Friends not sponsoring dh

You can say no. It’s not like you are going to see them again. But if someone I know is using up their free time to train for a charity event, pay admission fees etc then I will happily give them some money.

I would sponsor a child who was doing something worthwhile and not just to look pretty on mummy's social media! When I was teaching I had a blanket ban on sponsoring pupils otherwise it became insane!

Depends on the set up.
A friend of mine is doing a fundraising trip for a charity. He has paid the cost element himself upfront so that anything anyone gives actually goes to the charity. I have donated.
If someone is trying to raise money for a holiday dressed up as fundraising, no thank you.

So... is he walking the Great Wall of China, or something similar that is essentially a holiday or bucket list activity?

That probably means it’s something not particularly challenging or impressive. A marathon or something.

Worst is when people get sponsored for doing something that they’re doing for fun such as skydiving etc. A lot of these requests are cheeky and everyone seems to be bombarded with fundraising requests.

If it was for a worthwhile charity, and MND definitely is, I wouldn’t think twice about sponsoring someone.

But - I think sometimes of it involves an ambitious trip or far flung destination, some people might be less inclined as they think they’re paying for someone’s jolly.

This, was in a shop today.. 'do you want to round up by 87p for charity?'
"What's the charity?"
'Errrmmm...'.rabbit in headlights!

I may well be wrong, but if the OP's username relates to an area of London, we are definitely dealing with a Jimothy bucket list style event.

This.

”sponsorship” tends to be money someone someone can go do something they want to do anyway, but for free as they’re “doing it for charity, mate”. Or if not for free just so they can get bonus nice bloke points rather than coming across as a selfish git with a time consuming hobby which means his kids never see him.

so no. I don’t.

Has no practical value? Raising money for an MND charity?!

You are not being unreasonable because you have supported your friends, and they are in turn not supporting you and your husband. That is hurtful.

I get all the comments, complaining about paying to complete someone else'e bucket list, and the audacity is beyond comprehension when it's someone you haven't seen hits you up on social media after 20 years. But you HAVE supported people.

I usually try to donate when I can, because even if I wouldn't normally support the chosen charity (as long as I am not morally opposed) I want to a support a friend doing something significant to them and a cause they care about. They are not taking the money for themselves.

You don't give to receive in this world, so just because you donated you can't expect a donation back. But then again it is a sad indictment of modern society that your friends aren't supporting you as you have done for them.

As a side note, the people that I have seen raise the most money through a sponsored swim or cycle are wealthy successful professionals, and people obviously want to suck up to them for their own social climbing purposes.

THIS! ^ It's every time I go out, in many shops and eateries, and stores. Round up, give, donate, give give give. How much fecking money do they think we all have?!

NEWSFLASH PEOPLE! I don't crap money!

Judging by these comments, it seems a lot of people do indeed think they are covering the participants fees. JustGiving etc goes directly to the charity. The participant will have already covered their fees (often a lot which people don’t realise).

I sort of feel like this (unless they’ve had a really really personal experience of the charity so I think it’s worthwhile).

It makes no difference to me what the challenge is - it’s usually something the person wanted to do. I hate these bloody things, never asked one person to sponsor my kids, dh and I just made a donation, like we do with all the charities we support.

If he was making and selling things for the charity, or raffling things off - or doing something tangible like arranging a blood donor session or volunteering his time - then I don't think most people would mind in the slightest and would probably admire him.

But sponsoring - that's other people's money, not his, and frequently it's someone doing their own hobby at a higher level (which should be its own reward) rather than anything useful.

Jimothy! 😂

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-bristol-32748923

I get asked several times a day if I go out. Rounding up my pound at a till, chuggers in the streets, a stand at the entrance/exit of a shop. I get them knock on my door too.

That's crazy!

This
Fed up with 'Jimothy is selflessly climbing KMJ/walking the Great Wall, Amazon, Skydiving....
Pay for him to do it..

Probably insurance, plus escort craft(s) which will need to be stocked with provisions and crewed, plus medics…

How often are you posting about this on social media OP?

I ask because I saw your post and remembered my cousin has been posting constantly about a run she's doing, I made a mental note to donate on payday (it's a worthwhile charity imo and I'm proud of her). I got paid over a week ago and have only just donated after your post reminded me, because she's posting a lot it's almost become background noise, my brain doesn't even register it.

YANBU, people are selfish.

I find it hard to believe that the reason people don’t want to contribute is because they get keep getting asked by every other Tom, Dick and Harry.

I might get asked a handful of times a year, maximum. The odd tenner throughout the year seems fair to me. Especially for a cause like MND.

She hasn't said what he is doing to "raise money" for them though.

There's a big difference between a genuinely impressive challenge and a "sponsored skydive" which basically is just a way of getting your mates to pay for your skydive