging at checkouts, and fecking sponsored shit/school kids trying to raise £7000 for a trip to Africa/a MAMIL riding from John O'Groats to Lands End to raise money for a particular charity of THEIR choice.

She said it in her subsequent post. Though if she had any sense, she would have said it in her opening OP.

"Primmyhill · Today 20:49
It’s for MND"

Really? I thought people kept all the cash for themselves. Thanks for clearing that up.

Sorry if I’ve missed what the actual challenge is. But the ones I absolutely refuse to sponsor are the ones where the participants ‘cycle round Cuba’ or walk to Machu Pichu. They have a holiday in a big group and come to you to subsidise their travel. Awful.

I think a lot of it depends on the “who”, the “why” and the “what”
I’m not going to worry too much about sponsoring the partner of a friend, just because they are the partner of a friend, whereas I MIGHT have sponsored the friend purely on that basis alone.
I’m not going to sponsor anyone to support a charity/ cause that I don’t believe in.
I’m not going to sponsor anyone to “achieve a lifelong ambition” to parachute/ hike the Great Wall of China or whatever it might be, where the vast majority of the money covers costs and does not reach the charity itself

So, if you’re finding that your link is being ignored, maybe you need to include some additional information, about why your DH is undertaking whatever this challenge might be. Underline that his motives are purely to support your friend with MND and how fundraising helps support people with this condition. The difference that a few pounds can make. Reassure people that 100% of their donations will reach the charity, and that your DH will not be benefitting personally in any way from their donations. If it’s something that he’ll actually enjoy doing, then be honest about it, but be really clear that all donations will reach the charity. If it’s something that he’s terrified of, then make it light hearted but reinforce how much of a challenge it will be for him.
Make it personal.

But as a rule, adults get sponsored less than children.

In some cases I suspect there's a bit of lashing out at the light it shines on their own lack of charitable concern.

In other cases they don’t want to chip in to the £5k Dave needs to raise to cycle to Paris (which costs £4.5k of what he’s raised).

Some of the stuff friends have mine have done, notably the guy that walked from London to Istanbul have been entirely self-funded and there’s been a charity if people would like to make a donation. Always happy to donate in that case. He raised 1000s more for his charity than he’d have been able to donate personally, and many times more than his own costs.

What he's doing is relevant. If he's a runner who's doing a marathon, I doubt I'd sponsor him. That's a bloke doing his hobby. If it's something that's a struggle for him, I'd respect the effort.

But ultimately, I' m not mad on sponsoring adults. Just donate, you know?

Why not just say what he's doing? It's obviously something cunty or you'd have said @Primmyhill

If your husband wants to raise funds, why does he not do something that is actually useful, like picking up litter, rather than 'a huge challenge' which I assume is something he actually wants to do but which has no practical value to anyone else?

I think this is the most articulate way of explaining it. The fact the OP still hasn't said what her husband is actually doing highlights the fact it's probably something similar.

What? WHY? Why do they need nearly a third of a million?!

I can’t believe how many people on here are saying they hate sponsored things.
What? Someone getting off their arse and doing something to raise money (in most cases) for charity? Trying to make a positive difference in the world.
How can you hate that? I don’t get it

I don’t need someone else to tell me who I should donate money to. I have standing orders with the charities that I care about. I’m not giving extra money to another charity to justify your husbands hobby.

Yeah, so what?
it works for me… nothing wrong with being tight… it’s my business

You were the one who opened this dialogue with me.

well, for what it’s worth, in my opinion there’s a lot wrong with being both selfish and tight. I prefer people who are generous and think about what works for others and well as what works for themselves.
Not sure how that makes me the entitled , grabby one out of the two of us, but ok 😂

Yes, that is taking the piss.
They would be better off raising that money and sending it to the charity.

I dont look down on adults doing things for charity...fair play to them if they want to do something for charity and give their own money

I just think that very often, things that people ask to be sponsored for are either something they personally benefit from and want to do so is quite self indulgent, or the event they are doing costs money that needs to be covered so the charity does not see all of the money.

Yes that's the kind of thing that really annoys me, it's not really for charity at all!

So over sponsoring people.

Especially to do things they wanted to do anyway. Fair enough for you to stop sponsoring other people.

Not so much to expect people to sponsor you and your family in turn.

I like to sponsor people from time to time but I tend to only do it when
a) the charity is a cause close to my heart (MND absolutely ticks that box for me)
And
b) they are doing something genuinely impressive and have made it clear they are covering any "running costs" themselves. I'm not paying for someone to have a fun day out /trip to India or whatever under the fake umbrella of charity

Also - if you aren't on social media, how are you sharing the link? If it's by email maybe it's going into people's junk mail?

Nar I wouldn’t be sponsoring either. Sorry op .

I do give to charities, but I’m very picky about which ones, especially if the have big bosses making more then the prime minister!

Adults asking for sponsorship money just reminds me of this Catherine Tate sketch.

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