Friends not sponsoring dh

I know many charities rely on sponsored events for income. On the other hand. I never ask people for money because I find it embarrassing. My least favourite begs are when people go on a fantastic freebie holiday, want other people to pay and act as though they are doing something noble. I donate to charity every month out of my own income.

I think it wouldn’t hurt the friends to give a tenner or something. I always find that for things like this, if nothing has been donated yet, then people are not yet inclined to give, if you donate first or someone else, others follow suit.
However, there’s a category of ‘charity’ events that I’m not that keen on donating for, my boss at works loves running, that’s all she ever does, when she now enters an event that’s related to running (which she does a lot) and then links it to a charity, it just does not feel like a challenge because this is her hobby. I still donate though but it’s always annoying. Will make sense if she’s doing something challenging to her.

Hey OP - sorry in rush so haven’t read other responses but they majority of donations come very close to the event, during and after (ex non profit worker here of 15 years). To not have had people donate at this stage is pretty normal

@Terribletwoss

i have received emails and social media messages from friends who are advocating for charities that benefit their own children or family, either directly or indirectly. This doesn’t bother me at all. Telling me that a charity helped connect you to services you needed, does great work, and could always use more support is good advocacy. It helps to see the real world ways a charity helps people in our community. It’s the best kind of advertising a charity can get.

what people are talking about on these threads are the sponsor my activity that I want to do anyway and I’m going to call it a charity event. These can run that gamut from a 5k run, which actually isn’t that bad because those are pretty cheap to put on, to a 5 day trek through Borneo, for charity, really, it’s for charity.

It's so weird these sponsored things. Just spread the word about a charity, no need to "sponsor" someone to run or swim or whatever. It's bloody ridiculous and just so an adult can do his hobby with a halo.

I agree that those who ask with that sort of thing should be prepared to give back.

I'd wait before getting too upset though, because they might still come through.

Otherwise, I wouldn't sponsor anyone (or their kids) again if you've already done so but they didn't sponsor your husband.

Another Scrooge here who resents sponsoring anyone! I’d rather just give. I do sponsor kids if things come up but for an adult… I tend to feel it’s more about the ego-boost / doing the activity than it is genuinely raising money for the cause.

Agree @Badknitter we had the same
I even had one parent whose child I’d sponsored on many occasions tell me in front of other parents that she wouldn’t be sponsoring my kids ( for The MacMillan nurses ) because she only does her own!

Really embarrassing. Not one school parent sponsored my kids. Ever!
So I stopped sponsoring others too and when an adult parent was doing something I didn’t sponsor them either as they always refused my kids when swimming for the Nurses and she was a GP . You live and learn. I know it seems petty but I do wonder if we were the only people ever sponsoring all the others anyway

I am involved with a charity to do with a chronic condition that I suffer from. The charity supports people with the condition through a website, training for medics, advice line, raising awareness.
Whenever they do any fundraising, such as charity coffee mornings, sponsored events etc, I feel uncomfortable asking anybody. It feels a bit self serving as it is something that I could benefit from myself even if indirectly. Therefore, I take part in sponsored events but put the money in myself as an anonymous donor or five rather than asking other people.
Whenever my children have taken part in sponsored activities for school or hobbies, the rule is that they do take part, but they sponsor themself using their pocket money, and call it an anonymous donation.
I have brought my children up to think that you give to charity in order to help the cause in question, not as a way to promote themselves.

I tend to give money to causes that just ask for it, assuming it's something I want to support. If a neighbour was keen to encourage donations to MND, I think I'd rather he asked directly than did some 'challenge' with no discernible relevance to the charity's purpose.

That's it, I think (leaving aside concerns over stealth grifting). You'll get money out of me if you offer me something - an event I think will be fun, entertainment, food & drink, whatever; if you tell me someone's put up a crowdfunding page for a project close to my heart; if an advertisement or news story jogs my awareness.

Whether my neighbour abseils down The Shard or not , it has no bearing on my interest in MND. If he could reach me to beg for sponsorship, he can reach me to tell me about the charity and why I should give it - not him - some money. I completely fail to see how he thinks his personal adventure should make me want to help people with MND

@AthWat

"Maybe if you spent a little more time educating yourself on the industry you've chosen to work in, you might progress."

Absolutely no need for a comment like this

Exactly this

If I want to Support a charity, then I will donate directly to a charity of my choice, not the one your dh has decided that everyone should support

I get this OP. I have spent hundreds over the years sponsoring people for their runs, climbs etc. If I do one or my DC do one I'm expecting those chips to come in and for those people to reciprocate. I will note the ones that do and don't and respond in kind.

Yes charity shouldn't be like that but if someone won't support me when I supported them I wouldn't support their thing in the future unless there was a good reason.

The only charity I have advocated is sadly close to my heart- an organisation that supports bereaved parents like dh and me when our twin babies died after birth last year. They supported us and arranged things I didn't have the strength to do whilst in hospital. I didn't ask people for money though. I asked for their time and promoted their volunteer work.

I often sponsor adults friends or work colleagues if its a charity I don't already give too. I give to our local MND organisation already so wouldn't sponsor someone for that.

Hate sponsored things! Can tolerate it if it's kids.

I wouldn't sponsor an adult.

NEVER round up for a retail charity cause. It's just a tax dodge on their part. Just donate yourself to charities that mean something to you.

I didn't say that. I said I couldn't be bothered to get into a row with you about it, which is what you're clearly absolutely gagging for. 😇

Oh and your slightly weird and barbed comment when I mentioned boardroom debate.

Not all charities are vast mega charities. A lot of my time in charity board rooms is my own free time given to small local charities

Nonsense, she's been getting it in the neck from several people who are being terribly snotty about how badly she does her job.

Your view of what's minor is likely not to be minor to someone else, particularly if that piffling trifle could get them a new wheelchair, or specialist treatment, or a new scout hut ... Everything's relative, isn't it.

The only spiteful comments were yours implying only daily mail reader types would be concerned about where their charity donations are spent

You are right to be pissed off OP. You cannot make them sponsor your husband but you can make a note and not sponsor their kids in the future.