Friends not sponsoring dh

That's it you see. That's the issue for many with this kind of thing.

By the time he's done the bike ride in lycra on an uncomfortable bike seat, he will be Jimberley.

😂

Don't be mean. He's doing it to raise funds for his sister Jimberley's sex-change operation.

I am with you. I don't understand why people can't just ask to donate to a cause directly - even 1 pound or 2 pounds, rather then asking to sponsor their exquisite time wasting - like walking from A to B or a parachute jump, etc. Even if the cause is great you feel you are sponsoring somebody else's folly first and the cause second.

@AthWat That was what I was hinting at when I caveated it with "if he is truly trying to raise money for MND," because I also disapprove of challenge events where the fee for participation comes out of sponorship, such as skydiving, climbing Kilaminjaro etc. Some people do pay their fees themselves and fundraise on top. But the majority of sponsorship fundraising is in fact mass challenges that are not adventure challenges, e.g. walks, marathons, cycle rides, Movember, etc and these do genuinely raise more money for charity than they cost.

But is it the London Marathon? Because effectively the amount he's 'required' to raise for the charity is basically the fee for taking part. I hate when people want sponsoring for the London Marathon because it's almost always something theyve always wanted to do and the charity places is just the only way to get a place, Id rather people just paid the donation themselves and viewed it as the cost of participation in a big name event.

Parachute jumps are a classic. There was a piece in the British Medical Journal a few years ago demonstrating that they cost the NHS more than they raised for charities.

Good luck to your husband!

I’ve been scared off ever doing active fundraising 😂

You won't name the event but you did say you have paid all your own costs, was this something that was made clear to people who were asked for sponsorship?

I feel that if adults gave the money that the event costs them in terms of training and travel they would probably end up giving more.

A climb up a mountain such as people do for fun, unless there's a reason why it will be particularly arduous, brave and heroic, I would not feel like sponsoring. A mum friend running for SANDS I probably would. I would never sponsor something like a parachute jump - extremely risky and expensive. People do those things because they want to add they should pay for them.

However I budget for charity and usually it's already allocated. If I see a disaster I might make a one off donation but it's my call to do that.

We need to see a photo 😄

Nobody, just nobody, looks fantastic in lycra.

Again, you're blinded by the cause, and ignoring the process.

Is it a good thing to raise £1000 which people like yourself believe is "going to MND" and then eat up £750 in costs for your skydive, so the charity ends up with £250 and finds that those who gave the £750 won't make any more donations to MND, because "they already gave"? Is that good?

Equipment
Support
Insurance
Blah blah
The charity is at the end of the receiving line.

Well you don’t seem able to say what he’s doing so right now I figure you’re right.

YANBU Definitely don't sponsor little Johnnie for his hopping on one leg in aid of 3 legged donkeys again.

The ones that annoy me the most are folk raising money for some rare medical condition that no one has heard of because their 2nd cousin twice removed has just been diagnosed. Number of times I've had to explain I already donate to several well known health care charities and won't be sponsoring them for Human Felis Wartus Itchy itis of the scrotum.....

Gosh, how irksome!

OP, if your husband is truly trying tor raise money for MND, he is doing a good thing. I can't believe how many miserable people there are on this thread. If charities do not ask for money, directly themselves or through volunteer fundraisers like OP's DH fundraising on their behalf, they do not get as much money as if they asked. If you do not ask, you do not get. That is the reality of charity funding. For everyone saying, I'll decide which charities to support unprompted, most would go bust before you remember to send your unprompted donation if they are relying on solely on that. And I always sponsor adult friends who ask with £10 or £20 because that's what friends do. If £20 was the difference between me being able to pay my bills or not, then of course I wouldn't. But it's not.

Exactly yes. Making everything transactional is really tacky and in very poor taste.

I don’t think you’re entitled for feeling disappointed with your friends for not donating. I always see it as an opportunity to support a charity and support a friend at the same time. So many negative Nellie’s on here

She would take all the stuff to the pub..... pictures of starving kids etc, and try to sign us up. Got very tiresome.

I think a lot of us have sponsorship fatigue. Requests from friends pop up on FB almost every other day, and it’s to do something they’d probably want to do anyway. I’d like to sponsor people to:

Wash the car
Deep clean the kitchen
Babysit
Mow the lawn
Pop to Tesco
Make dinner

I don’t really care if they run a marathon or abseil down the Houses of Parliament.