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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 2025-03-01T15:36:46+00:00

Did park run this morning then straight to do a food shop then home. Absolutely starving. Dd was baking some cookies for dh as a surprise so we told him to stay out of the kitchen for a bit. Made myself some brekkie, called through to dh to see if he wanted anything. Hit the roof cos l had already made my own. Told me l am rude. Said l am hungry after running and he said ffs it's all about you. Hmm it really isn't!! So made himself and sandwich and not spoken since! Is he the dick or am l?! Am off out tonight so don't give a flying one if he wants to ignore me!!

Devianinc · 02/03/2025 00:44

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/03/2025 15:41

Sorry she had gone out by this point - it was after he was allowed back in kitchen!

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If I was making myself breakfast I’d ask everyone if they’d care to join. Most people say so I don’t know why you didn’t ask your family first. It was a little rude and selfish. I’d never make myself breakfast and not ask who wanted some.

cheseandme · 02/03/2025 00:39

ilovepixie · 01/03/2025 18:45

Seriously! You will make yourself something without asking if anyone else wants one? Selfish and rude!

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It works ok in our household. We offer hot drinks but have different time schedules for food in the morning. Absolutely not selfish or rude ,just a different perspective!!

ForZanyAquaViewer · 02/03/2025 00:34

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/03/2025 18:51

Cos he didn't want what l was having

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So, you asked him if he wanted some X, he said no, you made yourself X and now he’s cross? Is that what happened? As it’s not entirely clear.

friendlycat · 02/03/2025 00:30

I couldn’t live like this.
So you made breakfast for yourself without asking what somebody else wanted. Then there’s sulking. Crickey. Great way to spend the weekend.

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 00:20

Charcoalpen · 01/03/2025 15:47

But she’ll no doubt be used to this kind of tension between her parents. Correct?

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Actually no, we are usually a calm and loving housrhold with a bit of friendly banter thrown in

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 00:01

HH4432 · 01/03/2025 19:02

Has he stopped being a sulky diva yet @Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead ?

Apparently not!!

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/03/2025 23:58

pictoosh · 01/03/2025 19:28

Why do people on here bitch about the terms other people use? Like brekkie?

Are they really so rigid and small (yet full of themselves) that they can't allow a stranger a minor difference without piping up to exert their needless opinion?

Lot of that on mumsnet. Annoying.

Yeah literally was typing in a hurry, brekkie slighter quicker to type than breakfast, would never say brekkie just typed it!

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/03/2025 23:55

LePetitMaman · 01/03/2025 19:18

Yeah this.

If I had watched the kid(s) whilst waiting for my DH to come back from a run by himself, in order to have breakfast together, then he told me to stay out of the kitchen, I'd have assumed he was making us both something. Not emerge with food for just himself, and adopt a Pikachu-shocked-face when asked what the hell. Especially if the same day staying home with the kid(s) when he went out for the night too.

These are two people who don't like each other. It's just normal if both of you haven't eaten, are hungry, that you make something for both. It's barely any more effort to making it for one.

All this "my god, I make myself a cup of tea the poor man child not capable of making his own" are missing the point. I can't imagine being in a relationship where everyone just thinks of themselves and acts shocked that they might just be courteous to their partner because it's just decent. We make a tea, or whatever, for both of us because it's just nice, not because either of us are too infantile to flick a kettle switch for ourselves.

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He hasn't made me a cup of tea for months - l always make him one - plus every evening meal and lunch at the weekends.

He knew the surprise was cookies because l tipped him off about it.

He was offered breakfast but knew l was v hungry so yes l did put my needs first for once. And yes he looked after our 13 year old - which l do every week whwn he goes to his sports club once a week although tbf she doesn't really need looking after.

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Alalalala · 01/03/2025 23:06

He’s an idiot.

healthybychristmas · 01/03/2025 23:03

So he was at home while you went on a park run and went and did the supermarket shop. You then made your own breakfast and he didn't want what you had. Then he went mad because you didn't make him what he wanted? Is he disabled in someway? What was he doing all morning and why does he think you should cook his breakfast?

pictoosh · 01/03/2025 20:50

It's a chat forum, that's all.
Informal.

Talonz · 01/03/2025 20:26

pictoosh · 01/03/2025 19:28

Why do people on here bitch about the terms other people use? Like brekkie?

Are they really so rigid and small (yet full of themselves) that they can't allow a stranger a minor difference without piping up to exert their needless opinion?

Lot of that on mumsnet. Annoying.

What is wrong with using our very good English language? We spend billions of pounds a year educating people, mostly students, on researching and using the English language in so many ways. The richness of Shakespeare, to the Bronte Sisters, to Michael Ondaatje, to statutes of Parliament even.

Why denigrate English to become a lazy language such as:

Brekkie
Crimbo
Hubby
Holibobs
Cuz

It is not a minor difference. It is slovenly, lazy and checking-out language.

You can race to the bottom if you wish. I am not going to do that.

pictoosh · 01/03/2025 19:28

Why do people on here bitch about the terms other people use? Like brekkie?

Are they really so rigid and small (yet full of themselves) that they can't allow a stranger a minor difference without piping up to exert their needless opinion?

Lot of that on mumsnet. Annoying.

LePetitMaman · 01/03/2025 19:18

CoastalCalm · 01/03/2025 17:44

I think he may have thought the surprise was breakfast rather than cookies

Yeah this.

If I had watched the kid(s) whilst waiting for my DH to come back from a run by himself, in order to have breakfast together, then he told me to stay out of the kitchen, I'd have assumed he was making us both something. Not emerge with food for just himself, and adopt a Pikachu-shocked-face when asked what the hell. Especially if the same day staying home with the kid(s) when he went out for the night too.

These are two people who don't like each other. It's just normal if both of you haven't eaten, are hungry, that you make something for both. It's barely any more effort to making it for one.

All this "my god, I make myself a cup of tea the poor man child not capable of making his own" are missing the point. I can't imagine being in a relationship where everyone just thinks of themselves and acts shocked that they might just be courteous to their partner because it's just decent. We make a tea, or whatever, for both of us because it's just nice, not because either of us are too infantile to flick a kettle switch for ourselves.

Sidebeforeself · 01/03/2025 19:14

This is really making me want some breakfast! It’s my favourite meal of the day . But please dont spoil it for me by calling it brekkie!

LionME · 01/03/2025 19:12

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/03/2025 18:51

Cos he didn't want what l was having

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So he was expecting you to wait on him and prepare him breakfast knowing fully well you didn’t have the same
Did he expect you to be his maid and is in a strop because you didn’t? 😳😳

MyLimeGuide · 01/03/2025 19:10

He's a dick

HH4432 · 01/03/2025 19:02

Has he stopped being a sulky diva yet @Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead ?

RickiRaccoon · 01/03/2025 19:00

For me it depends on circumstances and reasoning. I don't usually make my DH breakfast if he's still in bed because I don't want to interrupt his lie-in and breakfast food doesn't keep well, except pancakes. If he was up, I'd probably go and ask (not shout at him in another room because he might not hear) unless I assumed he'd had it because of how late it was in the morning. It's not an issue we'd get worked up about so I doasssume there's underlying tensions here.

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/03/2025 18:57

Downtoearthandsinksthesun · 01/03/2025 18:41

Did the food you bought while food shopping make up your breakfast OP?

No

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/03/2025 18:51

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 01/03/2025 15:41

@Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead why didnt you make some breakfast for him though when you made your own, especially if he was not allowed in the kitchen?

Cos he didn't want what l was having

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ilovepixie · 01/03/2025 18:45

cheseandme · 01/03/2025 15:46

Well I made myself a bacon sandwich this morning and it never occurred to me to offer husband one ! What a pathetic reason to throw a strop YANBU.

Seriously! You will make yourself something without asking if anyone else wants one? Selfish and rude!

Downtoearthandsinksthesun · 01/03/2025 18:41

Did the food you bought while food shopping make up your breakfast OP?

BallerinaRadio · 01/03/2025 18:35

It shouldn't be a big deal but I'm a bit confused as to why you waited until you'd had your breakfast before offering him something. Surely you'd offer as you're making it to save yourself making two meals

Dillydollydingdong · 01/03/2025 18:27

Why hadn't he made himself some breakfast while you were out, if he was hungry?