To think kids who have ‘immature parents’ can’t wait to get away from them?

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ChillaxingStuart · 01/03/2025 14:14

i had an aggressive, abusive, alcoholic mother and an enabler father. I was an only child and had absorb the shitshow on my own

Thry were both immature but my mum had a more ‘outgoing’ manner and my dad just shy and passive. They were both immature and lacked confidence but this manifested in different ways.

As a young child of 5 I can remember crying to my mum that I wanted to live with a family friend and at 22 in uni I can remember saying to a friend that I didn’t want to end up like my parents as imo they lived a pitiable, miserable life.

AIBU to think there’s nothing more difficult for kids than living with immature parents - and the kids then want to make their exit sharpish!!

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ChaoticGremlin · 01/03/2025 15:09

My mum was extremely immature and still is - my mum and dad had a massive age gap (30 years) and it was more like she was my sister than parent.

In her defence she had undiagnosed autism.

But she would cause arguments, lie, try and get my in trouble with my dad, steal so forth and so on.

From your OP it sounds like your mum was an alcoholic which is obviously understandable why you wanted to get away - she probably showed some immaturity too because of it.

Blueberry911 · 01/03/2025 15:02

Please don't confuse immaturity with alcoholism.

Reugny · 01/03/2025 14:49

my mum was immature because she had sudden often aggressive mood swings - she was occasionally violent

Sounds like an alcoholic I'm no longer in contact with rather than immaturity.

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ChillaxingStuart · 01/03/2025 14:47

GoodToBeHome · 01/03/2025 14:43

I think the fact your mum was an aggressive alcoholic probably didn't help, I can't get from your post why you considered your parents immature though?

Ok my mum was immature because she had sudden often aggressive mood swings - she was occasionally violent

She also seemed more worried about what other people thought etc than the welfare of her own family

also couldn’t deal straightforwardly with difficult situations - went ‘round the houses’ iyswim - making it more difficult in long run

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GoodToBeHome · 01/03/2025 14:43

I think the fact your mum was an aggressive alcoholic probably didn't help, I can't get from your post why you considered your parents immature though?

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