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To make myself some brekkie

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/03/2025 15:36

Did park run this morning then straight to do a food shop then home. Absolutely starving. Dd was baking some cookies for dh as a surprise so we told him to stay out of the kitchen for a bit. Made myself some brekkie, called through to dh to see if he wanted anything. Hit the roof cos l had already made my own. Told me l am rude. Said l am hungry after running and he said ffs it's all about you.

Hmm it really isn't!!

So made himself and sandwich and not spoken since!

Is he the dick or am l?!

Am off out tonight so don't give a flying one if he wants to ignore me!!

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Gwenhwyfar · 01/03/2025 16:24

Breakfast is really simply. Why can't everybody make their own?

NetZeroZealot · 01/03/2025 16:22

Obviously it depends what the breakfast was.
Bowl of cereal with milk - no big deal.
Fry up - yes you should have offered to make him some too.

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 01/03/2025 16:22

onetwothreefourfive11 · 01/03/2025 16:21

Thank god I'm single living in a peaceful home with my dc

Me too. Think OP's gone off on her night out already 😅

onetwothreefourfive11 · 01/03/2025 16:21

Thank god I'm single living in a peaceful home with my dc

BeSharpBee · 01/03/2025 16:21

As you were out for the majority of the morning I'd assume as a capable adult he'd already had his breakfast. If he wanted anything, even when banned he's more than capable of calling through and asking.

Moonnstars · 01/03/2025 16:21

Before closing the kitchen to him why didn't you check if he wanted to get anything first? Surely this is a logical question. 'DH, DD is doing a surprise in the kitchen. Is there anything you want to get before she begins?'
I also don't know why you ate first then asked him after. Surely if you came back did you not speak to him then? Didn't you say you were hungry from running so were going to get breakfast, at which point he could have said me too I haven't eaten yet, and if you wanted him banded from the kitchen you could have then got him something if needed.

Violashifts · 01/03/2025 16:20

I would be a little irked at the selfishness but nothing major. An eye roll and sarcastic ribbing. Would get over it pretty quickly.

HelenWheels · 01/03/2025 16:20

but why is he making a fuss
she offered?
if he was that bothered he could have asked her

biscuitsandbooks · 01/03/2025 16:18

HelenWheels · 01/03/2025 16:16

dd was making cookies for the dh, as a treat - thus he wasnt allowed in

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Right, but then if you're cooking breakfast, wouldn't you offer to make some for the banished adult? Instead of waiting until you'd already made yours?

ItGhoul · 01/03/2025 16:18

Completelyjo · 01/03/2025 16:11

Why was he not allowed in the kitchen but you were fine it use it and make breakfast?

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The OP explains that in her first post - OP’s daughter was making cookies in the kitchen and wanted them to be a surprise for the DH.

ItGhoul · 01/03/2025 16:16

What sort of breakfast? I mean, I wouldn’t expect someone else to make me a bowl of cereal or a slice of toast, when they were having one, but I’d be a bit pissed off if my partner didn’t offer me anything if he was actually cooking. Also, did you know he hadn’t eaten yet? Do you usually eat breakfast together?

I can’t bring myself to use the word ‘brekkie’.

HelenWheels · 01/03/2025 16:16

Completelyjo · 01/03/2025 16:11

Why was he not allowed in the kitchen but you were fine it use it and make breakfast?

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dd was making cookies for the dh, as a treat - thus he wasnt allowed in

Completelyjo · 01/03/2025 16:11

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/03/2025 15:41

Sorry she had gone out by this point - it was after he was allowed back in kitchen!

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Why was he not allowed in the kitchen but you were fine it use it and make breakfast?

biscuitsandbooks · 01/03/2025 16:10

I can't imagine telling my DH he wasn't allowed in his own kitchen, cooking myself some breakfast and then not even asking if he wanted any until afterwards.

I think you were mean, tbh. Your poor DD growing up around this nonsense.

HelenWheels · 01/03/2025 16:10

goodness you did offer him some?
is this out of character op? or a daily occurrence

biscuitsandbooks · 01/03/2025 16:09

cheseandme · 01/03/2025 15:46

Well I made myself a bacon sandwich this morning and it never occurred to me to offer husband one ! What a pathetic reason to throw a strop YANBU.

Presumably you hadn't banned your DH from the kitchen like OP did?

TomatoSandwiches · 01/03/2025 16:09

Oh no did the big man have to wait a bit for some food?! How dare you op.

Endofyear · 01/03/2025 16:07

If I was making breakfast for myself, I would usually ask DH if he wanted some. Isn't that normal?

Dolambslikemintsauce · 01/03/2025 16:07

Would he have ate the same? I use oat milk for my porridge so wouldn't offer to make dh a dairy version.. Haven't time usually!

Downtoearthandsinksthesun · 01/03/2025 16:05

He wasn't allowed in the kitchen. I honestly couldn't imagine not asking anyone who was in the house with me if they wanted anything when I was making my own. My husband would be the same. Did you eat what you had bought when you were shopping?

That said, the strop was uncalled for.

Do you usually make each other breakfast?

Weepixie · 01/03/2025 16:05

If I’d prevented someone coming into the kitchen even for a good reason I’d have made them breakfast even if I wasn’t having any.

But there was no need for the nastiness from your husband.

bunnypenny · 01/03/2025 16:03

Did he know the reason he wasn’t allowed in the kitchen was because of cookies? Perhaps he thought you were making him a surprise breakfast so was annoyed you hadn’t and had just made your own?

HopingForTheBest25 · 01/03/2025 15:59

I think a grown arse man can get himself some breakfast. I'm sure the kitchen wasn't occupied by dd the whole time OP was out!

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 01/03/2025 15:56

Charcoalpen · 01/03/2025 15:52

It’s two people who don’t really like one another and exchanges like this are probably just party of the daily tapestry of family life. Bit shit really

Yeah, i'd have cooked for everyone.

Charcoalpen · 01/03/2025 15:52

It’s two people who don’t really like one another and exchanges like this are probably just party of the daily tapestry of family life. Bit shit really