To break up with him if he stays?

I'd be jealous but I wouldn't blame him.

If you like him why resent him having another week?

I'm with you, although I know he has every right to do this it would feel very odd. It would be like going on a romantic date with someone and instead of him coming home with you, he says I'm going to carry on drinking and go on to a few more bars.

I would be upset about this, and not because of envy - it's about him not acting like you're a couple, and changing your romantic holiday to something else, where he's prioritising his own enjoyment over not ditching you and completing the journey together. I'd be just as unhappy to have the opposite situation, where he goes home and I stay for another week, so it's not because of jealousy.

I couldn't get worked up about it. I don't really understand the issue. You're going back to your own lives. He can take you to the airport , give you a kiss, and send you on your way. It might be good for your relationship. He'll see how much he misses your company once you're gone.

I could obviously understand if you had shared kids or finances. But you don't do why would it be an issue for him to extend his holiday? In a few years you might be in a similar position. How would you feel if your partner gave you the ultimatum of come home with me or be dumped.

It was probably a throwaway comment but maybe think if this relationship is for you if you are so quick to end it.

Exactly this.

I think you should break up with him either way tbh. Your reaction here is strange.

You're being very dramatic about this.

Depends on the type of relationship you have. How long have you been together? Do you live together?

If we lived together I’d find it more annoying than if we didn’t.

If you don’t, I’d be questioning how much of a relationship this really is.

I don’t think he’s unreasonable though. He can (and that ‘can’ includes he doesn’t feel the need to consider whether you can’t, for some reason).

I think maybe you should break up with him. It's not nice to be with someone so jealous that they can't be happy for you if you get to do something nice. You are going back to your kids and work so it's not even like you need anything from him when you get back to the UK. You just want him to be there because you have to and he shouldn't get to enjoy something you can't.

This is good advice.

I’d be seriously pissed of if my partner kicked off about me stopping an extra week for no other reason than they couldn’t

Why don't you see how it all pans out OP. If he stays, see how you feel when you're home and the dust has settled?

You can't help how you feel. I'd feel a bit abandoned by a romantic partner. If it was a friend I wouldn't be arsed.

I agree with @LucyMonth as well.

I can imagine feeling jealous...but not strongly enough to put my foot down and make a scene about it.
How selfy.

This

Think I agree with this.

Sounds quite oppressive on your part OP.

Reverse this…

”I have the opportunity to stay in Dubai for an extra week but my partner says he’ll break up with me if I stay”.

People would say controlling, manipulative, selfish.

I think it’s fine to (internally) pout and feel jealous, but that’s it.

Did he mean it? It’s the kind of thing I might say, having had a lovely holiday “yeah, think I’ll stay here a bit longer.”

Either way your reaction is OTT. It’s perfectly understandable that you ought be a bit miffed about it, but to actually break up with him or to threaten to is quite manipulative. Also, if you’re going to break up with him over something like this you clearly weren’t very committed to him in the first place and should probably end the relationship anyway.

Devastated??!!!!!!
Hyperbole for breakfast.
Devastated is for death, serious unplanned events, the destruction of your life and that os all you know due to war, Act of God or a mistake you've made that impacts badly on others.
Your DP spending an extra week in Dubai after a 'grossly romantic' (whayever that means) time together is just , meh

Id be miffed about it too. Travelling home alone after all the romamce would leave me cold.

Curious what grossly romantic means..

This wouldn't have bothered me while DH and I were dating and it wouldn't bother me now, but then I find that the romantic part of trips pretty much ends on arrival at the airport. And while I love traveling with DH I can absolutely see myself wanting to take advantage of a gap in my schedule and already being there to have a week away by myself, and I wouldn't appreciate a partner who begruged me that only because they couldn't join.

You say your lives aren't compatible, but how? Is he often not available for you or difficult about fitting into your less flexible schedule? Do you worry about him not wanting to re-start family life with you and your DC?

Breaking up with him if he stays seems extreme. Why does it bother you so much? Are you envious of his freedom?

Be careful he’s not the one breaking up with you depending on how you choose to react if he does stay on an extra week.

I think it depends on the relationship you have and the people you are.

If my partner did that it would be completely out of character and I would feel uncomfortable by the sudden personality shift and change in our relationship more than anything.

Is youe partner is quite spontaneous/a free spirit who appreciates travelling alone?