Friends not sponsoring dh

Best of luck to you!

That's exactly why my mum does with swimming. It's no more than she dies usually. I sponsor her though because she's my mum!

Thanks!!

Bloody glad I read this thread, genuinely didn’t know how people felt about fundraising!

I’m a private person and posting at all will show everyone that my children have a disability (it’s very newly diagnosed my twins are not yet 2) but I know this place is going to help us for many years to come and just wanted to give as much to them as possible.

Blimey! Sounds like someone trying to push a pyramid scheme.

He has paid for his own place also donated to the charity.

So then if he has already donated, there is no need or reason for him to even do this so-called 'activity' then....right? He, like all the rest of us, can donate PRIVATELY, like private citizens.

Unless of course, he just wants poor mugs to fund his, er,......'activity'.

I was on your side until you made it obvious you weren't even going to tell us what this....... activity even is.

People don’t always reciprocate things. People don’t always treat others like you treat them. It’s a sad fact of life.

Just because you donate “hundreds” to other people’s sponsorship challenges doesn’t give you the right to moan about other people not sponsoring.

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I loathe sponsoring people. I do it very begrudgingly. Whenever my children have to do anything sponsored I find it so embarrassing. I over compensate and do £20 from me, £20 from my DH and then get Granny and Grandad to do the same. I can’t go cap in hand to colleagues, neighbours and friends, it’s like begging, but you see some kids with tons of people on the sponsor form, I just couldn’t do it.

Yes, I knew someone who did this job too. She started trying to sign us up when she was not even working, and we were in the pub.

Jimothy is a MAMiL doing the London to Brighton bike ride.

Yes, this exactly. If I want to donate to a charity, I will donate directly, without any middlemen or intermediaries who may or may not be taking a cut for themselves.

He’s had to pay fees for a place so I guess it’s something like the London marathon, skydive, triathalon etc. That’s nor a challenge, that’s a bucket list day out! He shouldn’t need sponsoring to do a hobby. Why not skip the paid event and just run 26 miles/ bike or whatever it is in the countryside for free and be able to donate even more to charity? The fact he’s doing it at a paid event makes it clear he’s doing it for himself/ for the experience first and for the charity second.

Ok, so tell us what the fucken thing is because if you don't, it's because you know the activity is just a free 'piss up' basically. The fact that you are too embarrassed to tell us says that you have a guilty conscience and know the 'activity' is not justifiable.

Well, in my mind, yes.

However, I can't in any way guarantee that other people wouldn't want you to do something to somehow "justify" their donation; there are several here who seem to think you should.

What I would do is if you do somethnig, make sure it's either something people can clearly see is free (and ideally beneficial, like the litter picking someone suggested) or that you state clearly that you will bear all costs for the event yourself and any money donated will go straight to the cause. Actually say that. Don't expect people to guess it.

Everyone is sponsored out.

Plus those being sponsored don't always return the favour.

And it's nice to get a thanks from the person you're handing over your money to, rather than tumbleweed.

When I last did 5K for a cancer charity I paid the fee and minimum sponsorship required myself.

I'm picky about my donations now.

Very true! I know someone who did this for a job for a few months when they were desperate for a job, and they got £65 for every person they signed up! So these people aren't doing it for the love of the charity when they say 'do you like animals?' or 'do you care about the elderly/the starving people in third world countries.'

This person HATED doing this by the way!

These charities want you to sign up and give your bank details so they can keep milking money from you for further products.

Yes, that sounds good! You can say what you're doing but put the charity link so they know they're donating directly. I'd be happy with that..

But running a marathon or playing darts or whatever doesn't actually raise money for charity or make a difference in the world does it? The money for charity comes from begging for money from friends, neighbors and colleagues.

I would say no sorry these days. Money is soon used up on heating bills. I cannot indulge an adult wanting t do something from their bucket list as its probably something they wanted to do anyway. My friends know my feelings on this and don't even ask me. I donate to charities that I rate.

I genuinely can't understand why your desire to give money to the underlying cause would be affected by how hard a person has trained. "I would save those five children, but I see you've been slacking off on the running machine, so I'll only save four."
I'd honestly like you to explain why the person asking for the money doing a "thing" has any impact at all on your desire to help a cause.

I won't do sponsorship on principle anymore.

Just because you see people who can afford to, don't be so entitled as to think they should.

The biggest problem is the number of people we know and how many people want sponsorship. If you say yes to one, then how do you say no to others? Its not just £10 or £20. Its £10 or £20 to EVERYONE who askes. Thats soon gets expensive.

I don't like it because its the guilt factor and this social pressure, so thats why I no longer do it. I get even more unimpressed at people who ask repeatedly and pressure more that once.

I donate to charities I want to, not ones I'm being emotionally blackmailed into donating to.

Don't be coercive.

Thanks for your advice as we are new to this!

So do you think I’m better to for example just post a link to the charity rather than actually do a fundraising activity?

Exactly, if you've paid your fees, if any are needed for the event, and will show me receipts for that, I might sponsor you. But not if my sponsorship is covering your fees, e.g. for the London marathon.