My neighbour has been annoying me for months and months

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A lot of people who mention the village are people who want everyone around them to provide all sorts for free when demanded. Childcare, lifts, shopping, clothing, handyman services, general help. I knew someone like this who yapped on about the “village” - I ghosted her. Just a complete cheeky fucker taking anything from anyone. Another friend who wasn’t “mean” enough to ghost her lent her £3000 (lunatic). Well that never came back.

😂 no, I'm good. Have a lovely evening.

She reminds of the lady who lived 2 doors down from us and needed everything-rides, cash, misc food, etc. It was getting worse and she was starting to bother H instead of me as I’d started putting the brakes on.

Then one morning H got up at 430am and within seconds our phone was ringing. She’d obviously been watching for the light to come on. I heard H say hello Deb and I started yelling so loudly she heard it in her house. She didn’t get the headache pills or any future favors either.

I bet it felt good to finally tell her to FO!

(Deb and family lost their home not long after and I felt very sad for their 2 sons, what a humiliation to have all your worldly belongings on the road.)

Well then don’t skim read, because you make yourself look very silly!

Sorry did I touch a nerve?

ND people don't act like cf... I'm one and I'd never ask my neighbours for anything!

Bit insulting that...

@Neighbourissuedaily you have been so patient! I thought my neighbour was bad, she came charging into my house with her shoes on last week (we have a no shoes rule) I thought she’d stop in the living room but she didn’t

I’ve never had her in my house and she even commented how she’s never been in and proceeded to charge in! I was gobsmacked! 😂

I check the ring app every time I answer the door now xx

Yeah, I skimmed the op. You don't know how old I am, maybe you're lacking some skills yourself there. This thread has nothing to do with observation skills, you're being facetious there.

Whether I'm young, middle aged, or old my opinion stands. I would assume somebody who is requiring so much help would be on the older more frail side. I suppose it is easier to think that than somebody being such a CF. If you scroll up you'll see another poster who said in all her years, she had never heard of somebody like this. You'll also see another pp who would have expected this from an older more vulnerable person. It isn't normal behaviour for a healthy able 37 year old at all. Sorry I seem to have offended you so much. Have a lovely evening.

She MUST be mentally unwell. Who in their right mind behaves like that?!

Don't make excuses or give her reasons, don't engage with her at all, just say 'No'. Block her number, block her on social media. Keep saying 'No'. She's a user and a manipulator. Leave a note on her windscreen if she parks in your driveway 'Private parking, do not park here again'. Block your driveway if you can. Don't get into conversation with her at all. Get yourself a camera doorbell, then don't answer the door to her. Just ignore her, when she sees she's not getting any use from you she'll move on to pester someone else.

Reply to every request with. 'Sure that will be £x. Please pop the money through the letterbox'.

That’s so cheeky! CF!

“You don’t own him” 😂😂 Neither does she! I feel claustrophobic just reading this, poor you OP

OP clearly stated that she has no suspicions! He’s not interested!

A fool and their money is easily parted! Save your money.

WTF?

But would an 80 year old have a child at school? 🤔

Read the OP, clearly younger people can lack observation skills!

I’d put money on your dh and her having it on and deep within your subconscious… you have suspicions

“I am very sorry that you’re lonely and apparently have developed some sort of infatuation with me, but my wife and I consider that you have overstepped the boundaries of neighbourly nature and the rest of the village agrees with us. We will have no further contact with you”

Ask her what the fuck she does for the village, because as far as you can see, it's only trying to take advantage of anyone near her in it.

Then refuse every single request going forward.

Suggest finding a way to prevent her from accessing your drive

I would block her from texting or phoning you for a start.

I'd just reply 'then move to a village.' Then block her. Unless you're already in one, of course.

She sounds unhinged. :(

Enforce the boundaries, don't engage in anything she could construe as being negotiation. One way to do this is for you and your DH to shut her down immediately each time and be consistent:

"No, I'm sorry that doesn't work for us."

...if you have to speak to her. Hopefully, she'll tire of the repetitive rebuff and stop hassling you.

As it stands, it's not a police matter per se, but as she's already shown she has odd boundaries and it's becoming not unreasonably stressful, I'd have a word with someone from your neighbourhood police team if you can for advice. It may be that they can pay her a visit for a chat.

I would document everything you can remember and from this point moving forward. I'd also think about getting a Ring doorbell and a camera or two to cover yourself if her unpleasantness escalates further.

It sounds very much like she has a personality disorder. But that isn't your problem. Block her number. If she speaks to either of you literally ignore her completely and if she comes to your house and you open the door, literallly shut it in her face without speaking or acknowledging her. If she persists, send her a cease and desist letter and tell her you will approach the police for harassment. Who the hell needs all this when you just want to get on with your life

it is so ageist to think that only older people will ask for help.But typical of mumsnet where it is considered ok to say'i feel 70' when some 70 year olds might be running in a small marathon or at least doing their own garden.Why dont you try getting to know older people other than your nan or mum?I do appreciate you are all busy but ffs.