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I know i missed my exercise class but so what?

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notacooldad · 02/03/2025 18:32

I pay in advance for my Pilates class. It is £30 a session
You can cancel the class as long as you give 24hrs notice, if not you lose out.
Quite reasonablely you can't be more than 5 mins late.
On Thursday I had an appointment before my class which over ran significantly, on top of that I encountered three lots of temporary lights and traffic has backed up.
By the time I got to the car park I was 10 mins late. There was no point rushing, I'm late, I've missed out. There isn't a reception where I could have explained this to, just the instructor doing her thing with the group.
I went home.
I got an email which was,imo , quite snotty, telling me i should have let them know if i wasn't going to turn up so they could have given that place to someone on the waiting list.

My feeling is I've paid for that space, whether I was there or not.

If they gave it to someone else they would have had £30 from them as ' as a place has become available '
I wouldn't have got my money back as it clearly says no refunds if you are late or a no show.
Therefore, I feel like the sharp tone of the email is a bit ridiculous. The company hasn't lost out and as far as I can imagine, most people want to turn up and don't deliberately miss classes once they've paid for them.

What do others think?

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AppleCelebration · 02/03/2025 21:27

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 02/03/2025 21:24

Wel you wouldn't know, would you?

You’d be surprised. In our circles, it’s not been unknown to see participants choosing to go on the piss or what not and be quite public about it online. Or other participants mentioning it in class.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 02/03/2025 21:24

AppleCelebration · 02/03/2025 21:22

And if the shoe was on the other foot and you were on the waitlist? Imagine knowing someone had that attitude and you really wanted to attend that class.

Wel you wouldn't know, would you?

notacooldad · 02/03/2025 21:22

You started a thread two weeks ago about starting Pilates and said
There's a deal on a 3 month membership that we are interested in and this is for 2 classes a week

puts a different slant on the issue wouldn’tt you say oo?

You've got waaay to much time on your hands.

I know right! 😆
I ended up in a complicated situation! It was a great set up but times didn't suit. I'm not going to the ins and outs of how it got resolved but everyone's happy!

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AppleCelebration · 02/03/2025 21:22

Miaowzabella · 02/03/2025 21:03

What self-aggrandising nonsense. I wouldn't be apologising because I decide what I do with my time. Once I have paid for the class, it's entirely up to me whether I attend or not. There are many reasons why I might miss a class: traffic, injury, work, or just a better option suddenly came up. The class will go ahead without me, nobody will be inconvenienced, you will get paid, the venue will get their fee and it does not make an atom of difference to you whether I attend or not.

And if the shoe was on the other foot and you were on the waitlist? Imagine knowing someone had that attitude and you really wanted to attend that class.

BitterTits · 02/03/2025 21:18

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You've got waaay to much time on your hands.

maddening · 02/03/2025 21:17

I pay £30 per month for the council leisure centres (access to all of them and all of their classes and attend 2 pilates classes a week (and other classes obvs) - there is access to multiple yoga, pilates, tai chi etc as well as loads of cardio and strength classes 7 days a week - and they don't get snotty (we get a £2 fine for not cancelling within 4 hours ahead of the class but this prevents people taking spaces which are free for members to book) tbh I would take my business elsewhere

notacooldad · 02/03/2025 21:17

Here's one of my historical Facebook posts about another of the instructor's £3.50 classes.... 🤣🤣
I used to teach aerobics in 1984 at a local leisure centre. That's how much the classes were then! 😆
Everyone was upset when it went to £3.70!

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notacooldad · 02/03/2025 21:12

@PandaTime
I hope you get results soon. It's a lot of money every month to be disappointed.

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FarmGirl78 · 02/03/2025 21:11

Here's one of my historical Facebook posts about another of the instructor's £3.50 classes.... 🤣🤣

Honestly, £30 a pop is ridiculous!

I know i missed my exercise class but so what?
maddening · 02/03/2025 21:10

ToKittyornottoKitty · 02/03/2025 18:43

Why? Their policy on latecomers isn’t an issue, OP agrees with it.

Exactly - sure get snotty if the op is asking for her money back but the op paid- it was her spot, the teacher has not lost anything by the op not being there.

notacooldad · 02/03/2025 21:09

*No but then she knew the appointment over run. She knew it was getting tight.
A quick text to the instructor saying she might be a coupke of minutes late as her medical appointment run late would have helped. I haven't got a text number.
fwiw I never ever think an appointment with a consultant will be on time. Even at 8.00am. I think that was wishful thinking in the first place

It was a five minute appointment just to check I'm OK, always has been. There was no reason to think I wouldn't have left the hospital and be in my car by at least 8.30. My class wasn't until 1030. No way would i have thought it would take 2 hrs from hospital to class, across town. Blimey I could get from Manchester to Kendal in two hours!

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Fleetheart · 02/03/2025 21:09

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why on earth should she? it’s a crazy process to pay and as long as they are quids in then they can live with it

BlueBlueBerries · 02/03/2025 21:08

@Miaowzabella aren't you a delight!

RobertJohnsonsShoes · 02/03/2025 21:05

HOW MUCH?!

sevenIsNewEight · 02/03/2025 21:05

PandaTime · 02/03/2025 20:50

No, they didn't. The email wasn't written specifically and personally for the OP. It is sent to every no-show and obviously doesn't apply to the people who don't know in advance that they won't be there.

The whole thread is about the fact that the email is obviously ridiculously worded; it tells people off without knowing whether they even deserve it, and generally is too rude for a situation when client has paid for the lesson anyway.

They could phrase it differently - acknowledging that sometimes it can't be helped and things happen at the last moment, but if it isn't the case, they would appreciate a message, as it would allow someone from the waiting list to enjoy the lesson.

Miaowzabella · 02/03/2025 21:03

BlueBlueBerries · 02/03/2025 18:40

I'm a Pilates teacher, it's frustrating when someone doesn't turn up and doesn't let us know. An email out of courtesy is polite to apologise for your absence.

What self-aggrandising nonsense. I wouldn't be apologising because I decide what I do with my time. Once I have paid for the class, it's entirely up to me whether I attend or not. There are many reasons why I might miss a class: traffic, injury, work, or just a better option suddenly came up. The class will go ahead without me, nobody will be inconvenienced, you will get paid, the venue will get their fee and it does not make an atom of difference to you whether I attend or not.

FarmGirl78 · 02/03/2025 21:02

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 02/03/2025 18:37

£30 per session???

My thought on reading the OP was "FUCK ME, ARE THEY KIDDING?!"

We've had to persuade our pilates instructor to put her costs up from £3.50 to £4 as we didn't think she was taking enough home. And she still feels guilty!

IDoWhateverItTakes · 02/03/2025 21:02

IMissSparkling · 02/03/2025 18:46

Well, maybe it's just me who would be frustrated at an arbitrary 5 minute cut off. The OP could easily have slipped in at the back ten minutes into the class without disturbing the others.

My gym won't let you do this for most of their classes because you miss the warm up and they don't want people getting hurt (apparently).

LionME · 02/03/2025 21:01

No but then she knew the appointment over run. She knew it was getting tight.
A quick text to the instructor saying she might be a coupke of minutes late as her medical appointment run late would have helped.

fwiw I never ever think an appointment with a consultant will be on time. Even at 8.00am. I think that was wishful thinking in the first place

PandaTime · 02/03/2025 21:00

notacooldad · 02/03/2025 20:46

@PandaTime

Hell no lol. I can't even see my feet.
Hence me spending nearly £200 a month on Mounjaro. In this economy! 😱
At the risk of hijacking my own thread, how are you finding your Mounjaro journey? I don't think i know anyone in real life doing it.
I'm intrigued but nervous about it.

I'm not doing as well as I thought I would. I had hoped I'd be one of those people who gets big losses on 2.5mg or 5mg, but nope. I don't know if I just metabolise it really quickly or if my hormones are so messed-up that I need a massive dose to feel anything. I'm on 12.5mg now and only just starting to feel the effects. I don't really hear many people say they have this issue. Everyone else seems to lose half their body weight in the first month 😭Side effects-wise, I've been fine though. I get sulphur burps for the first few days after injecting and then it settles.

saraclara · 02/03/2025 20:58

PandaTime · 02/03/2025 19:30

If you had missed a music lesson people here would slaughter you. But for some reason it's ok be disrespectful with other instructors' time.

She wasn't disrespectful. She tried to get there, but by the time she arrived, it was too late to go in. She didn't decide to just sit on her sofa instead.

If she was late for a music lesson in guessing that her teacher wouldn't be snotty about not letting her into the lesson at all.

Rewis · 02/03/2025 20:58

I would respond to the email. Not apologise. But email that you were stuck in traffic and knew you would not be let in per policy and therefore did not show up and obviously you would cancel your attendance if you knew you were not going to attend.

Dollydaydream100 · 02/03/2025 20:57

notacooldad · 02/03/2025 20:51

*Dollydaydream100 · Today 20:43
Me too, worth every penny! Still wouldn't pay £30 for a Pilates lesson though - because I do it for free on YouTube!

I added later that it is reformer pilates. I know it is expensive 😩. However I'm prepared to give other things up for now.
I wish I had the inclination to do home work outs but I start one and then think, oh, I'll just put the dishwasher on or ' blimey the carpet needs a good hoover!'

Oh I wasn't judging OP - as I say, I'm paying £200 a month for WLI's! I just meant a lot of people wouldn't pay £30 for something they could do at home for free - especially atm when luxuries like expensive fitness classes are the first thing that goes when money is tight - and when you receive a snotty email for non-attendance!

Also I wouldn't bc it's embarrassing how stiff and rubbish at it I am!

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 02/03/2025 20:56

latetothefisting · 02/03/2025 20:44

um...did you read the post?
OP has paid, upfront. They aren't asking her for more money.

They wanted to sell the space to someone else and keep the OP's £30.

The OP isn't looking for a refund

ilovesushi · 02/03/2025 20:52

Just tell them what happened. Their system is at fault here, not you or your situation.

I would have walked in late. They sound very precious.

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