Woken up by adult kids AGAIN.... AIBU

@rubberduck68

Do you happen to have any cheques that need cancelling?

NO!

Because it's been discussed with the OP's son and resolved!!

Your house, your rules. Why don't they go back to her place at 3am

If she is coming to your house independently of him… I.e they haven’t been out together, then that is taking the piss. If they have been out together and she is coming home with him that’s a bit more understanding.

It sounds to me like your son might be scared of her. I also have to ask what’s going on in her home life that she feels she can treat your house like a dosshouse.

I've had (paying) guests stay, come back all hours and creep up to their room very quietly, never set a curfew as never needed to. Being quiet at 3am.....basic manners and common sense! Do you think she is unaware of how loud she is being?

Try reading all the OP's posts before adding yours maybe ?🤔🙄

You’re not unreasonable.

Your son and the girlfriend are though.

If your son does not want a curfew and he wants to invite guest over at anytime day or night - he needs to get his own place.

Letting them get too comfortable and allowing them to do whatever they want will mean they become long term annoyances in your house instead of short term polite house guests.

The cheek of her calling a meeting to confront you about how you run your house - id let her know she isn’t to do such things again and if she’s so concerned about what you think of her then perhaps she should respect your boundaries and your home. One day should her relationship with your son pan out and they have a home of their own I’m sure they won’t want you rocking up at any hour uninvited and bring disrespectful towards them in their home. Perhaps ask her how she would like you to respect their home ?

Id be telling her that if she’s getting off work after a time you’re comfortable with her coming around at that she needs to go home.

Tine for very strict boundaries with consequences.

So glad you finally have been able to sleep all night x

Fuck that for a game of soldiers she would of been told to piss off there and then I can't believe she has the audacity to demand a meeting in someone else's home , your son needs to throw this one back she is an entitled nightmare !!

I'm glad you've had the chat with your son. Fingers crossed that's the end of it.

I cannot believe the two of them summoning you to a meeting so the girlfriend could examine your behaviour towards her. The absolute Audacity.

"Not very understanding" 😂😂😂WTAF.

I get up at 5am to go to work. I am as quiet as a mouse so as to not to disturb dd3 - and that's in my own house! Entitled much!

It's your house, it should be your rules. If they are disrespectful they need to find somewhere else to live.

I applaud you. It would be mine also should the need arise. I think boundaries have to be set.

Um...

😂

It's not the first time it's been brought up they know

So the dad gets rent money for his massive house and you get none? Your adult kid needs a job and start paying his way now. My 14 yo set up his own business and has his own money. We don’t charge rent as he’s still in full time education but he’s been told once out of full time ed there is rent to pay or move out.

You did very well in your chat with him but you have to be careful that he doesn't slide back into old habits.

No doubt the girlfriend's flatmates will start to get fed up of the two of them banging around their house at 3 am and try to push them back onto you. Don't allow it to happen.

When I was in my late teens I had a boyfriend who lived with his Aunt and Unce. He worked backshift most days and didn’t get home till 10:30/11pm. I visited him late at night and we would always be really careful not to make a noise and he would run me home at 2/3am (I never stayed the night, didn’t think it was appropriate as they had young children in the house). He would sometimes come to mine, again we were very quiet.
One more conversation with them warning them that unless they can keep quiet and avoid waking everyone in the early hours, you will be putting at end to her coming over after 10/11pm

They’re both taking the piss. Tell your son his gf isn’t welcome anymore and if he goes into a strop tell him he can clear off as well.

I wonder if the GF housemates have been encouraging her to stay out when she goes out for much the same reason OP doesn’t want her staying?

I'm in the you don't like my rules or think you don't have to follow them, get steppin to your new place corner.

I think both your son and his GF are really disrespectful to you. I hope that changes with you last talk but you're going to have to be prepared to kick her out when she bops on in at 3 am and likely him too. They're entitled and nervy and the only thing that helps with that is consequences.

When your son says you don't like her, give him some straight talk. Why would you like her when she is rude and disrespectful and acts like your house is hers and disrupts your sleep most nights?