Friends not sponsoring dh

You don't give in order to receive. That is what you are failing to understand. It isn't a reciprocal thing.

There is also a fundamental difference between children doing a charity challenge and a middle aged bloke who is already fit (looks f'ing fit in Lycra) doing his hobby and expecting people to think he is doing something sponsorship worthy.

Back in the dim and distant past we would go around with a sheet of paper asking if people would sponsor us for whatever, do the challenge and then go back around to collect the money. Now we’re just donating to charity because they have the money before the challenge is complete. Do we get our money back if they don’t complete the task whether they tried and failed or maybe didn’t even try? If I’m sponsoring you to do something I begrudge the donation if the challenge isn’t met. I know that says more about me.

I have a theory that you are the dh op.

And you haven’t got the answers you were looking for on here, and are outraged.

I feel sorry for your wife and friends. You are not ‘incredible’ for doing something you enjoy and expecting others to foot the bill to make you feel good. No one owes you sponsorship. Grow up.

I've sponsored 2 different friends £10 this month. Now another one has shared a link on Facebook asking for sponsorship. If I could I would sponsor them but I literally can't afford it. It is my son's birthday this month and I want to spend what I can on him. Maybe they just don't have the spare cash. Even if they are well off they may have other priorities at the moment.

Jeeze. I was about to post again in a more supportive way, having had my rant earlier about trips abroad. But seriously? You have lost any support from me with that last sentence.

But you aren't paying back - you are asking others to pay back whilst your dh does a challenge. Stick your hand in your own pocket and donate to MND that's the payback they are looking for - they don't care about your dh's challenge.

I’ve had the same experience as you OP. Last year I asked for sponsorship to do a modest walking challenge. I paid for my own place. Very few of my friends sponsored me. Actually, more of my work colleagues did than my friends. My parents did but my siblings didn’t (I’ve contributed to soooo many of their DC’s challenges over the years). The final kick in the nuts was when one person who didn’t sponsor me almost immediately after gave me an Amazon voucher for my bday. For a short time I wondered if that was an intentional f you but I’ve come to realise people are just ignorant about how important this is to the individual.

Your dh doesn’t need to do this at all. He should just focus on supporting his friend properly.

A hobby dressed up as charity work is annoying for everybody op!
Tell your dh to get over himself !! Dial it down, and stop making a tit of himself, and making his friend’s illness all about him. Jeez 🙄

I'd love someone to care enough to raise money for my condition, I'm.with you on this point

I remember 2 years in a row, someone doing a marathon for charity. Both times she'd message people asking for sponsorship. Other than that we never talked.

I also sponsored someone who after the event, said that half was to cover the costs of the event

I think the main point here is not if YOU like sponsoring stuff of if he’s doing such and such challenge it’s the fact that the OP has sponsored all these kids challenges and now no one can be bothered to sponsor her DH. Yeah I’d be annoyed too!

He's made it all about himself by having people sponsor him. If he wanted to raise money without making the endeavour about himself, would he not have done something quietly, something that invites people to donate directly to the charity instead of via his activity?

Why are you framing this about support owed to your family because you have supprted others? Surely it's ultimately about the charity and instead you are making it all about your DH. What support does your husband actually need? Sounds like you want him to look good by raising lots of money and that's what you expect people to support.
Maybe your friends and family prefer to support the person with MND by giving directly to the charity.

You have also avoided answering the question as to whether you have even asked the friend if they are happy for your dh to do this, so maybe that’s why your friends are not responding.

Unsure why there is a big pile on you OP.
I totally understand when I've had friends message and ask me face to face for sponsorships for their kids etc! I would never ask anyone direct.
But I have shared my husbands just giving page and there has been no mention of it.
My husband 2 years ago out of the blue developed epilepsy, he's required 2 shoulder operations on top of it as he dislocates his shoulders each time and he's needed pins and plates put in.
The epilepsy society have helped us a lot with information.
My husband has worked hard on his health and is doing a half marathon to raise money for the charity as well as trying to keep himself fit and seizure free.
I've sponsored him etc and I'm really proud of him.

It sounds competitive, cut throat and savage in your circles op. Maybe just let people do want they want to do with their own money?!

How close is your friend and is/has there been a lot of fundraising for MND since their diagnosis?
I am guessing people in your community may have already made donations either directly to the charity or if other events have been held, supported them so don't feel the need to sponsor your husband as people can only give so much and believe they have already helped that charity. So I would try not to take it too personally.

Even by your responses op I can tell you are ‘that’ person with very little awareness and it’s 🙄 all round from your friends - quietly of course.