Woken up by adult kids AGAIN.... AIBU

Umm really? Do normal people think that?

My adult son still lives at home (he and his sister who is at Uni are moving in with their dad in the summer) but I just want to check if IABU. He and his GF are both early twenties, and she does stay over sometimes, which I am fine with. I have made the house rules that it's no more than three nights a week, but she's starting working at a nightclub and coming back at 3.00 am and waking me and my dog up. I have asked them both to stop, in fact I got them both up really early the last time they did it and sent her home. She did it again this week and I talked to her about it and she apologised. Last night, 2.30 am out she gets from an Uber and they are banging about downstairs! I spoke to my son who apologised. I've just asked him to send her home now, and he said I am "not very understanding." I feel awkward and uncomfortable in my own bloody home. Historically whenever I have put a boundary down with these two I am called to a meeting by them a few days later where she claims I don't like her, so I've cut that off with him today and said I won't be doing that, it's her behaviour I don't like. My son't argument is that he shouldn't have a curfew as an adult which I agree with, but I made the point that she doesn't live here! AIBU? I would never have dared behave like his in my parent's home at any age!

I’d love my son to be around to wake me up in the night. He used to come and tell me about his nights out and I was happy to listen to them.

How you going to feel OP in a couple of months?

GF is probably temporary anyway, either he or she will push on from the relationship but you’ve let her cause a rift.

I’d love my son to be around to wake me up in the night. He used to come and tell me about his nights out and I was happy to listen to them.

How you going to feel OP in a couple of months?

GF is probably temporary anyway, either he or she will push on from the relationship but you’ve let her cause a rift.

I’d love my son to be around to wake me up in the night. He used to come and tell me about his nights out and I was happy to listen to them.

How you going to feel OP in a couple of months?

GF is probably temporary anyway, either he or she will push on from the relationship but you’ve let her cause a rift.

I’d love my son to be around to wake me up in the night. He used to come and tell me about his nights out and I was happy to listen to them.

How you going to feel OP in a couple of months?

GF is probably temporary anyway, either he or she will push on from the relationship but you’ve let her cause a rift.

I’m not sure, I see what you’re saying but if you stay at some B&B’s or as a guest in somebody else’s house they can tell you they will be locking the door at a certain time so they can go to bed, thereby giving you a curfew as an adult. He’s old enough to be treated as an adult but it’s still his mum’s house. His gf isn’t even related to OP and she’s the one arriving at silly o’clock. Perfectly acceptable to have imposed a curfew.

He's right, of course. As an adult , nobody can impose conditions like a curfew on him. That's what being an adult is about. Being responsible for your own life.

He absolutely has the right to move out of your house whenever he chooses to and come back to his new home at whatever time he likes.

Really !!What because I didn't read 400 odd comments and it has all been resolved.Or that my life is so crap at the minute that adult kids coming in late is the least of my worries.

My adult son still lives at home (he and his sister who is at Uni are moving in with their dad in the summer) but I just want to check if IABU. He and his GF are both early twenties, and she does stay over sometimes, which I am fine with. I have made the house rules that it's no more than three nights a week, but she's starting working at a nightclub and coming back at 3.00 am and waking me and my dog up. I have asked them both to stop, in fact I got them both up really early the last time they did it and sent her home. She did it again this week and I talked to her about it and she apologised. Last night, 2.30 am out she gets from an Uber and they are banging about downstairs! I spoke to my son who apologised. I've just asked him to send her home now, and he said I am "not very understanding." I feel awkward and uncomfortable in my own bloody home. Historically whenever I have put a boundary down with these two I am called to a meeting by them a few days later where she claims I don't like her, so I've cut that off with him today and said I won't be doing that, it's her behaviour I don't like. My son't argument is that he shouldn't have a curfew as an adult which I agree with, but I made the point that she doesn't live here! AIBU? I would never have dared behave like his in my parent's home at any age!

Really !!What because I didn't read 400 odd comments and it has all been resolved.Or that my life is so crap at the minute that adult kids coming in late is the least of my worries.

Gosh I wonder if the OP has posted any updates or maybe even a resolution with her son at all? I wonder did her son present her with chocolates for international womens day? We'll never know I guess.

I am a bit worried that if I upset the GF I will lose my son. You hear of that happening, don't you? I also want some decent sleep though and don't want to feel I have to choose between the two.

Nice misogyny referring to women as bitches