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40th birthday today

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hulahops88 · 02/03/2025 15:47

40th birthday meal - feel like I should of done something better for my 40th

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what have you done for your 40th

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Unicornsandprincesses · 02/03/2025 16:14

Mine is this later this year but I don’t really have a “group” to plan anything with. I also have a baby that’ll be 1 by then.

I’d like a little break away. But I’m fully expecting we won’t end up doing anything, just going to the local pub for a meal like we do for everything haha

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hulahops88 · 02/03/2025 16:14

I am going to Malta in may as it too cold now, but that's more for mums 65th that's was in lockdown!

And going to arcades and being a kid with bestie! -

And think I planning to see a film with another friend!

Maybe I should jump out of a plane this year! To mark it properly!

Just been out of a dv relationship and a lot of mates didn't come, due to all the hassle from that! Ex p made a lot of threats!!

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Isobel201 · 02/03/2025 16:14

I turn 40 at the end of the month, but me and my family are going on a cruise end of June, so we're saving money atm for that. So it won't be anything special, might go out for a meal somewhere.

Zanatdy · 02/03/2025 16:12

Went to NYC with childhood friend. Not on the day itself (which was over xmas hols, just went for a meal on the day)

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 02/03/2025 16:11

Nothing. My marriage had broken up the year before, my parents came to babysit my five kids so I could go out for the night - but I had nobody to go out with, nowhere to go and nothing to do. I sat in with my parents and watched TV.

LouH1981 · 02/03/2025 16:09

I was 40 during lockdown so not much at all! Although I did really appreciate the beautiful handmade cards my children and niece made for me.
Skip forward to last year and after having a period of maternity leave, redundancy and zero cash flow, DH paid for us all to go to a theme park for the day as my gift.
It was amazing sunshine and so lovely to see the children having fun and letting their hair down. Hands down, best birthday.
So maybe just think about what will bring you the most joy 💐💐
Happy Birthday! xxx

namechangeGOT · 02/03/2025 16:03

I went out for a meal with my family OP! I dislike parties, I dislike 'nights' out and we go away a lot anyway! I'll have a party if I get to 100!

2chocolateoranges · 02/03/2025 16:02

I had a party for my 40th. Felt it was easier than a night out with dh, dinner out with family, night out with school friends and another with my best friends. So a party meant I got to see everyone in the same place at the same time.

My 50th is in a couple of years and I'm going for a fortnight in the sunshine with dh.

Berlinlover · 02/03/2025 16:02

Happy Birthday OP.

I went on a solo trip to Berlin for my 40th.

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 02/03/2025 16:01

Firstly Happy Birthday
It's the start of your year, you can do lots in your year of celebration.
Make plans, go for it.
Eat a lot of cake.

Marypoppinsisnosaint · 02/03/2025 16:00

Happy birthday op!

Mine was Friday and that's all I did. Meal with wider family, my nieces, nephews etc. It was lovely. I didn't want a big fuss and that was just right for me.

Loveduppenguin · 02/03/2025 15:59

Happy birthday 🥳 mine is next Monday and I’m off to Paris for the weekend on Friday with my dd (11) my dm and my sil and dn (17). I can’t wait.

Decapitatedsausage · 02/03/2025 15:54

Mine was in lockdown and I was relieved as it took all the pressure off me to “do” something. I’d probably go away if it was now though.

Happy Birthday!

2025mustbebetter · 02/03/2025 15:53

I ran a very hilly half marathon and smashed my pb. It was the only way I could get time to myself tbh!

Other than that did fuck all!

AnneLovesGilbert · 02/03/2025 15:52

I had a newborn, think we walked up to the pub at one point for a drink. Had a small family get together a few days later but it was low key and a bit of a blur.

OtterlyMad · 02/03/2025 15:49

I would probably choose to go for a weekend away somewhere (finances permitting!)

Nothing wrong with a meal out though. Presumably you were celebrating with people you love and you had a nice time? That’s the important thing.