To make myself some brekkie

If you take some Crayola and switch "I" with "he" it's the same. Does that help with the comprehension?

It's nothing to do with male or female.

Is this actually a joke? 😂

Gosh. What's the weather like in Stepford today?

Honestly, what an overreaction on the part of your DH.

Sure, it's always nice to ask, but shit sometimes gets overlooked/forgotten. A simple "ooh, why don't you just sort yerself out, eh?' would have sufficed. He didn't need to make it such a big issue-especially if it's just cereal/toast that takes mere minutes to make.

Might have known clicking on the thread that the smug/superior posters would crawl their way out of the woodwork to prance around, acting like they've never, ever, in a million years, overlooked such a thing and would never dream of it. No matter how tired/hungry/busy they are-they will always, and I mean, always find a way to ask their partner if they want something. Always.

Shit happens and if he blows up like this over nothing-he's a pathetic wet flannel and if you'd feel/react the same over something you can fix in minutes-you're also a pathetic wet flannel. HTH.

Goodness me. How dramatic. I want toast. He wants cereal. I pour the cereal while I'm waiting for my toast.

I want poached eggs. He wants porridge. You just bob them along at the same time.

"Famished" OP, barely the strength to carry on, what with her going out for a run while he watched the kids, then telling him he can't come in the kitchen the minute she gets back.

I would have waited for my spouse to return for a run before having breakfast, so we could have it together. I'd have been hungry, sure. But it's just courtesy and wanting to do that most basic human interaction of sharing meal time with the person I claim to love. I can't imagine being with someone so selfish that they went off to their own hobby with me watching the children so they could do so, returned to me waiting to enjoy our food together, told me not to use the kitchen, then came out stuffing their face, with the attitude "what? can't you even feed yourself?"

Course I can. This isn't about being an infantile little lady who can't make my own food. It's about a spouse taking the piss then reversing it onto me as the problem.

I think this shows how different the dynamics are in different relationships, because DP wouldn’t dream of making himself anything without asking if I wanted some, and vice versa. It would be like me making a cuppa and not offering him one, would never happen in this house!

You didn’t do anything wrong OP. Your husband and a lot of people on this thread are being d1cks

I don't think it's necessarily "bad manners" to make food for yourself, particularly if the others want something different from what you're making. I know plenty of people (mostly male) who will just sit hungry and wait for the woman to tend to them, rather than make the effort themselves. And they definitely wouldn't think of offering to do it for the whole family. Why is that not considered "bad manners"?

I'm astonished that people think op was unreasonable to make her own meal first. He didn't want what she was having so if she made his first she'd be absolutely famished waiting even longer for hers ... after park run and family food shop whilst he'd been sitting on his arse. Hard week at work ... bollocks. I have plenty of hard weeks at work. It doesn't make me incapable of cooking in the evenings and weekends.

I can’t believe the number of people who are giving the OP a hard time over this. Imagine the opposite:

“this morning DH went out running and came back from doing the food shop. He then asked me if I wanted some breakfast and I said no. AIBU to be furious that he made himself breakfast when he knew I didn’t want any? He should have not had any either IMO.

Because ultimately that’s what it comes down to.

He’s pathetic.

It’s bad form to bring up other posts on a thread.

Clearly you’re just spoiling for a fight.

What is the need of this?

Seems a bit intimidating, like you're trying to corner the OP.
Why? To win an argument about her household breakfast arrangements?

Really? 🤔

Classic. Man isn’t centre of attention for one day and he starts getting moody and saying “everything’s bout YOU now.”

Have you asked him this..?

Soujds to me like he doesn’t like that you’ve been out in the morning and is throwing the dummy out the pram because you haven’t rushed to tend to him the second you return. Everything’s about YOU. You left him to fend for himself, how could you

@pictoosh I was hardly bitching. Anyway , now somebody has said munch , so I’ll have to go lie down with a wet towel over my eyes!

I believe the reason he couldn’t go into the kitchen was because his daughter wanted to surprise him with a batch of cookies.
A bit of a waste of time in her part by the looks of things.

How very 1950s of you.