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to feel jealous that a friend has come into a lot of money

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Anonimouselee · 02/03/2025 08:19

Struggling with feelings here. Friend has come into a lot of money. Enough to pay the mortgage off with the same again coming down the line. They totally deserve it, is a lovely person and a great friend. But... I just feel a bit crap. Making me question our huge mortgage, life decisions, career choices. Others must experience this...? How do I get my head around it?

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Loopytiles · 02/03/2025 08:27

Is your envy to do with the way your friend ‘came into’ the money? Eg is it through their own work etc? (Asking because you mention reflecting on your choices)

PyongyangKipperbang · 02/03/2025 08:26

How did they come into it? A lottery win for example is pure luck and I think most people would be envious of that. Inheritance from the death of a close family member? Not so much. If it was through good investment choices or a work bonus then of course its natural to compare life choices but ultimately it won't make you richer or happier.

Shakeyourbaublesandsmile · 02/03/2025 08:25

Use this as a prompt - use the jealousy as a catalyst

What specifically is it about that situation that is bothering you? Past the money

What can you do to move towards having that for yourself?

You’ve looked at their grass plenty now start watering your own grass - use this to empower your decisions now and going forward

Pootles34 · 02/03/2025 08:22

Ah it's difficult op. I'm sure you'll get folks saying you're lucky to have a house etc. etc. which is of course true!

But it's very hard not to feel how you feel, whilst still being happy for your friend. I guess don't dwell on it, go and do something else to make yourself forget about it?