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Cow90 · 01/03/2025 19:50

I don't mind my cat sleeping on my bed at all, but sometimes in the night she'll jump on my stomach and wake me up, or will lick my face to check I'm still alive!
This morning I evicted her at around 4am because she'd jumped on my stomach or back at least 4 times! As I say I'm happy for her to sleep there but I can't have the disturbed sleep long-term. Anyone else?

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Yourcatisnotsorry · 08/03/2025 10:42

Cats sleep wherever they want here. One would never dream of getting in our bed. One has been in bed since day 1 and likes to get under the duvet if it’s cold. One sleeps on the spare bed in the daytime, sleeps either on a specific corner on our bed or in the mound of teddies in the kids beds.

I wouldn’t like a dog in bed though they can get quite filthy.

Rottweilermummy · 06/03/2025 23:09

Yes ours sleeps with us, great when she waa a puppy, not so much now she's a full grown rottie, but bought a bigger bed to accommodate lol. Wouldn't change it for the world although would prefer no dog hair

PoshHorseyBird · 03/03/2025 17:21

No. There are two adults in the bed so there is absolutely no room for a German Shepherd as well! 🤣
He can sleep on the sofas and he has a lovely orthopedic bed of his own so he's not too hard done by 🙂

Southwest12 · 03/03/2025 10:37

My dog sleeps in his crate, or on the sofa in the kitchen. I value my sleep too much to have him in my room, and he does like to bark at every little noise. He goes in his crate quite happily and most days is still in there when I go and get him up in the morning.

Natsku · 03/03/2025 07:41

My cat used to sleep on our bed but then she started to like sleeping right on my head, sometimes on my face, which wasn't very conducive to breathing, and at least once I woke up to her foot in my mouth so then I started shutting her out. Then she tried to sleep in DS's room but he was a baby so I wasn't going to let her do that, kept having to fetch her out after bedtime because she would hide in his room. Finally she settled on sleeping on DD's bed, who was very happy with that.
She's gone now and I'd give anything to have her sleep on my bed one more time, even if it's on my head.

NavyTurtle · 03/03/2025 07:31

Cat sleeps in the laundry room. Not allowed upstairs. Animals in a bed is disgusting.

SuperBlondie28 · 03/03/2025 00:23

My cat can go anywhere in the daytime and often sleeps on our kingsize bed. Night time, she has the dining room and kitchen. Her bed is in the chimney breast alcove in the dining room.

If I'm ever ill and choose to lay in bed in the daytime, she'll curl up at the bottom on DH's size. He'd be at work then lol.

DiduAye · 02/03/2025 23:28

Can't stand anyone in bed with me not even husband never mind a pet

DungareesTrombonesDinos · 02/03/2025 21:45

My dog sleeps in my bed and I love it. He's as warm as toast and when he does a big, deep sigh that means he's off to sleep it makes my heart happy 💛

Snowpaw · 02/03/2025 21:31

My cat goes outside at night. He’s long haired - built for the cold and loves to hunt / explore. He comes in all covered in leaves and sticks in the morning. God knows what he gets up to. He sleeps all day on the beds at home but no way I’d let him stay in at night. My sleep is precious.

Lolalady · 02/03/2025 21:12

Both my dogs sleep with me. When I look after my daughter’s dogs they do too. Fortunately I’ve a very large bed. They never disturb me and I love having them to cuddle up
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Toptops · 02/03/2025 21:02

Cats are allowed on our bed in the daytime and one likes to spend most of the day there.
At night they are shut in downstairs as we like our kip!

TaterTots68 · 02/03/2025 21:01

Our cats used to sleep on our bed, but then we got a cat flap and I had the fear that the youngest would drop a dead rat on me in the middle of the night so now they are banned from the bedroom. My old lady is 19 and occasionally pees in her sleep now so that's another reason for the ban.

JustMeAndTheFish · 02/03/2025 20:03

My 18 year old cat sleeps with me. I have to lift her on and gravity helps her off. She snuggles into my back and I’ll really miss her when she won’t be there..

gamerchick · 02/03/2025 20:00

I lock my cat out. She likes to walk up the length of my body and jump off repeatedly. Manages to find all the pressure points.

I read once that cats are alarmed when we're suddenly unconscious for a large chunk of hours because their sleep patterns aren't like that. So they like to check we're still alive or something.

AliAtHome · 02/03/2025 19:57

My cat sleeps on our bed (if she wants to) most nights - isn’t that the point? I love it it, and her, but she doesn’t disturb us and does her own thing if disturb her.

TheMauveBeaker · 02/03/2025 19:32

Our various cats over the years have always gone out at night. They’ve always had shelter of some kind - the last one had a small kennel with pillows and blankets inside. I wouldn’t be able to relax if we’d let them sleep inside, let alone on our bed 😂

Tryonemoretime · 02/03/2025 19:30

I loved our cat and adored our dog, but they always slept on the kitchen with the door shut (when our dog was a puppy, I half slept in the kitchen with her until she settled down). Doesn't anyone with an animal sharing their bed worry about fleas and ticks setting up home under their duvet? Our pets were regularly treated, but even so, I found an occasional tick on both of them. I'd love another cat or dog, but they'd be confined to their own beds at night!

TigerRag · 02/03/2025 19:21

Parents dog sleeps upstairs. I don't trust her to sleep in my room (I once woke up to find her stood on me just staring at me!) at night

Scarlettdewinter · 02/03/2025 19:17

2 cats. One sleeps under the covers between me and hubby, the other next to my leg at my other side. Absolutely fine until I need to get up to pee, or start having night sweats. My mother (who thinks she's Hyacinth Bucket) is totally horrified at even the thought of it!

Littlepiggietoes · 02/03/2025 18:34

My cat sleeps on mine or the kids beds in the day. At night she’s either in the kitchen or the garden, she’s a rescue and still absolutely feral, she can’t be trusted to have full room access at night as she scratches faces, attacks feet etc. The only exception is if I’m poorly (migraine sufferer). She’ll sleep with me and stay with me good as gold until she senses that I’m getting better, at which point she’ll bite my feet and get thrown out of the room.
I love her so much though, and wouldn’t change her for the world. She was obviously mistreated when she was small, and has massive trust issues. Last week she fell asleep on me on the sofa in the evening and I felt so honoured that she was letting me stroke her belly, an area that usually gets your hand bitten!

catlover123456789 · 02/03/2025 18:24

I used to let the cats sleep with me but then one of the younger ones started using the carpet as a toilet and that was the end of that, they are locked downstairs at night now. I kind of miss the cuddles but I also appreciate the uninterrupted sleep. And the cats are fine downstairs.

DisabledDemon · 02/03/2025 18:13

Two cats and a small dog on the bed and we all sleep like logs - although it's a good thing that the retriever doesn't want to join us as well or DH and I would have to sleep on the floor!

JJMama · 02/03/2025 17:59

Yes my cat sleeps on my bed. He rarely wakes me up though. He’ll just curl up in the curve of my legs on top of the bed, or sometimes if it’s really cold he’ll snuggle under the duvet. I’m honoured he’s comfortable enough to do this. 😽

LadyNairne · 02/03/2025 16:55

No dogs upstairs or on any furniture. We’ve always trained them with this rule since they were puppies. I really feel disgusted if I have to sit on a sofa where a dogs bum has been. And I hate the idea of sleeping in a dog bed. It’s the combination of dog hair and saliva and bums and paws, that grosses me out, and where they’ve all been.

Ive only ever had larger breeds of dogs so maybe small lapdogs are different. Cats I’ve never owned so maybe they’re different too. I really love animals but they have their place in my world! (eg, the entire downstairs to roam at night, and at least 3 dog beds each to sleep on)