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To ask if your pet sleeps on your bed?

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Cow90 · 01/03/2025 19:50

I don't mind my cat sleeping on my bed at all, but sometimes in the night she'll jump on my stomach and wake me up, or will lick my face to check I'm still alive!
This morning I evicted her at around 4am because she'd jumped on my stomach or back at least 4 times! As I say I'm happy for her to sleep there but I can't have the disturbed sleep long-term. Anyone else?

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kungfoofighting · 02/03/2025 08:34

DazedDragon · 02/03/2025 08:07

Yuck! Hell no!

I value my sleep and haven't got time to wash sheets on a daily basis.

(I'm assuming those who do let their dogs sleep in their beds do daily sheet washing?!?!?!)

Nope! Haven’t been killed by dog hair yet

Sgtmajormummy · 02/03/2025 08:28

It’s not unheard of for dogs and cats to catch fleas and for it to go unnoticed for days. What do you do if they spread to your bed covers? Or you?

Sleeping in a potential flea pit is not my idea of pet love.

Before DDog (mini Schnauzer) arrived we put all the beds on raisers and he has no idea he’s even capable of jumping onto the sofa.
He’s plenty comfortable with a camp bed, a dark crate (never locked) that’s his safe place and a donut cushion he moves around the house. It’s usually in the corner of the sofa for maximum strokes.

We had fireworks, helicopters, sirens, plane acrobatics and repeated cannon salutes yesterday.
He went in his crate and when things got beyond a joke, UNDER our bed.

DazedDragon · 02/03/2025 08:07

Yuck! Hell no!

I value my sleep and haven't got time to wash sheets on a daily basis.

(I'm assuming those who do let their dogs sleep in their beds do daily sheet washing?!?!?!)

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 02/03/2025 08:07

Our cat does the rounds every night and kips with each of us in turn. It's sweet if you're the one she snuggles right down with when you go to bed.
It's less cute if it's your turn to get a bum in your face at 3am

Mumofyellows · 02/03/2025 08:03

Our Labrador slept in bed with us for almost the whole first year until we rescued a second dog and couldn't fit two big labs in the bed! They sleep downstairs together now, if DH goes away though I have them both in bed with me!

salemcooper · 02/03/2025 07:47

My pup used to but then I got pregnant and needed more room. He adjusted very well to sleeping in a dog bed next to my bed.

TangledandEmbrangled · 02/03/2025 07:45

Ddog is the first of our dogs to ever sleep on the bed, but he is tiny (4kg) very clean and doesn’t shed. He sleeps on top of one of his own blankets and under another and I barely know he’s there. He’s also extremely lazy in the mornings and doesn’t like being woken before 9.30 am at the absolute earliest! I find it comforting to have him there, especially when dh is working away.

In the past we’ve always had multiple large and giant breeds at the same time. They rarely came upstairs and weren’t allowed on the furniture, but had each other, lovely comfortable beds of their own and fleece house-coats for the winter. Some even got tucked in before we went to bed and all of them were very content.

When our last big dog was very elderly and on his own, dh and I took turns sleeping on the sofa near him for the last year. He needed company, but couldn’t have managed the stairs and would have been unsettled if we had changed his routine anyway.

ClassicBBQ · 02/03/2025 07:17

BBQ isn't allowed upstairs, so no. He has his own little sofa in the living room and is very happy there.

Popcorn63 · 02/03/2025 06:28

I live in Australia.
My cat brings LIVE VENOMOUS SNAKES
Into the house........
So, no!

dicdicnurse · 02/03/2025 00:36

Ddog sleeps on our bed and we wouldn't change it for the world. When we first brought him home we read so many books about puppy training etc but after 8 weeks of DH sleeping downstairs we realised that the only thing the puppy wanted was to be with us. We have all slept well since.

HRTQueen · 02/03/2025 00:29

Yes my cat does day and night

she collapses on top of me (I sleep on my side) then snuggles in tightly she had to be close but not on top of me thankfully as she is quite chunky

Odras · 02/03/2025 00:23

Yes our rescue dog is a bag of nerves and very clingy and likes to cuddle up. If you asked me a few years ago I would have honestly thought it was so disgusting but I love him so much. He’s adorable and clingy because of his past so here we are.

AllyDally · 02/03/2025 00:17

Mine do and I now get less sleep than when my kids were small. I was a soft touch wjen they were puppies and now really regret it.

merrymelodies · 02/03/2025 00:10

Yuck, no.

Wonderwhyibother · 02/03/2025 00:09

My one dog sleeps up the top end of the bed with me as he barely moves all night. Couple of stealth turns, might ocasssionaly get a shove if I'm too close to the middle on my side and sometimes a back paw to the back or face. Gets wrapped up in his blanket but occasionally gets under the covers. The other one starts on the bed between my knees then combination of on the floor in his bed and back on my bed till the tv goes off with the occasional jump back on during the night depending on how he's feeling. Every night between 3 and 4 he gets under the covers between my knees for about an hour then back in his bed till I get up for work. I sleep poorly and wake multiple times in the night so the jumping up and down doesn't bother me. Gives me the opportunity to check they are warm enough and wrap them back up if necessary.

Millyjanice · 02/03/2025 00:09

One of our 3 cats has decided I’m the person she sleeps with.
She starts by kneading her fluffy blanket next to my pillow. Then she curls up tight while still purring and eventually we drift off. In the morning she taps my face with her paw to wake me so I can let her get under the duvet for her morning cuddle.

spirit20 · 02/03/2025 00:04

I'm fairly sure my cat sees it as me sleeping on his bed....

Scutterbug · 01/03/2025 23:46

Yep! Dog sleeps on the bed. Cat sometimes comes up but will only sleep on my back (I sleep on my front).

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Baital · 01/03/2025 23:22

DDog is convinced that when it starts getting dark.it is time for tea and then bed. Which means about 3pm in winter. She will usually happily put herself to bed, but occasionally won't settle without me - then I have to stand firm against going to bed at about 4/5pm because she wants my company.

Going to bed means under the duvet. When I first got her (a rescue, 6ish months old) that meant curling up tightly and not being disturbed. If I fidgeted too much she would remove herself to the spare bedroom or her cushion underneath my bed.

The den underneath my bed is where she keeps her toys.

A few years in and she is relaxed enough to spread out and ignore me. Often she actively snuggles against me.

She is the easiest, most loving dog. Such a comfort and brings so much happiness. Also so much dog hair, but that's more than worth it to clean up!

FrothyCothy · 01/03/2025 23:17

In it, head first under the covers. Then when she realises she can’t breathe she climbs out the bottom and starts all over again from the top.

Slavetomycat · 01/03/2025 23:15

Of course we sleep in The Cat's bed, much to her chagrin. She sits on DH's chest until it's time to settle in, then rushes to sit at the far corner, facing away from us - as if disgusted. The moment the lights go out she stealthily walks along the very bottom and up my side, to settle on her own feather pillow at my back. If I have to get up to pee I slide said pillow carefully down as far as my arms can reach, then climb carefully out of the bed. It has been known that I've had to wake DH to let me in his side, so that I don't disturb her majesty.

I love the weight (7.5 lbs) of her by my side, until she bats or nips at me for being annoying. Bloody cat.

JoanOgden · 01/03/2025 23:08

Yes, I'm typing this in bed with my cat on my head. She generally moves down to the end of the bed and sleeps peacefully until 6ish when she jumps on my head for breakfast. Occasionally she stays downstairs, which makes me feel very rejected

BoxOfCats · 01/03/2025 23:08

2 cats, they not only sleep on the bed but in winter often I'll wake up and they've both burrowed under the duvet so I'm wedged between two fur lumps.

Mumsworkneverdone · 01/03/2025 23:08

Can't sleep without my cats on the bed. One shares often pillow and rhe other normally sleeps on my chest or between my legs!

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EmeraldDreams73 · 01/03/2025 23:05

We have a small dog who has slept on our bed since her big brother passed away. She's no trouble and doesn't wriggle much at all. In fact, her favourite place of all is right under the covers, she likes to curl up behind someone's knees.