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Sister replying to questions directed at me on social media

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helpmepleasewiththis · 02/03/2025 09:07

My Dsis whenever someone posts a question to me on my social media will always respond before I have chance to answer and it makes me so cross!
It feels and I know this sounds dramatic, like she is silencing me. I have also taken a big step back from my SM use because it's annoyed me so much.
AIBU or is it just bloody rude?

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helpmepleasewiththis · 02/03/2025 09:31

It's on Facebook, I'm an oldie Grin

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helpmepleasewiththis · 02/03/2025 09:29

@BruceAndNosh yeah just like that! Asked me if my husbands father was someone he knew from way back. It wasn't really up to her to answer and she did it all the time before I stopped posting as often. But she is still doing it!

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maddening · 02/03/2025 09:29

On what social media is this? How is dsis seeing your messages? Why are people not asking things directly?

sesquipedalian · 02/03/2025 09:27

So if she answers, then say something like, “I’m not quite sure why DSis is answering about DH” and add some detail that she hasn’t. Just because she’s said something doesn’t mean you can’t add to the conversation. I can only assume your DSis has no idea you feel like this, so either say something to her, or make sure every time you add to the conversation, you include some sort of puzzlement about why DSis is answering questions aimed at you.

BruceAndNosh · 02/03/2025 09:26

So family member asks "how is HelpmeDH new job going?" and sister replies "he is really enjoying it"?
That's weird

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helpmepleasewiththis · 02/03/2025 09:22

@toomuchfaff she started doing it around 2 years ago and yes I took a step back because of this specifically. The info she gives is correct but this morning I got a message from a family member not spoken to in a while asking about my DH. I saw it as an opening to an exchange about the family and by her responding it shuts down the exchange. It's so strange that she does it!

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Disturbia81 · 02/03/2025 09:21

MolkosTeenageAngst · 02/03/2025 09:20

What kind of questions are you being asked on social media!? I can’t really imagine what kind of things you’re regularly being asked or how she is in a position to answer them?

Yeah more context needed. Is it like you post a photo and someone asked "Lovely pic how are you doing?" and she answers for you?

MolkosTeenageAngst · 02/03/2025 09:20

What kind of questions are you being asked on social media!? I can’t really imagine what kind of things you’re regularly being asked or how she is in a position to answer them?

toomuchfaff · 02/03/2025 09:18

is she doing it because she thinks you're not around much, or have you only taken the step back because of this?

Very weird.

Is she answering correctly, or giving wrong information?

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helpmepleasewiththis · 02/03/2025 09:11

Oh I didn't realise you could do that! Great idea. Bringing it up with her feels a bit pathetic so I like your suggestion

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user1494050295 · 02/03/2025 09:10

That’s really odd. What type of questions? I would delete her replies and then post your own answers. She will soon get the hint

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 02/03/2025 09:09

Ask her not to? Explain it's not really the done thing.

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