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To think people should keep their opinions to themselves regarding other people's weight

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HealthyandThriving · 02/03/2025 15:00

I have recently lost around 3 stone in weight and I am getting annoyed/upset at other people's comments, for context I am sitting right bang in the middle of the healthy BMI range so I am not underweight. I also had support from a personal trainer and followed calorie counting and increased my exercise, I lost the weight gradually so wasn't a sudden transformation.

I have been asked several times if I am on Ozempic or injections (I'm not, not that it matters)
I have been told I better not lose anymore weight or I will look terrible
Someone text the other day and said ohh are you still really skinny
I have been asked umpteen times what my current weight is
Been told if I lose more my face will end up looking clapped in
Keep getting asked if I have been unwell
Been asked if I have loose skin or what my stomach looks like
Been told to put weight back on

Thsese are just some comments that come to mind and they are from coworkers, friends and acquaintances. I have also been told there is a group in the office who have been constantly gossiping being my back regarding my weight and they weren't being very kind.

I don't know why people think this is okay, they didn't ask my weight when I was bigger or show concern when my BMI was in the obese category putting me at higher risk of certain medical conditions, nobody text and said ohh are you still fat!!! Or even had a nice conversation from a place of concern but the minute I'm a healthy weight people think they have a right to an opinion on my body.

I don't think it's okay for these sort of comments relating to someone being slimmer when they wouldn't dream of saying anything to someone with a higher BMI, it can be very damaging!!

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TorroFerney · 02/03/2025 15:14

I think when you are smaller, or getting smaller after being bigger you are seen as fair game. Not as much when you are bigger or were smaller and are getting bigger - that is really not to suggest that fat people don't get loads of abuse but that I think is from dickheads rather than generally decent people. An otherwise ok person (woman usually) will think nothing of saying (lightheartedly) oh you skinny bitch, same person wouldn't say oh you fat bitch. My option and experience obviously. Similarly commenting on ones weight, oh you'll put weight on eating that - this was from a colleague. I bet you a million pounds that colleague has never gone up to an overweight female colleague and said the same.

It's all shit and women are just fair game to comment on, but different people and different comments.