Woken up by adult kids AGAIN.... AIBU

I wonder how they will behave around the Dad? Bet you can't wait for summer!!! Once they stay with him do not weaken if he says it is not working out!!!

CALLED TO A MEETING IN YOUR OWN HOME?! No fkin way, they are a pair of cfs. Tell them both that she is no longer welcome overnight (if at all) and if they don’t like it, your son can move out right now and stand on his own two feet, seeing as he wants to be considered an adult.

The absolute cheek and entitlement of some young people, put your foot down right now!

Well, if she's at all worried about you not liking her, she's doing nothing with her behaviour and attitude to rectify that situation, is she?

You don't have to like her. She's going out with your son, not you. However, if she's wishing to impose on your hospitality, then both your son and she need to ensure you are not suffering detriment by her presence.

As much as anything, you don't have a son's girlfriend problem, you have a son problem. He needs to grow a pair and stand firm and enforce your entirely reasonable requirements for her enjoying your hospitality in your house. She doesn't even fucking live there, or contribute to the household (positively) in any bloody way! Who the HELL does she think she is?!

Called a meeting?!

Is there any way they can come in late but quietly? Have they not learned to tip-toe? Are they coming home drunk & noisy, making sandwiches etc?

Your son is behaving like an entitled little shit. I would be saying absolutely no sleepovers for a month this time and if they do it again then no sleepovers ever! I would absolutely lose my shit if my son did this to me.

Wow, the cheek of her! Especially as she lives near to you anyway! Stand your ground and if she doesn't like it then she knows what she can do!

When she is working, she needs to go home to her own place, not yours. Also, never ever attend a 'house meeting' that she has called! The sheer cheek of it is off the charts.

Do you think that she will be doing this when your children move in with their dad?

We live in a bungalow, my room is next to the kitchen. My kids don’t wake me up when they come home drunk! It’s not that difficult!

Shes being disrespectful, even your DS said not to come round but she did it anyway. Rude and entitled.

Put a chain on the door and use it after 11pm.
Also if she's waking you up as she gets out of an Uber, she's probably waking your neighbours up too.

This is the west. They're adults. Sex before marriage is fine.

You're out by a few decades, there. It wouldn't have been seen as reasonable even in the 80s.

I suspect that she is a spoiled child in her own home, which for some unaccountable reason she can continue in your home. But you're not her mum!

I do also suspect your son is a spoiled brat however (sorry). Either that or he's being influenced by her over entitled influence.

I'm just floored by the assumption that she thinks that she can come into a house that she doesn't live in and doesn't contribute to and wake up and annoy the person who owns it/pays all the bills. Fcuking nerve of her! And he isn't a lot better.

She's got her own place! I thought she would be living with parents who wouldn't allow him to stay, or lived a long way away. So cheeky. Tell them if they want to stay together overnight in future he needs to stay at her place. As for her going out with her mates and coming back to your place to make food, that's really awful, OP. You're not being unreasonable at all.

I know what you mean about it being more difficult as a single parent. I totally agree - I don't think they'd try it on so often if there were two of you. As it is, it's those two against one of you.

Because its not 1945.

I don't think adult children should have a curfew but they should be respectful and waking someone up by coming home in the early hours making enough noise to wake up people isn't acceptable.

Why can't your son get a place of his own?

If she's going to give attitude on your very reasonable requests then she can return the key and not stay over ever again

Why let her stay in the first place? They are not married.

This is incredible, your son’s girlfriend is completely disrespecting you, I can believe her nerve.

No, to a house meeting, wtf no.

She doesn’t have to stay over does she, he can stay at hers. Done.

No need to apologise for "having a right old moan", it's justified!

The sheer nerve of them!

1. Person who pays the bills makes the rules.

2. If they don't like it, leave now.

3. Waking anyone up at 2.30/3.30am is always inappropriate. This rule even applies in a hotel, where you're paying for a room.

4. IF she stays over as a GUEST, it is blindingly obvious she should creep silently upstairs and go to bed. If they can't see that, they're A - massively entitled and B- very very rude.

She can stay over 3 times a week (or however times YOU decide, it being your house!) only if she's already there for the evening. Otherwise, she goes home. I wouldn't want her turning up at 11pm either!

If they don't like it and want to be more 'grown up', they can do grown up things like move out and pay bills and council tax.

Cheeky sods!! I have stumbled in at 3am before waking up my boyfriend’s parents, no doubt, but I was at least out with him, and apologetic about it the next morning. And it would only have happened once or twice.

kids these days!