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34, when would you start TTC?

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Planejane34 · 01/03/2025 17:45

We're both 34 but have only been together for 7 months.. it just feels too early for anything. Don't live together. I own my home, partner doesn't atm however mine is a very small 1 bed flat, it would be a squeeze even for 2 people. I've only owned it for a year, so not really looking to sell right away.
Not sure what to do, I know I still have a few years really, but don't want to waste them. I know we both want to get married and so on, but we haven't said we want to marry each other.

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Playmobil4Eva · 01/03/2025 18:00

I’m 34 next month and we have been trying on and off since August. I’m not sure if age is a factor or not at this point!

Merryoldgoat · 01/03/2025 17:59

I wouldn’t have a baby without having lived together for a good while. I don’t think you really know a person until you’ve been together a few years.

Nicolathecat · 01/03/2025 17:59

I think it's totally up to you but if I were you my next step would be move in together and see how it goes for a few months. Make sure he's definitely the person you want to be with long term during that time and then if so TTC. If not then don't waste any time ending it and finding a more suitable partner who wants all the same things that you want.

nutbrownhare15 · 01/03/2025 17:58

I would definitely live together before TTC. I moved in with my husband after 6 months. But before any of that you need to both know that your future is together. It shouldn't be rushed. I conceived fairly easily at 36. It will of course be different for every woman. Is he aware of your preferred timescale?. Have you discussed a potential future ?

PrincessHoneysuckle · 01/03/2025 17:57

If it feels too early then it probably is.
I got pregnant at 34 after 3 months with dh.Very risky relationship wise but it didn't feel early iykwim.

Planejane34 · 01/03/2025 17:56

AzureJaguar · 01/03/2025 17:56

Well... do you love him enough to want to spend the rest of your life with him?

Yes, definitely

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AzureJaguar · 01/03/2025 17:56

Well... do you love him enough to want to spend the rest of your life with him?