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To ask if your pet sleeps on your bed?

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Cow90 · 01/03/2025 19:50

I don't mind my cat sleeping on my bed at all, but sometimes in the night she'll jump on my stomach and wake me up, or will lick my face to check I'm still alive!
This morning I evicted her at around 4am because she'd jumped on my stomach or back at least 4 times! As I say I'm happy for her to sleep there but I can't have the disturbed sleep long-term. Anyone else?

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GoneGirl12345 · 01/03/2025 20:20

Cat sleeps on our bed on and off depending on his mood.

If he starts the night doing zoomies on the bed and nibbling DH's toes, he gets shut out of the bedroom.

On calmer nights he will snuggle up, normally between me and DH. I love having him close but DH less keen as he does disturb us.

My view is that we decided to take him in and give him a home, and I feel privileged that he considers us a safe space to sleep next to. DH doesn't always agree!

Doyouthinktheyknow · 01/03/2025 20:18

Dcat rules the roost! We leave our door open at night and she is in and out of our bedroom all night!

She really is a pain but she’s a ragdoll and they are very needy. She can’t cope on her own, the crying would destroy me!

She woke me up this morning growling at a noise outside, it was a low guttural sound, really chilling and not what you want at 5am🙄

womananddog · 01/03/2025 20:17

SparklyGlitterballs · 01/03/2025 20:12

Yes. I have a king sized bed to myself (widowed) and my dachshund has his own stairs to reach the bed. Sometimes he's on top of the covers but often he's underneath them. For such a small dog he hogs a lot of space 🤣

Where did you get your dog stairs? My terrier would love a set of steps as he can't get on the bed himself.

Simonjt · 01/03/2025 20:15

Our cat lets us sleep in her bed, the dog doesn’t join us, he doesn’t like being disturbed when he’s tired, he’ll sometimes join us in the morning, but gets very huffy if we dare move.

TroysMammy · 01/03/2025 20:14

My cat can if he wants but because of my restless legs he chooses not to. If the night before he isn't told that the next morning is a lie in he gently mews at around 5.30am. When I do have to get up at 5.30am to go to work he rushes into the bathroom to watch me sitting on the toilet!

nicky2512 · 01/03/2025 20:13

Ddog used to sleep in his own bed on the floor beside my bed but for the last year or so he has decided he likes sleeping on the bed right at my feet.
He is almost ten now and he sleeps all night and barely moves. I actually think his being there helps me to sleep better.

RavenclawWitchy · 01/03/2025 20:12

No pets on the furniture here. Cats especially as they walk through their litter 😫

SparklyGlitterballs · 01/03/2025 20:12

Yes. I have a king sized bed to myself (widowed) and my dachshund has his own stairs to reach the bed. Sometimes he's on top of the covers but often he's underneath them. For such a small dog he hogs a lot of space 🤣

noctilucentcloud · 01/03/2025 20:11

Dog no, he's massive and given half the chance will roll in dead things. Cats are allowed to curl up on the foot of my bed though. I love dozing with the sound of a cat purring at my feet and a dog snoring from the bedroom floor.

cardibach · 01/03/2025 20:10

Nope. Never have. I like my sleep and don’t want it disturbed.

YourWinter · 01/03/2025 20:09

One dog always sleeps on my bed, she doesn’t move a muscle for 9 hours and is like a hot water bottle. She doesn’t smell and she doesn’t make a sound. The other dog chooses to sleep in her crate, door always open, but sleeps on my grandson’s bed when he stays.

One cat sometimes comes on my bed on cold nights. I used to have a cat with the loudest purr and after she passed, sleeping without her beside me was like suddenly doing without a ticking clock. I don’t suppose many people have ticking alarm clocks any more!

Mybeautifuldogs · 01/03/2025 20:09

My dogs sleep in my bed, the little one never leaves my side anyway so she wouldn't settle elsewhere, the big one just likes being awkward and taking up half the bed, but it would be weird sleeping without her now, I would have too much space.

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Cow90 · 01/03/2025 20:09

My last cat used to love sleeping in front of the washing machine too 😂

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WiddlinDiddlin · 01/03/2025 20:08

On/around the bed, if they want to. We all sleep better that way, they can alert me if they need me without having to kick up a huge dramatic fuss.

Generally we have doors open, they choose where they want to be, but currently we have a blind 16 year old who will absolutely yeet himself down the stairs given the chance, so the stairs are gated top and bottom to prevent this.

I believe in treating dogs like the social animals they are, which means access to us whenever they need it and not isolating them in one room to suit me/make housework easier. I think if you don't want that, get a less sociable, less gregarious pet.

Perhaps if I lived in a really big house there might be occasional rooms we didn't use often that they would not go in, but we've chosen to have three dogs in a small terraced house, so that doesn't apply.

Middlemarch123 · 01/03/2025 20:07

Of course my cats don’t sleep on my bed, I am allowed to sleep on their bed! As long as I don’t wriggle around too much, I can sleep on their bed edge, whilst they each have their own pillow.

My third cat doesn’t like going upstairs, so he sleeps on his blankie in his conservatory.

I am frequently nudged, walked over, toes nibbled every few hours, when dreamies are due, which I obviously dish out. This is a small price to pay for being allowed to share their space.

Esgaroth · 01/03/2025 20:07

Not at night, but the cat's allowed during the day.

I wouldn't have a dog on the furniture at all - love dogs but they have much more of a smell and they don't wash themselves as diligently as cats. I grew up with dogs and they weren't even allowed upstairs. I'd stick to that if I ever had one.

Cattreesea · 01/03/2025 20:05

My cat often sleeps on my bed on my feet or knees :)

She tends to wake me up as well in the morning but at least it is usually around 7am so not too bad. I just go back to sleep when it is not a work day.

shellyleppard · 01/03/2025 20:04

3 cats, they all sleep in different places.....one sleep's on the spare pillow in my bed 🤣🤣 yes I'm single lol. Sometimes they sleep in the window, sometimes in my sons bed. Its play hunt the cat in the morning

HelenWheels · 01/03/2025 20:04

my dog does
she wakes me in the morning mostly too early

today luckily I set my alarm as she had decided to let me have a lie in, when I didnt need one!

Cow90 · 01/03/2025 20:03

Oh yeah, definitely the springboard! Gives me the fright of my life too!
I fostered another cat temporarily a few months back. I shut him out one night and he pulled my carpet up and took paint off the door!

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ThinWomansBrain · 01/03/2025 20:03

My cat sleeps on my bed in the day, but at night only in the winter.
At the moment, one side, almost half the bed, has her bed and a furry mat.
She has decided that she now prefers the other side - I get a small channel in the middle.

ParsnipPuree · 01/03/2025 20:03

Tried to let my cats sleep on my bed but unfortunately they use us as a springboard at 5am..

Laffydaffy · 01/03/2025 20:03

Cats sleep on our beds, rotating position and place every night. They wake us up if we are out of routine, ie: sleeping in on school holidays. I had no idea they could develop a sort of body clock like humans.

ThreeMagicNumber · 01/03/2025 20:02

Yes our cats a massive pain in the arse. Wants in/out some nights. Meows and bolts round the house. Is on and off the bed and sometimes jumps on you when jumping up and I get the fright of my life. Cuddles right up to my legs and wakes me cleaning herself. I've tried locking her in the living room of out our room and she scratches at the carpet, meows loudly on repeat and scratches the door. She can get out the living room bouncing against the door repeatedly. I love her but won't get another cat again.

MrsJHernandez · 01/03/2025 20:02

Older dog used to sleep on our bed (sometimes IN when she got cold!) but since getting our 2nd puppy, it's no dogs on the bed because there just isn't room. Even small dogs take up more space than you think! They both happily sleep in their own cosy beds next to ours now.